Sexuality Happens

I got this idea from the brilliant site Feministing.com. Of course, now that I’m going back to try and find some of their examples of things they could do without, I can’t for the life of me find their posts. Bah, humbug.

Regardless, here is my snarky list o’ the week of things I can do without. They actually aren’t really in any particular order, just as I’ve thought of them.

-Essin’ Em

10. The assumption that the average woman should be a 36-24-26, size 2, 36DD, blonde, etc, what have you. People are beautiful in so many different ways, different sizes, different colors. The average size in America is a 12-14. AVERAGE. Not a 2. 2 is a fine size. So it is 22.  Let’s stop being so fucking ridiculous in our expectations and searches for perfection

9. Marriage. Period. I’m all about commitment ceremonies and fun parties. Religious/spiritual stuff is fine too. However, I do not believe that anyone’s rights should be tied to their ability to fall in love (and therefore stay in love). Granted, if we DO have marriage as a governmental institution, I feel everyone should have that right, regardless of sex or gender.  But we can never make it equal for everyone. What about poly families? What about people undergoing gender re-alignment? What about X, Y and Z? Why not just make marriage a commitment thing, a way to express your love and adoration (and religious beliefs, if that’s your cuppa tea)? And leave the whole government thing separate from church. You know, like it’s supposed to be.

8. Straight men who think that they can turn queer women straight. Straight women who thing they can turn queer men straight. Queer women who think they can turn straight women queer. Queer men who think they can turn straight men queer. Monogamous people who think that everyone should be the same. Non-monogamous people who think everyone should be the same. It’s just rude. In every direction. Why are we so eager to change other people’s identities?

7. Hypocrites. Nuf’ said.

6. Those who do not recognize their privilege. I understand that you cannot change certain things (race, gender, age, ability, etc), and that you may not *want* to change certain things (class, appearance, etc). However, that does not excuse not recognizing that you HAVE that privilege.  Do with it what you will, but at least own it.

5. Laundry. I really hate having to do it. And it takes forever, and I never have enough quarters, and the dryer in my building never really dries my clothes and then my cats sit in my clean clothes, and I hate having to put them. If I never had to do it again, I’d be estatic.

4. People who feel like they own the road/bad drivers. You *have* a turn signal. Please use it.  Let people in occasionally, especially in heavy traffic, or when their lane is ending. Wave a little instead of flipping people off. Don’t go freaking 20 over, drive the wrong way down one ways, back up the street, drive over medians, etc. Really, it’s easy. Just don’t be a douchehat. Simple as that.

3. Violence as a solution. Violence NEVER has a reason to be the solution. Talk. Go punch a wall. Go have sex. Go eat a pint of ice cream. When I say violence, I mean everything from domestic violence to wars, road rage to genocide. It solves nothing. Period.

2. Spiders. Really. Ugh. I KNOW they eat mosquitos, so I can possibly amend this to “spiders that are inside” or “spiders that are where I are, and/or exist in my personal sphere of life.” But they are terrifying AND dangerous.

1. How society drives us to feel better by putting people down.  We judge others on their bodies, what they where, what car they drive, where they shop, where they go to school, etc.  This tears us apart. We call each other sluts, whores, fat, etc (in non-positive ways). How does taking other people down build us up? And why do we let society control us this way? I do not approve.