Sexuality Happens

For some people, safer sex is a drag. When I was seeing F, one of our only rules about playing with/fucking other people was that we had to use safer sex.  And then she fucked someone…and decided not to use safer sex.  Not because it was that difficult, or she didn’t understand it (I’d done the oh-so-sexy sex educator role play to show her, since she didn’t have a background in it), but because she didn’t like it.

Safer sex can suck sometimes.  Let’s say you’re sucking cock, and don’t have a a flavored condom. Well…yeah, normal condoms taste gross. But do you know what tastes grosser? Gonorrhea in your throat. Just saying.

Dams are not the sexiest things, and even non-microwavable saran wrap isn’t super hot. But neither is herpes.

Now, I’m the first to admit that I’m not perfect. After F had unsafe sex, I didn’t start using protection with her (and consequently had an ingrown hair which scared the FUCK out of me, and I’ve since been tested – 100% STI free – and am back on the safer sex band wagon).  I do believe in becoming fluid bonded with a partner, when you’ve been together for a period of time, and both go and get tested, and if you’re both negative for everything, and agree to only have safer sex with other people (and then actually follow this rule), not using barriers with each other.  My grad school advisor would think I was being really fucking stupid. And he’s right – there (as I’ve found out) is always the chance that one of you is cheating/breaking the rules/having unsafer sex.  There is the chance that one of you has an STI that for some reason, didn’t show up. And as I’ve also found out, you can always get bacterial vaginosis from a partner, even if they don’t have any STIs.  But becoming fluid bonded is a risk I’m willing to take. I’ve done it twice; with J and with F. And will consider doing it again with future long term partners.

But you know what I love, even when I’m fluid bonded? I LOVE black, latex gloves.  Actually, now I use nitrile, since you never know who may be in bed with you (ok, I do, but I wanted to sound glamorous), and you don’t know if they’re allergic to latex. But pull on a black glove? I am putty in your hands.

Now, I use gloves a lot, even with fluid bonded partners, a) because black gloves are really god damn fucking hot, and b) because I have nails…they’re not long, talons by any means, but I don’t keep them dyke-a-delically short.  And I’d really prefer not to scratch up my partners’ cunts (just their backs…shoulders…legs…anyways). So I wear them a good majority of the time.  And there are few things as hot as seeing a black glove disappear into a cunt.  

My photo set is up from my shoot on CrashPadSeries.com (video and behind the scenes will go up shortly…if you click through here to sign up, you’re supporting me, Pink and White, and super hot queer porn!), and of all the pictures, there are three or four in a row of Rex’s hand in my cunt…begloved, and lubed, and god, if these “black gloved hand in cunt” pictures aren’t my favorite in the set…and some of my favorite of me ever.

Safer sex is a compromise.  You can do your absolute best. You can do nothing. Or you can be like me, and meet somewhere in the middle, and figure out how to make it work. I will not go down w/o a barrier on someone I haven’t become fluid bonded with…but I will fuck them.  My toys are almost all sterilizable (expect my wood one, which is just for me), so I can use them without barriers.

But black gloves? I will use them as much as I possibly can…because really, is there anything hotter?

Happy Half Nekkid Thursday!

-Essin’ Em

PS: Trouble from NoFauxxx.com is on my radio show on Radio Dentata tonight at 9pm EST/6pm PST – make sure you tune into listen!