Sexuality Happens

People ask me (although I’m not sure why) where to meet queer people. They tell me they’re interesting in dating, marrying, fucking, conversation, and they just don’t know where to meet lesbian, dykes, transguys, butches, femmes, bois, grrls, etc.

My answer?  Everywhere and anywhere.

L, who I dated a while, and have become really good friends with, I met at the DMV. No really. I awkwardly flirted with her, and wound up on a date with her.

F, although we’d gone to HS together, I met at a CD release party at a local club.

Rex, who fucks me on CrashPadSeries.com, and I met when I went to see the Pornotopia Film Festival (put on by Self Serve Toys) in New Mexico.

The most adorable submissive who I have a mini crush on and I met at a play party.

I met Q and a bunch of other incredibly interesting queer people at the Strap-On 101 class I taught at Hysteria.

Sasha Sappho and I went to middle school together (and are currently competing as to who has hooked up with more people from said middle school.  Including each other, she’s at 3, and I’ve got 4).  We’ve been friends on and off for years, and have reconnected.

J and I met on craigslist when I searched “queer” as a keyword.

I met someone else at a Team Gina concert, and flirted with a cute woman at the Denver Roller Dolls after party. I have some great queer friends I met while performing the Vagina Monologues.

Do things that interest YOU. It’s silly to try and go meet dykes at a local bar if you’re not a bar person. I’ve learned this.  Go to book groups, to rock climbing, to whatever it is that YOU like to do.  There will (likely, unless it’s a KKK or super conservative religious meeting) be other queer people there as well. I mean, as surprising as it is, we are amongst you, infiltrating society with the homosexual agenda.

Meeting people is hard, for sure. I know this far more than I’d like to…but the best way to meet people, especially those who share interests with you is to do things that you actually like, and get to know other people in the same boat.

Just a thought.

-Essin’ Em