Comments on: Hair Today, Gone Tomorrow

By: Nelfy

Nelfy — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 21:06:48 +0000

I don’t think the post is badly written – I totally get what you mean and I agree with you! I know that I’m anal about a lot of things and am sometimes in the situation where I might put other people on the spot to do something (especially when it comes to cleaning), but I try really hard to avoid that. I would, however, never try to get someone to do something they don’t want to do – especially when I am very aware of the fact that they don’t want to do something or that they feel comfortable the way they are.

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By: Backseat Boohoo

Backseat Boohoo — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 02:36:54 +0000

This post is full of win. It’s one thing to admit that you are not attracted to your partner and are not compatible for some reason or another, but it’s another to try and underhandedly imply that your partner should fit themselves more to your ’standards.’ Especially if it’s something as silly as body hair.

I mean, I don’t find underarm hair attractive at all, so I don’t date women with it; that doesn’t mean they’re bad or anything, that’s just my personal preference. But would I ever bitch about a woman having underarm hair? Um, no. It’s perfectly natural and it’s her choice, regardless of whether or not it gets my rocks off.

By: Shawn

Shawn — Mon, 29 Jun 2009 01:52:12 +0000

Was it clear from the conversation that the present was all her ex-girlfriend’s idea? The only way I could imagine this being even marginally okay would be if she had at some point said “you know, I’d really like my armpit hair totally removed eventually” and the ex-girlfriend thought “aha! present idea!” But it sounds like that wasn’t the case, in which case that’s a really terrible thing to do to a partner, or anyone for that matter.

By: K

Mon, 29 Jun 2009 00:55:36 +0000

Because people suck and are mean to each other even when they are pretending they are not.

By: Amber

Amber — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 19:25:47 +0000

I…. just can’t imagine doing that. Yes, my personal aesthetic is hairless armpits, but so what? That means I shave my armpits. Anyone else’s armpits (or crotch, or legs, or where-the hell-ever) are theirs to do what they like with and I won’t be telling anyone to change that just because of what I like on myself.

I guess it’s a good thing the person who did this to that woman is an ex. Sheesh.

By: Devin

Devin — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 14:15:13 +0000

Maybe the girl you went to dinner with forgot to mention that her partner just didn’t like to deal with it but really wanted it gone. If not, what an absolutely horrible thing to do. Jerry hit it on the nose. There’s nothing wrong with asking, but telling someone this is what you need to do is absolutely horrible. I would be afraid of someone like that because they might have too much control or need to be in too much control for that sort of thing. BTW, I love your blog! Thanks so much for writing it!!!

By: Gray

Gray — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 13:26:06 +0000

I find it very rude to try to change someone. I would be insulted. There are a lot of selfish people out there.

By: Jerry

Jerry — Sun, 28 Jun 2009 10:51:44 +0000

I wouldn’t hand someone an underarm razor when I already know they’ve made a choice or have a preference. To me that’s ignoring their decision. However, if I prefer a partner (for instance) without underarm hair, I see nothing wrong with ASKING my partner about it, as long as I’m prepared to graciously accept an answer of “no, I’m not going to change that”.