I’ve been with my husband for almost 4 years now, excuse me for a minute while I dwell on that. It still hasn’t really hit me, time isn’t something I pay much attention to anymore… and I think the longer you’ve been with someone the more apt you’re able to read their tells. His big thing is silence, I can tell he needs me to just sit with him while he internally works things out. He says he isn’t thinking about anything when I ask, but you can see the flash of light behind his eyes and know that the gears are turning. There are people though that have been together for what seems a life time and aren’t able to read their partners. Communication is key, but it’s being open to welcome that communication that is the more important thing. It doesn’t matter if I’m willing to pour my heart out to my guy, he needs to be ready to take it all in, if he’s not than my cries are falling on deaf ears.

I wonder why humans aren’t more like other species. Cows lay down when it’s going to rain, a dog will put it’s head on your lap if you’re feeling depressed, and cats will always mew if they can tell something is off. Maybe people are all too caught up in themselves to notice changes in other’s behavior, to tell that we’re going through rough patches. Most people are egotistical and self involved, I suppose domestic animals rely on us to thrive and that’s why they’re so able to read us. It seems the more our species has evolved the less we depend on other people to help us. There are a lot of people out there that think they can do everything themselves, and while they may be able to accomplish a whole shitload of stuff it’s still pretty fricken impossible to give yourself a hug.