Sexuality Happens

As many of you know, I’m very open to answering your questions, both public and private.  A little while ago, I posted a reminder about this, and now am posting some answers to questions that I was asked.  Here’s part 2 of the answers. Please feel free to comment asking more questions at any time, or shoot me an email at EssinEm at gmail dot com.

-Essin’ Em

Frowzyboy asked:

You post pretty frequently, and always about something funny or touching or emotional – it’s always deeply human. How do you not lose your sense of what merits a post, what would be a meaningful thing to talk about? I feel like after a while with my blog I’ve lost that joie de posting and don’t do it unless something really shocking happens, which leaves loooong periods between updates.

I try to do my absolute best to post every, single day.  A) Because I really love my readers, and want them to have content and B) based on some excellent advice the lovely Always Aroused Girl posted a year or two ago.

It’s hard.  Somethings are easier than others.  Every Thursday is HNT (Half Nekkid Thursday), so I know I’m going to post a picture and a little schtick.  One day a week (usually Friday or Saturday), I post a review of a toy/book/movie/storage container, etc. I personally choose to post only one review per week, as I have decided to keep this as a sexuality blog and not a review blog (although I have no qualms with review blogs, and enjoy reading them).  Also, one day is usually dedicated to a Sugasm or Pleasurists post.

So that leaves three or four days a week of completely original content. Well, I mean my HNT and reviews are original, but content that doesn’t have a specific theme/goal.

I write most of my posts in advance. That helps.  When interesting things happen, I start writing about them. When I have thoughts, I write about them.  Sometimes, I’m not ready to write about it yet, so I’ll title a post and save it, to remember to write about it. This means that often, I’m set up with posts anywhere from 5-14 days in advance, that’s why I’m able to post every day, since I don’t have to think of them at the last minute.

Also, I’m awkward. My life is amusing to most people. I don’t have to try to make up funny things; I laugh at myself on a regular basis.  In addition, I’m very open with my feelings and emotions. I try not to paint myself as a saint. When I say/feel/do/think something upsetting/stupid/unPC/inappropriate, I don’t censor myself. What I write here is me, free and clear. That makes it easier to write.

I also write for me, not for anyone else.  Ergo, I don’t have to stop and think what “merits” a post. A post is something that is of interest to me, whether it’s amusing, or hurtful, or intriguing, or news, or anything like that. If people stop reading me, they stop reading me.  This blog IS me, and people don’t have to like me.

I hope that answered your question acceptably.

-Essin’ Em