Comments on: Lost http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/ Tue, 02 Aug 2011 03:39:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: Randi http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2592 Randi Thu, 23 Oct 2008 16:04:02 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2592 I know about depression. Oy, do I. I also know about not wanting to or not being able to afford to be on medication. What helps me is to make a few lists. I make a list of everything that I am having a hard time with and that's controlling my life. Then, from that list, I write a list about the things that I can change and how I can control the situation. Then I make a third list about the ones that things I can't control. I usually find that list is much shorter than I think it will be. Then I rip up the "can't control" list and leave it to the universe and start working on my "can control" list. It helps to give me direction as well as to feel better about the world. I know about depression. Oy, do I. I also know about not wanting to or not being able to afford to be on medication. What helps me is to make a few lists. I make a list of everything that I am having a hard time with and that’s controlling my life. Then, from that list, I write a list about the things that I can change and how I can control the situation. Then I make a third list about the ones that things I can’t control. I usually find that list is much shorter than I think it will be. Then I rip up the “can’t control” list and leave it to the universe and start working on my “can control” list. It helps to give me direction as well as to feel better about the world.

]]> By: twizted http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2578 twizted Wed, 22 Oct 2008 20:32:47 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2578 My heart goes out to you. I quit a job just over a year ago. A job that had slowly become so demoralizing that it was literally making me sick. I decided to venture into self-employment, including a complete career change. The biggest plus was that I had a fair amount of savings, and a 401K for emergencies. I was slammed with depression as soon as I quit. This depression has hobbled my progress. I've had a modest measure of slow success, but after more than seven months of trying to dig myself out of this emotional hole, I dragged myself to a sliding-scale-fee therapist. Not suggesting this for you — it's just what I had to do. I am starting to get better, s-l-o-w-l-y. Your words sound all-too familiar to me. I cannot offer much more than empathy and moral support, as I live far from you, and my funds are still dwindling. But I enjoy reading your posts. You're an excellent writer in general, and you write really HOT erotica. Please keep writing, and don't give up on yourself! I'm amazed at all the things you do, in spite of your knee problems. My heart goes out to you.

I quit a job just over a year ago. A job that had slowly become so demoralizing that it was literally making me sick. I decided to venture into self-employment, including a complete career change. The biggest plus was that I had a fair amount of savings, and a 401K for emergencies.

I was slammed with depression as soon as I quit. This depression has hobbled my progress. I’ve had a modest measure of slow success, but after more than seven months of trying to dig myself out of this emotional hole, I dragged myself to a sliding-scale-fee therapist. Not suggesting this for you — it’s just what I had to do. I am starting to get better, s-l-o-w-l-y.

Your words sound all-too familiar to me. I cannot offer much more than empathy and moral support, as I live far from you, and my funds are still dwindling. But I enjoy reading your posts. You’re an excellent writer in general, and you write really HOT erotica. Please keep writing, and don’t give up on yourself! I’m amazed at all the things you do, in spite of your knee problems.

]]> By: Lorelei http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2571 Lorelei Tue, 21 Oct 2008 17:35:15 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2571 Hey, we don't know each other, but I read your stuff a lot, and I wanted to let you know that there the Obama campaign is trying really to find people to work with them . Maybe look there? Also, you could check for jobs with the city. They usually have stuff open year round Hey, we don’t know each other, but I read your stuff a lot, and I wanted to let you know that there the Obama campaign is trying really to find people to work with them . Maybe look there?

Also, you could check for jobs with the city. They usually have stuff open year round

]]> By: dominadoll http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2570 dominadoll Tue, 21 Oct 2008 15:56:49 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2570 It is hard to be hopeful when you are in a situation like that. I was jobless last year, so I know how it feels to be hopeless and feel that desperation. When I got a job finally, it was for a very low wage and I had to drive over an hour every day. Basically the cost of gas was taking away my paycheck, so it didn't pay to go to work. Ironic. Finally, I got a job this summer that I love, that pays well, and that is close to home. It took 5 years of working shitty jobs to finally get this one. Sometimes it is hard to keep the faith, but one thing is certain, that things do always change. Keep the faith and don't give up. BTW- a bird pooping on you is a sign of good luck in many cultures. It is hard to be hopeful when you are in a situation like that. I was jobless last year, so I know how it feels to be hopeless and feel that desperation. When I got a job finally, it was for a very low wage and I had to drive over an hour every day. Basically the cost of gas was taking away my paycheck, so it didn’t pay to go to work. Ironic. Finally, I got a job this summer that I love, that pays well, and that is close to home. It took 5 years of working shitty jobs to finally get this one. Sometimes it is hard to keep the faith, but one thing is certain, that things do always change. Keep the faith and don’t give up.

BTW- a bird pooping on you is a sign of good luck in many cultures.

]]> By: Safo Garcia http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2569 Safo Garcia Tue, 21 Oct 2008 13:08:29 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2569 I hear you, sister. Times are rough, and I've been in my own personal hell more often than not lately. Sometimes the length of stay of dishes in the sink is like a thermometer. Sometimes I feel like I couldn't get through life without my therapist. And, however down I feel now, I know that a year and a half of being in therapy has helped me grow and come in to my self. I know that the depressions I underwent two years ago are no longer possible. I don't know how it is in your neck of the woods, but in NYC there are many, many low-cost, sliding scale ($5-15) sessions you can get. Even if it's short-term, even if it's not the perfect therapist, even if there's a waiting period, I think a therapist is the only "someone" who can help you right now. I'm sure you're wonderful at internet research. I bet you can find cheap therapy in your area in less than 30 minutes. When things are this shitty, they can only get better, right? I hear you, sister. Times are rough, and I’ve been in my own personal hell more often than not lately. Sometimes the length of stay of dishes in the sink is like a thermometer.

Sometimes I feel like I couldn’t get through life without my therapist. And, however down I feel now, I know that a year and a half of being in therapy has helped me grow and come in to my self. I know that the depressions I underwent two years ago are no longer possible.

I don’t know how it is in your neck of the woods, but in NYC there are many, many low-cost, sliding scale ($5-15) sessions you can get. Even if it’s short-term, even if it’s not the perfect therapist, even if there’s a waiting period, I think a therapist is the only “someone” who can help you right now.

I’m sure you’re wonderful at internet research. I bet you can find cheap therapy in your area in less than 30 minutes.

When things are this shitty, they can only get better, right?

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]]> By: Jerry http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2567 Jerry Tue, 21 Oct 2008 11:58:54 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2567 Having been out of a job for the last 15 months I empathise (this was after working for the same company for 19 months and taking the risk of moving to a part of the country where there are far fewer opportunities for me etc..). This past week I got confirmation in the mail, that yes, a check for my pension would be coming to me...you see, Ihad to cash out my pension in order to keep paying my bills. I'm very lucky to have medical coverage, given that both my wife and I have serious medical issues, but it's COBRA and that will end too...So, at the moment, I can't offer up funds which you could probably need more than any words (btw, several medical companies have programs to help folks like you get medications and I know my local Walgreens has a program too). If you need the ear of someone to talk to or a shoulder, I am here for you. We've exchanged some direct email so just drop me a note and I'll send you my cel phone number... I hope things work out for the better real soon now.... hugs, Jerry Having been out of a job for the last 15 months I empathise (this was after working for the same company for 19 months and taking the risk of moving to a part of the country where there are far fewer opportunities for me etc..). This past week I got confirmation in the mail, that yes, a check for my pension would be coming to me…you see, Ihad to cash out my pension in order to keep paying my bills. I’m very lucky to have medical coverage, given that both my wife and I have serious medical issues, but it’s COBRA and that will end too…So, at the moment, I can’t offer up funds which you could probably need more than any words (btw, several medical companies have programs to help folks like you get medications and I know my local Walgreens has a program too).

If you need the ear of someone to talk to or a shoulder, I am here for you. We’ve exchanged some direct email so just drop me a note and I’ll send you my cel phone number…

I hope things work out for the better real soon now….

hugs,
Jerry

]]> By: QueerRose http://essin-em.com/2008/10/lost/comment-page-1/#comment-2566 QueerRose Tue, 21 Oct 2008 08:27:06 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=1139#comment-2566 Maybe there isn't anything I can say that will offer you comfort and hope. It's hard financially for a lot of people at the moment (myself included) and getting caught in the head lights of that, of the worst case scenarios, can paralyze you. When that heppens you can get caught in a vicious circle because you become less able to do the things that will make your situation and your mental health better. I think it helps to focus on today (getting paralyzed by what may happen tomorrow means that you don't deal with the here and now)and checking on exactly what those worst case scenarios are. Are they the very, very worst things that could happen to you after all? Lastly, talking about it is a must, so keep on doing that here and wherever you can. I'd glady offer a hand to help "pull you out", email me if you want to (queerrose@gmail.com). QRx Maybe there isn’t anything I can say that will offer you comfort and hope. It’s hard financially for a lot of people at the moment (myself included) and getting caught in the head lights of that, of the worst case scenarios, can paralyze you. When that heppens you can get caught in a vicious circle because you become less able to do the things that will make your situation and your mental health better. I think it helps to focus on today (getting paralyzed by what may happen tomorrow means that you don’t deal with the here and now)and checking on exactly what those worst case scenarios are. Are they the very, very worst things that could happen to you after all? Lastly, talking about it is a must, so keep on doing that here and wherever you can. I’d glady offer a hand to help “pull you out”, email me if you want to (queerrose@gmail.com). QRx

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