Sexuality Happens

Remember that awesome NoFauxxx.com giveaway I was having? I received almost TWO DOZEN entries (including a few photos in my inbox!) and they were all incredibly interesting. Some were funny, some where deep, some all encompassing.  What great thoughts all of you have!

Thank you to everyone who entered.  I am often asked, when people find that I identify as queer, what queers me. I always tell them that I can give them MY understanding of queer for ME, but that is different for many people.  Now I have a plethora of answers I can share.

While all of the entries were great, and some were hands down amazing, this one, written by Sabien (no blog, but picture below), blew my mind:

“Queer!

Queer is Levels.

Queer is a hallway of mirrors in the funhouse of human nature. More specifically, human sexual dimorphism. Not just sexuality.
Not just gender. Not just social dynamics. It is impossible to talk of “queerness” and get a pin in its back for observation in still life.
Its parts and principles come from the expression through those who take shelter under its umbrella. Queer is a title owned by all
who use and add to it, and while it is more definitely some things and less definitely others, above all, it represents a congress of the blooming
diversity of our sexual spectrum (yet somehow remaining a handy one-syllable word) and a simple label for the people who travel past
suppression, stereotypes, ignorance, canon, and old patterns of thinking— who slough the unhealthy, uncreative habit of segregating
ourselves for our differences, and exchange it for a meal-ticket into the postmodern buffet of “Whatever, Whoever, However” and the
freedom of our own unique appetites. Queerness is playful. It is an ever increasing state of diversity in sexual expression. Queerness is
our choice not to isolate, but instead, to embrace.

Queer breaks the wall and rocks the Casbah. And that’s what it means to me.

And here is a picture our winner Sabien sent me:

So thank you again for all of your entries, thoughts, ideas and discussion!  Shortly, we’ll be having a giveaway for CrashPadSeries.com – another awesome queer site, where it just so happens, you can see me fucking! So make sure you keep visiting me here.

Didn’t win, but still want a membership so you can see my HOT kitchen masturbation set? Sign up here!

Thanks to Courtney Trouble, goddess of NoFauxxx for sponsoring this contest!

-Essin’ Em