Lube Is Love Folks
One of my three rules for good sex is lube is love.
Doesn’t matter what kind of sex you’re having; lube can make it better.
Vaginal, anal, oral, frottage, “titty fucking” – lube.
Masturbating? Sex with yourself? Clicking the five fingered mouse? Ringing southern bells? Crossing the mason dixon line? LUBE.
Fisting (cunt or anal)? Close to impossible (at least for it to feel good) without lube.
Sinclair posed a question the other day on twitter, about whether anyone enjoyed having fingers/a hand twisted inside them. I do…when there is lots of lube.
I’ve been on allergy medications since I was three years old – I don’t naturally lubricate that much, so lube is pretty much a must have. And for my partners who do lubricate a lot on their own? Well, I like to have hours long sex sessions. When you’re fucking someone for over an hour, it doesn’t matter how much natural lube they have – it gets used up, and/or dries out.
Sex toys, especially silicone ones (only use water based lube with them!) tend to soak up lube as you fuck, so it’s always good to add a little more.
I have lube in my nightstand, on my counter, in my purse. I carry it with my in my 3*3*1 bag on the bloody airplane. Lube is brilliant.
Silicone lube is great, except not with silicone toys. I especially love it for fucking in the shower. Water based lube is awesome too. When it starts to dry out, often times people add more and more, and then it becomes a gross, sticky mess. Honestly, all you need is to add more water to reactivate it. Suggestions? Spit. Pour some water on me (in the name of love). Use a spritz bottle. Use a animal shaped water gun (been there, done that. Now do you see why I’m a hoot to fuck?). Put your finger over the top of a straw in a glass of water, move towards genitals, release finger (and water). Anyway you want to, that’s the way to give your water based lube new life.
I suggest glycerin free lube for most people, as glycerin can encourage yeast infections in XX bodied people. However, some lubes I’ve loved have some glycerin in them, and I didn’t have any issues with them…but I have had an issue with an all natural lube that uses vegetable glycerin. So really, sometimes it’s just luck of the draw. Most flavored lubes do have glycerin.
NEVER use oil based lubes around vaginas, cunts, mouths or latex. So really, just don’t.
Lubes I love love love:
Eros Bodyglide (silicone based, LOVE it)
Eros/Pur Aqua (water based)
Maximus (water based)
Probe Classic (water based)
Sliquid H2O (water based)
O’My Flavored Lubes (water based)
As a side note…
Recently, WET, a fairly large lubricant company who has partnered with SexToy.com, sent me some lube samples. I was hesitant to try them, as I’m fairly stuck in my lube ways, but I figured that SOMEONE had to try them, and I knew I’d be 100% honest.
They sent me four types. One is silicone based, two natural (glycerin and paraben free) water based, and one water based flavored.
WET Platinum is silicone based. It has no smell, and contains no glycerin. It has a good deal of lasting power, although nothing like Eros Bodyglide. I like it, even if it’s not my favorite, and it has earned itself a spot in my purse.
WET Naturals “Beautifully Bare” is water based. It has a slight scent, but it’s kind of pleasant, and is glycerin AND paraben free, so it is body-healthy. Actually, this one surprised me with its staying power – most lubes that do not have silicone and glycerin in them do not have that much staying power, and require lots of water re-activiation. I was pleasantly impressed with this one, although it did eventually kind of soak into me, and at that point, I just went for my familiar and loved lubes.
WET Naturals “Sensual Strawberry” is water based, and like the above lube, it’s 100% glycerin and paraben free. The taste isn’t that bad, and there is no odd aftertaste. Because it’s glycerin free, it’s cunt friendly, so good for oral sex (with or with out a dam/condom). Also snazzy for hand/blow jobs. However, it doesn’t have hardly ANY staying power. Like really, none. Friction and this lube should not mix much, which is really counter intuitive to lube.
WET Kiwi Strawberry is water based and flavored. While it is sugar free, it does contain glycerin, so I wouldn’t put it below the belt…which. Um. Yeah. Kind of defeats the point. The taste is so-so, but the glycerin after-taste overpowers it. It’s only great quality is that it’s fairly long lasting…but I mean, not really worth it. I’d definitely stay away from this one.
-Essin’ Em
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“Water based lube is awesome too. When it starts to dry out, often times people add more and more, and then it becomes a gross, sticky mess. Honestly, all you need is to add more water to reactivate it. ”
That is a very useful thing to know. That I’ve been reading sex blogs for 6 months and not come across this until now is also pretty astounding.
I’ve tried the WET Strawberry and agree. I also have a funny story about it. We had a nearly new bottle of it, only used once for a handjob. I somehow forgot to put it away and my youngest kid found it and decided to cover himself, the floor and my bed with it. My entire upstairs smelled like strawberries for a week. It has a nice scent :)
Silicones are great for the lasting power, how little you need to use, and how they don’t taste, generally, but in my experience (working at an adult shop for a year and trying them all), I don’t like the cleanup. Needing to actually use soap and water to scrub it off afterwards makes me always reach for a water-based first in the heat of the moment. Except, that is, unless I’m fisting, when getting things slippery is far more important than the cleanup.
Am I the only one who avoids silicone-baseds because of that?
Also, for the record, adding water to silicone-baseds slicks them up again, too.