Sexuality Happens

As we enter 2009, people everywhere start to make their New Year’s resolutions. I don’t believe in resolutions — people feel so guilty when they don’t follow through perfectly, and people do the craziest things to try and fulfill them.

So instead, I have a list of goals.  Goals that are for 2009, but if they don’t happen, they can roll over for 2010, 2011, and so on.  Some of them are realistic, some of them are not. Some are sex related, some are not.  I keep an ever changing list of my goals in my head…just for the hell of it. 

For posterity, I’ll put some of them down here.  Now, if you, or someone you know has a way of making them come to fruition, please let me know.

Goals for 2009 *and beyond…*

*Find a job that pays at least decently

*Find a job I love to do

*Get out of debt

*Get insurance (from said job, or otherwise)

*Go to the AVNs in Vegas (Jan)

*Go to the annual AASECT conference in Phoenix, AZ (May)

*Go to Thunder in the Mountains (July)

*Have dinner, drinks and really hot sex with Sinclair Sexsmith

*Have an orgy and/or gang bang with Jiz Lee, Syd Blakovich, Dallas, Jake, and Trucker Cash (from Crash Pad).  Hell, I’d just like a Crash Pad orgy period!

*Meet more of my fabulous sex blogging friends

*Do another piercing scene…perhaps a corset?

*Get fisted again. By someone other than F (or by F again…hell, I’m not picky). Fucking amazing.

*Do a full fire play scene

*Get more into fetish/queer modeling

*Get the feminist/gender spectrum tattoo I want on my calf

*Get a memorial tattoo for Athena

*Convince people that I’m incredibly smart, cool and important, so that they pay me to teach more workshops, and lecture in more college classes, hopefully all over the country

*Win the lottery. Ok, that’s hard, since I don’t play it.  Win a lot of money gambling.  Ok, that’s hard, since I don’t gamble.  Inherit a lot of money…oh wait, yeah nope. Some how, get into a lot of money, buy my own place, and go on a really fun vacation.

*Have lots of really hot, amazing, mind blowing sex

*Find a cuddle buddy (or multiple cuddle buddies)

*Meet someone that wants to be with me for me.  And who likes me or loves me. And who wants an open relationship that is inbetween fuck buddy and wanting to move in/get married. (*snorts* this is definitely unrealistic)

*Find some good fuck buddies

*Get better at going to the gym so that I can get stronger

*Have my knees stop hurting

*Get lots of submissions for Sexual Ability, get it published, and have people like it

*Work on and complete my Sextionary that I’m working on

*Go to Roller Derby Nationals in Philly (Nov)

*Have my friends from all around the country come visit me

*Be able to afford a new (used) car that is higher off the ground, so it doesn’t hurt as much getting in and out of it

*Adopt a new rescue cat, and have it and Kinsey get along really well.

*Have Kink.com accept me as a model, and do a scene/episode with them

*Publish more erotica

*Get a Liberator Esse

And many many more…

-Essin’ Em