Comments on: Living Alone

By: Essin' Em

Essin' Em — Tue, 10 Feb 2009 19:06:46 +0000

Very interesting thoughts – thank you for all of them.

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By: Septimus

Septimus — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 06:20:52 +0000

“I mean, my longest relationship is six months…”

Wow. I’ve had arguments that lasted longer than that. Then again, I was married.

By: DuWayne

DuWayne — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 04:23:25 +0000

I’m very much the loner type and really don’t like living with partners. I have had some very good luck over the years with roomies, but mostly I love to live alone.

Before we split up, my partner and I slept in separate bedrooms and if not for the kids, we would have slept in separate homes. I am almost certain, that had we not lived together, we would still be together. As it is, we barely tolerate each other and that only because we have two kids.

And I know a lot of people who would probably be in much healthier relationships if they were living separate.

By: Adriana

Adriana — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 01:39:47 +0000

I don’t see why a relationship would be any less valid if you weren’t living together. That’s just silly.

By: SerpentLibertine

SerpentLibertine — Wed, 04 Feb 2009 00:16:17 +0000

I’ve lived alone for eight years now and i can’t imagine it any other way. i don’t think I could live with another person at all at this point. like you, I’m a night person and keep a different schedule, like a lot of space to myself, and treasure my alone time. Selfish as it sems, I’m totally the same way.

By: Beth

Beth — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:42:08 +0000

Well there’s nothing wrong or fake about what you’re talking about. BUT, I do think that there is an element of truth to the idea that you’re not ready for a certain type of relationship. Maybe you never will be, and that’s not horrible. But, and maybe people will get mad at me for using this analogy, but I think that’s the difference between being interested in dating and being interested in marriage. I’m not talking legal marriage. I just mean, molding your life together with another person, believing/hoping it will last indefinitely. And wanting to compromise. Which I think is the big difference here. You don’t want to compromise–again, that’s not bad. It’s your apartment, it’s perfectly reasonable that you want it to stay the way it is. But it is simply a different level of commitment.

By: sxychikadee

sxychikadee — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 17:02:49 +0000

After 8 years of living with a partner who I then married, and thank goodness, divorced – I am FINALLY living by myself. Yes, the kids are here half the week, but the rest of the time WAHOO! I can play my music without criticism, eat what I want, not clean up after others, the list could go on forever.

I had a lover stay with me for 6 days a couple of weeks ago. Sure, lots of great sex on demand, and we didn’t really argue – but – all of those little things I like do to home alone (music) suddenly gone. I didn’t even get to watch the SMALL number of television shows I actually enjoyed.

Point being: Stick to your guns girl. Live your life the way you want to and if people don’t like it they don’t have to be in your life. :)

By: greg

greg — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 15:05:06 +0000

I am head over heels in love with my girlfriend but we both decided to wait before moving in together. This May, after 2 years of living on my own, she will move in with me. I am now totally ready for it in a way that I just wasn’t a year ago. I think you should be very selfish about taking your time with it. Moving in together is big.

By: Champagne and Benzedrine

Champagne and Benzedrine — Tue, 03 Feb 2009 14:40:55 +0000

What a great post!

You’re not as odd as you think, though. I know a lot of people in traditional relationships who think that way. My grandparents lived in separate houses and my parents haven’t shared a bedroom in 20 years.