Comments on: Sexual Assault; My Story. http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/ Thu, 29 Jul 2010 20:59:16 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Sexuality Happens » April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-5849 Sexuality Happens » April is Sexual Assault Awareness Month Sun, 26 Apr 2009 06:06:54 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-5849 [...] are my posts in the sexual assault category, and here is the story of my sexual assault.  Don’t feel the need to read any of them, but sometimes reading about others stories, and [...] [...] are my posts in the sexual assault category, and here is the story of my sexual assault.  Don’t feel the need to read any of them, but sometimes reading about others stories, and [...]

]]> By: Sexuality Happens » Ghost from my past http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-4978 Sexuality Happens » Ghost from my past Wed, 11 Mar 2009 06:08:03 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-4978 [...] The other day, I’d left AIM on.  I got an IM from someone whose screen name I didn’t recognize, so I began the conversation. Turns out it was him.  The guy that sexually assaulted me.  Turns out he lives in Denver now…actually, about five minutes away from me.  Don’t know what I’m talking about? Read “Sexual Assault, My Story.” [...] [...] The other day, I’d left AIM on.  I got an IM from someone whose screen name I didn’t recognize, so I began the conversation. Turns out it was him.  The guy that sexually assaulted me.  Turns out he lives in Denver now…actually, about five minutes away from me.  Don’t know what I’m talking about? Read “Sexual Assault, My Story.” [...]

]]> By: Fannie http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1138 Fannie Wed, 16 Apr 2008 19:40:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1138 Thank you for sharing this very difficult story. I had someone attempt to rape me once in a similar way, and I escaped only through luck. My heart goes out to you. That manipulative asshat deserves prison (at the very least) for the multiple ways he violated and took advantage of you. Thank you for sharing this very difficult story. I had someone attempt to rape me once in a similar way, and I escaped only through luck. My heart goes out to you. That manipulative asshat deserves prison (at the very least) for the multiple ways he violated and took advantage of you.

]]> By: whatsername http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1131 whatsername Wed, 16 Apr 2008 05:46:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1131 Thank you for sharing this Ess. I am not a survivor, but I think I have an inkling of how such experiences can fuck us up. Every story digs into my soul. :\ Thank you for sharing this Ess. I am not a survivor, but I think I have an inkling of how such experiences can fuck us up. Every story digs into my soul. :\

]]> By: Curvaceous Dee http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1127 Curvaceous Dee Tue, 15 Apr 2008 21:03:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1127 *hugs hard* Thank you for sharing this, hon. I don't have the words for how much.<br/><br/>xx Dee *hugs hard* Thank you for sharing this, hon. I don’t have the words for how much.

xx Dee

]]> By: MarcelloNYC http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1126 MarcelloNYC Tue, 15 Apr 2008 16:36:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1126 "HE made me do it, HE made me feel like crap for a long time, HE fucked up how I act in sexual situations, and HE is responsible. I am a survivor, and I should not be filled with guilt."<br/><br/>That brought tears to my eyes. I wish I could give you a big ((hug)).<br/><br/>I feel everything happens for a reason, and sometimes it is not always clear to us, but you have taken a very emotionally-scarring situation turned it around and are now helping countless people with your wisdom, experience and understanding. <br/><br/>This is not something I talk about often.....<br/><br/>I was not sexually assaulted, but two years ago I was jumped and beaten up leaving a nightclub in Atlanta. My nose was broken, my supraorbital ridge(eyebrow bone), maxillary antrum(part of your cheek that meets your lip), two teeth knocked out, and temporary paralysis on my left side of my face.<br/><br/>I went home from the hospital, held my dog and cried; then cried some more. I slipped into a depression with out even knowing it. I was fighting demons inside me saying, "go out and seek revenge, you know where to go." Friends from NYC were calling me up and saying the are coming down for revenge (i knew the person that did it, he caught me off guard). I had to swallow my pride and live with it in despair, because I wasn't going to allow him to win, by me seeking revenge and ruining the rest of my life. <br/><br/>I pulled through it and moved on, and a big part of my healing can be contributed to you. <br/><br/>Around Decemeber, things started picking up. Being back in NYC with other friends who sensed I was hurting inside, and saw that I was not being my usual self- they began doing little things to coach me along.<br/><br/>I found your blog around christmas and could not stop reading it. Then you posted "come out wherever you are", I started commenting and then blogging because of inspiration from you. <br/><br/>Today, as I write this, I am the happiest I have ever been in my whole life. <br/><br/>Thank you,<br/>Marcello “HE made me do it, HE made me feel like crap for a long time, HE fucked up how I act in sexual situations, and HE is responsible. I am a survivor, and I should not be filled with guilt.”

That brought tears to my eyes. I wish I could give you a big ((hug)).

I feel everything happens for a reason, and sometimes it is not always clear to us, but you have taken a very emotionally-scarring situation turned it around and are now helping countless people with your wisdom, experience and understanding.

This is not something I talk about often…..

I was not sexually assaulted, but two years ago I was jumped and beaten up leaving a nightclub in Atlanta. My nose was broken, my supraorbital ridge(eyebrow bone), maxillary antrum(part of your cheek that meets your lip), two teeth knocked out, and temporary paralysis on my left side of my face.

I went home from the hospital, held my dog and cried; then cried some more. I slipped into a depression with out even knowing it. I was fighting demons inside me saying, “go out and seek revenge, you know where to go.” Friends from NYC were calling me up and saying the are coming down for revenge (i knew the person that did it, he caught me off guard). I had to swallow my pride and live with it in despair, because I wasn’t going to allow him to win, by me seeking revenge and ruining the rest of my life.

I pulled through it and moved on, and a big part of my healing can be contributed to you.

Around Decemeber, things started picking up. Being back in NYC with other friends who sensed I was hurting inside, and saw that I was not being my usual self- they began doing little things to coach me along.

I found your blog around christmas and could not stop reading it. Then you posted “come out wherever you are”, I started commenting and then blogging because of inspiration from you.

Today, as I write this, I am the happiest I have ever been in my whole life.

Thank you,
Marcello

]]> By: Leo MacCool http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1123 Leo MacCool Tue, 15 Apr 2008 13:02:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1123 your post about butches was like a gentle hug on a day when i was feeling so vulnerable and scared. i wish i could say something here that would return the favor. what a horrendous thing to have suffered, and i'm in awe of how you've been able to turn it into a force for good in your own and others' lives. your post about butches was like a gentle hug on a day when i was feeling so vulnerable and scared. i wish i could say something here that would return the favor. what a horrendous thing to have suffered, and i’m in awe of how you’ve been able to turn it into a force for good in your own and others’ lives.

]]> By: Chris http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1122 Chris Tue, 15 Apr 2008 03:56:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1122 I'm so sorry. This sounds like a horrible experience. You are very brave to post in it such detail and honesty. I have been there myself, and it took me forever to actually see it. It's all shrouded in such shame. I’m so sorry. This sounds like a horrible experience. You are very brave to post in it such detail and honesty. I have been there myself, and it took me forever to actually see it. It’s all shrouded in such shame.

]]> By: Sabine http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1121 Sabine Tue, 15 Apr 2008 01:25:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1121 Thank you for sharing your story, and for turning what happened to you into helping others so soon. (I started fundraising for RAINN but not until after college, and not as hands-on as the work you've done.)<br/><br/>"that it's not assault because he didn't hold me to the bed and fuck me. I tell them I felt that way for the first few months, until I realized I had said no, and told him I wasn't ok, and I wasn't ready, and to stop...and he laughed, told me I was too innocent,"<br/>Yeah. Same here pretty much. (I did blog my story too) Thank you for sharing your story, and for turning what happened to you into helping others so soon. (I started fundraising for RAINN but not until after college, and not as hands-on as the work you’ve done.)

“that it’s not assault because he didn’t hold me to the bed and fuck me. I tell them I felt that way for the first few months, until I realized I had said no, and told him I wasn’t ok, and I wasn’t ready, and to stop…and he laughed, told me I was too innocent,”
Yeah. Same here pretty much. (I did blog my story too)

]]> By: Lolita http://essin-em.com/2008/04/sexual-assault-my-story/comment-page-1/#comment-1120 Lolita Mon, 14 Apr 2008 21:48:00 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=398#comment-1120 Not sure what to say but wanted to say I read your story and am glad that you are telling it. Not sure what to say but wanted to say I read your story and am glad that you are telling it.

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