NoFauxxx Membership Giveaway
If you listened to my interview with Trouble (creator, owner and photographer for NoFauxxx.com) on RadioDentata (you can go directly to my player here), you already know what I’m about to say.
If you missed it, you can listen to it tonight at 9pm EST (6pm PST), or again at 3am EST (Midnight PST). She has lots of great things to say about the concepts of queer, of feminism, of sex-positivism, and so much more.
But one of the most exciting things she said? She’s going to give away a three-month membership to NoFauxxx.com. THREE MONTHS. That includes all the photo sets and videos on the site. And because I just shot with them while I was in San Francisco, it means you get to see really cute pictures of me naked in a kitchen…and masturbating on the stove!
How do you enter? Comment here, or on my podcast, or shoot me an email at essinem at gmail dot com. Trouble and I want to know what queer means to YOU. You can write it out, you can send a video, a picture, etc. Please know that if you submit, your definition of queer may be posted here, read on my show, etc.
I need a name (doesn’t have to be your real one for the submission), and an email where I can contact you. You’ll need to be willing to give Trouble all your info, should you win.
THREE MONTHS OF HOT, NAKED, QUEER and ALTERNATIVE people. Does it get much better than that?
So comment, email, what have you. Because we want to get lots of responses, you have until February 28th to enter. A whole month. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell your partner(s). My set goes up around the 14th, so if you win, you’ll definitely get to see me naked (and if you don’t want to wait, or if you don’t win, you can always sign up for affordable memberships as well!)
Ready. Set. Go. We can’t wait to see what you have to say about what queer is to YOU.
And make sure you check out my show tonight, if you haven’t heard her interview already!
-Essin’ Em
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I can’t say that the word “queer” means anything to me other than as a way to define “strange”.
I guess I classify people (if I were told that I HAD to classify) as either straight, gay, or bisexual. I hate the whole “I’m bicurious” deal. Being curious about something doesn’t make you one thing or another, right? It just makes you human!
I just don’t see why people have to get so politically correct about stuff – why it’s necessary to define yourself and then to categorize, alphabetize, and file yourself into the right drawer.
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Queer is an identity and a multiplicity of identities. It encompasses lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and transsexual and also pansexal, polyamorous, transdrogynous and beyond. Queer is the taking back of a pejorative term and the reclamation of identity. Queer is what you make it.
I love this question. I love thinking about, talking about, debating queerness. And I don’t want to be labeled as anything but queer.
And that only has part of my being a woman who loves women. Some of the queerest people I know are in heterosexual relationships.
To me, queer is about chosing to question dominant paradigms, chosing to question, and fuck with, the status quo. Why are relationships traditionally monogamous, and is that right path for me? For me, queerness is about making intention, conscious decisions about how I live my life.
That is not to say I had much of a choice in being attracted to (primarily) women. But what I do have a choice about is how I express my attraction, and how I chose to make relationships and a life for myself.
Oh my god, I love this question. I love thinking about it, talking about it, debating it, because it is so important and interesting and damn sexy.
Though, I’m not sure that for me, a queer identity is as tied to sex and sexuality as I had origninally thought. I am a woman, who is traditionally attracted to women. But some of the queerest people I know are in heterosexual relationships.
To me, queerness is about questioning the dominant paradigm, and questioning, and fucking with the status quo. I want to question the storyline that tells me that women are not “supposed” to want sex. Why are “traditional” relationships monogamous? And where did this assumption of heterosexuality come from? And if you are practicing a heterosexual relationship, who says that men are the agressors, and women the submissives? And what does “man” and “woman” mean, anyway?
With those questions come choices. When I can see that what I’m supposed to do, or be, or say, or look like, are all imaginary constructs, I have some decisions to make. Queerness is about chosing the life you live with intentionality.
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I just gave a class presentation on queerness tonight! It’s such a complicated word. On one hand, it can be used as an all-encompassing term to kind of lump all sexually (and gender-ly) non-normative people together (even the kinky straight ones). As a personal identity, it expresses my own capability to love and be loved by the entire spectrum of gender/sexual identities. But then, it so often manifests as a sensibility, too–an appreciation for the subversion of heteronormativity, and aligning yourself with society’s most marginal ideas and practices.
Queerness, I think, is one of those complexities that’s sometimes easier to define by what it *isn’t* rather than what it is.
my queerness is about being able to love who I want to love and be who i want to be.
i am a rioting, loud, proud rainbow wearing, safe-sex advocating, pride marching kind of queer.
I’m a soft or hard, butch or femme or tomboyfemme or high butch or other, every shape and size, blush or smirk, lace or flannel, more and more for you and you and you kind of queer.
and so much of that is what queer is to me.. so much of what I am.
Queer is great as an umbrella term for the LGBTQAIA alphabet soup (I’m sure I missed a few letters), but to me it means so much more than that. The way I see it, someone who’s completely heterosexual can be queer as a three dollar bill.
To me, queer means a willingness to question any and all social norms, to completely define your sexuality based on what you want, not what you’re supposed to do. It can even extend beyond sexuality into a way of approaching life, an adventurousness and open-mindedness that I love.
Of course, the linguistic roots of “queer” come from something being “strange” or outside the norm, and I think it’s people who don’t mind being strange and don’t need the norms that can rock the label.
I identify most with “queer” myself, even though I’ll say “bisexual” when pressed. I definitely prefer to fuck queer people. I love to push at the edges of the envelope, and being with people who are right there with me is the best.
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I think “queer” defines not only a sexuality, but also a way of being in the world. To me, the term connotes an openness to pleasure and beauty in all their weird, wonderful, and kinky forms, an appreciation of differences, both sexual and otherwise, and a commitment to protecting our diversity and supporting each other.
To me, being queer means coming (double entendre very much intended) as I am and not as I should be.
Identifying as transsexual led me to realise that it was OK for me to be a woman, that hormones, gender reassignment, and the likes were valid options for me. It meant I could stop wanting to be something and actually be it.
But being queer is so much more. Being queer means being the woman I want to be, even if that changes from one moment to the next and even if the type of woman I want to be at some particular time isn’t very womanly at all. It means not worrying that I “must be at least this feminine to ride” or worrying that some sort of behaviour loses me some sort of tranny-cred.
If I were a lesbian, I’d be a girl who liked girls. As a queer, I can be a girl (except when I’m not) who likes girls (though sometimes boys) (and sometimes, wonderfully, people who aren’t either one).
For me, being queer is about letting go of boundaries and dropping inhibitions. It’s about not worrying what I should be doing and just doing what I want to be doing, in sex, in gender, in life. It’s about embracing myself for who I am, and loving others for who they are.
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