Sexuality Happens

This is my favorite HNT picture, because I love fishnets, I love my legs, and it’s actually from a zombie pub crawl on Easter (in honor of the biggest zombie of them all; JC), so it’s just a fun memory, and a fun picture.

With this post, I’d also like to post some of my favorite memories and accomplishments (sexuality related of course) from 2007. I’ll be in Colorado at my mother’s house for the New Year, so I’m not sure I’ll have the chance to do an official 2007 round up, so I’ll do some of it now.

In no particular order (become memories seldom are):

*Making out in the bathroom at Sister’s (the lesbian bar) with another roller derby girl and realizing that yes, I am in fact 100% queer, and that no, it had NOTHING to do with college, thank you very much, kthnxby (to be followed up with getting fingered and fingering her on her couch the next night while watching Fear and Loathing in Las Vegas in a room full of people who never knew). The next night, having my first breast orgasm.

*Hooking up with a really freaking awesome person (I met them as a lesbian, they now identify as a trans guy) at Dinah Shore for the event; realizing so many things about myself, and having what (at that point), was the best sex of my life. Having hot balcony sex. Beginning to view myself more and more as a Femme. Enjoying any type of penetration for the first time. Having my first non-clitoral orgasm. Being able to sleep through the night for the first time while there was someone else in my bed. Feeling really at home with a large group of queer people. Winning a signed Kathy Griffin DVD. Having someone appreciate my quirks instead of ridicule me for them.

*Being in my first true and legit long term relationship. Loving someone who actually loved me back. Exchanging disgustingly cute text messages/myspace messages/emails/facebook messages/phone messages/you name it that I always hated before. Wanting someone I cared about to call. Feeling cared for. Being in a healthy relationship with someone who wasn’t crazy or an asshole. Having the best and hottest sex of my life. Doing everything sexually that I wanted to do; getting to experiment completely with pretty much anything that came to mind. Being with someone with whom I was so incredibly sexually compatible. Ejaculating for the first time. Falling asleep in someone’s arms. Taking showers together. Making up after our occasional arguments. Loving someone so much that it hurt sometime. And then breaking up and the hurt that followed, but realizing that it was going to be ok, and that I was going to make it.

*Starting and building up my own sex blog; learning to use HTML. Using what I learned at work (hotmoviesforher.com) to make my blog even better. Choosing the right affiliate programs to have. Building the best blog I could make. Updating it more and more often. Discovering other people’s blogs, reading them, commenting on them, and meeting some of the smartest, funniest, most caring, and all around most interesting people who write some of the awesomest blogs on the internet. Making it a big part of my life. Growing and learning from my blog.

*Getting the job EdenFantasys.com and getting to expand and explore and work on creating an entire community. Educating my new boss about sex and gender and having him actually care and take off and do learning on his own. Having fabulous and interesting co-workers. Working in a field that many academics don’t see as valid, and working every day to continue to make it so.

*Getting my first piece of erotica selected for publication. It will be in Wetter, edited by Nicole Foster, published by Alyson Books, out in May 2008. Keep an eye out for it (under my real name). The specific piece is entitled The Parking Garage

*Finishing another full year of classes in my grad school human sexuality education program. I’ll have my master’s in summer 2008, and be done with the classes for my doctorate summer 2009, and “just” need to do my dissertation.

*Coming out as “pansexual.” Finally putting a word to my orientation.

*Being in a successful non-monogamous relationship. Well, at least successful from my end. My partner and his other partner wound up not staying together, but it worked for me as far as not being jealous and panicky and things I thought I might be.

*Reviewing books and toys and movies and all sorts of exciting things for a variety of companies, publishers and people.

*Learning that I enjoyed being spanked.

*Learning that I’m attracted to people of all genders, sexes and orientations, rather than being only within the binary.

*Meeting (in real life and online) some really interesting people, such as Suzanne Westenhoefer, Katherine Moenning, Leisha Hailey, Bitch (formerly from Bitch and Animal), Renee O’Connor, Audacia Ray, Jamye Waxman, David Hall, Candida Royalle, Sasha Grey, Belladonna, Mia Rose, Ava Rose, Dex Hardlove, Sinclair Sexsmith, Sarah Katherine Lewis, etc.

I’m sure I will think for more, but for now these have been some of my favorite thing…