Sexuality Happens

I like porn. Good porn, feminist porn, sex-positive porn, ethical porn, drench my underwear it’s so hot porn.  I like a lot of the newer dyke porn, such as CrashPadSeries.com, GoodDykePorn.com and NoFauxxx.com (in fact, I like them so much I’ve shot for all of them!).

However, this movement had its origins, and a lot of people feel that these two movies, Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels, were the beginning of the queer porn revolution.  It’s a harder DVD set to find, so I’m very pleased that Babeland was kind enough to send me a copy for myself.

Now, Q isn’t so much of a porn watcher.  She’s liked the scenes I showed her from CrashPad, but overall, she’s only had negative experiences with porn.  We were getting a little hand-sy on the couch, so I suggested we pop in this brilliant DVD from 2000 (well, it was a VHS back then) made by the lovel S.I.R. productions.  

S.I.R Productions is run by a partnered Butch/Femme couple; Shar Rednour and Jackie Strano. There are two movies in one; Hard Love features Jackie (the adorable butch part of the couple) and How to Fuck in High Heels features Shar (the feisty blonde femme).

We watched Hard Love first. I’m not going to lie; the first scene (which Sinclair LOVED) was pretty stagnant, boring and little too woo-woo for even the woo-wooness of us.  It was Jackie and a woman in black fucking in the kitchen. Now, personally, I love the idea of fucking on a kitchen table, but there really wasn’t much energy or pizzaz to it, and we wound up fast fowarding it, as we wound up both getting bored.

However, the next scenes were a jackpot of gold.  Enter the a sassy femme dressed in office drag, with curly reddish hair (sound familiar to anyone we kn0w?) who winds up doing a sexy strip tease (to really odd music, but it’s a hot strip tease none the less) for the boi she is about to fuck. It reminded me and Q a lot of us, so it was therefore hotter.  A hot sex scene ensues.

Then, enters Jackie, who is apparently the femme’s ex. Oh, the drama starts. Ok, I’m sorry, I get there is supposed to be a “storyline” in this porno and all that, but watching a hot butch/femme couple argue and yell at each other is not a turn on for me. If I wanted that, I would be renting seasons, oh, 1-6 of the L-Word.  However, the fight is short lived, and more ridiculously hot sex ensues. Q and I both really liked these two scenes in the femme’s apartment, and some touching started.

At one point, we cut back to the original femme and Jackie, but this time they were in the bathtub. And Jackie hops in the bathtub…with all of her clothes on. Again, we fast forwarded, since we were starting to lose the buzz.  We wound up shutting off the DVD and fucking like bunnies, so I had to return later to check out How to Fuck in High Heels.

This movie has Shar, resplendent in beautiful heels and harnesses, fucking a variety of people. It’s based off of one of her own performance pieces (I know this from watching the behind the scenes, which was actually pretty cool), and involves, well, you guessed it, fucking in high heels.  It was interesting and fun to watch, but didn’t really get my clit throbbing.

Overall, I really do like these films. However, they are a bit out of date.  Not the hottest films, causing dripping and throbbing (although some of the scenes with the femme definitely did their job), but definitely films worth having. It’s like having a piece of the queer (porn) revolution – along with Fatale Media, these are some of the first films of dyke porn ever available on the market. I’m really glad I have a set…and luckily, Backseat Boohoo ended up with an extra DVD, and we’ll be doing a contest for your own, brand new copy this coming month.  Get ready to get some original dyke porn!

4 out of 5 stars (keeping in mind it is slightly out of date.

Click here to get your very own copy of Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels. (if you don’t want to wait for my contest)

-Essin’ Em

I love sex toys, and I love Babeland! Right now, they’re holding a contest where you put together a list of toys worth $500. You can either win the toys, or $125 gift card (and YOU dear readers, can win $125 if you comment). So here is my fancy schmancy list:

I want the Njoy Eleven SO BAD! It’s a couple pounds of stainless steel, looks fancy and sexy, and a shot for GoodDykePorn.com with one that I didn’t get to keep, and let me tell you, my cunt was so fucking happy with a steel dildo almost the size of my fist in me. $300

Then I also would really like a black Spareparts Joque Harness for Q to fuck my brains out with.  It’s waterproof, so we could use it in the shower, in my building’s pool and hot tub, in the rain. Plus, she can use it to pack, which really fucking turns me on, especially when she comes up and presses up against me. $100

I would also want a black Mr. Bendy, so that Q (or me, depending on our moods) can pack-to-fuck…possibly in the above harness. Great for fucking in club bathrooms, etc. $65

Also important is lube – I would want 8oz of Sliquid H2O. We go through lube like nobody’s business. With all the fucking and fisting and what not, we’re always on the look out for a new, even more amazing lube. $20

Lastly, the old school theatre techie side of me would want a Babelight (preferably in red or blue) – a flashlight, vibrator and key chain all in one? I mean, really, is there anything more one could ask for? $14

Total Wishlist Cost: $499

Here’s all the small print:

Two ways to win sex toys from Babeland:

1. A $500 grand prize winner will be drawn at random from all entries.

2. Two $125 prizes will be awarded to the site that generates the most posts or comments: one for the site owner, and the other for a post by a reader on that same site.

How it Works: 
It’s shockingly easy! If you own a website or blog, just write a blog entry or a post with a wish list of the Babeland sex toys you covet and your orgasmic dreams just may come true.  We are in the business of fulfilling desires, after all.

Your wish list can total up to $500 worth of products—just list the name of each product (with a link to that product on Babeland.com) and one sentence about why you lust after that toy.   

We know it sounds too good to be true, but there’s no catch here, no purchase or sign up necessary.  Just create your list of favorite products and post your wish list on your own blog, site, or in a forum of which you’re a member.  Then submit the link to your post, your name, and shipping address to freesextoys@babeland.com to enter. And remember, the total price of products must not exceed $500.

Finally, we’ll select one grand prize winner at random, and one lucky winner will be floating in a blissful sea of the $500 worth of sex toys from their list.  

But wait, there are plenty of other ways to win!  We’ll be counting comment responses to your wish list post, and the blogger with the most responses will win $125 worth of sex toys.  

And what about your loyal blog readers—don’t they deserve a piece of the pie?  If your blog wins the $125 prize, you can pick one of your commenters to win another $125 of sex toys.  (Whew…that’s a lot of toys, but we think you can handle it.) 

Need some inspiration?  Each week, we will choose one winner among the categories below to win a$25 Babeland Gift Card. Your post will be mentioned on our Babeland blog:
The wish list with the sexiest toys for couples.
The wish list with the sexiest toys for women.
The wish list that is kinkiest and most original.
The wish list with the sexiest toys for men.

All blogger are encouraged to post a link to their blog entry on Babeland’s Facebook page: http://www.facebook.com/babeland

This is a party I’m co-hosting with the lovely ladies of WiCK’D (a female dominant kinksters group) next Friday at the Denver Sanctuary.  There will be a women/trans only play space, fun socialness, a fisting demo by yours truly, and much more.  I really hope this goes well, as I hope to begin throwing a monthly women and trans play party in Denver, and this is testing the water.

There is a MANDATORY 8:30 dungeon orientation for those who haven’t played here before.  For directions, please email me at EssinEm at gmail dot com.

Hope to see you there!

-Essin’ Em

I know, I know. I’m not a huge fan of more “traditional” vibrators – we all know I’m a huge fan of weapons grade sex toys, like the wonderful and life-changing Hitachi Magic Wand.  However, Q is a much bigger fan of the more normally powered vibes, so I’m happy to say that I’ve been given one to review by the sex-positive Good Vibrations.

This toy, the G-Twist, is white labled for Good Vibrations, but is actually made by Fun Factory, which is one of the better vibrator companies out there. it’s 100% silicone, so you can sterilize it for sharing by wiping it down with a 10% bleach solution. Otherwise, good ol’ soap and water should do the trick for cleaning it.

G-Twist comes in a few colors – I got blue (I was hoping for black, but as long as it’s not pink, I’m not gonna argue!), and takes 2 AA batteries.  I personally prefer rechargable or plug-in toys, not only because they’re more eco friendly, but also because I hate fighting with getting the battery compartment open, figuring out which direction they go, etc, ESPECIALLY when I’m horny as hell. Moreover, I always seem to have problems with Fun Factory battery compartments, and this was no exception.

However, ones the batteries were properly installed, it was time for the fun to begin. Let me just say, Q LOVES this toy…on her clit, in her cunt, you name it.  It wasn’t quite high powered enough for me (but really, what is?), but is did feel nice. It actually packs quite a punch for only having 2 AA batteries. 

Anyways, it’s a good toy. The dial is a little frustrating to get to when you’re lubed up or fucking from an awkward angle, and I do think the toy was designed to be used by yourself – I was between Q’s legs, attempting to fuck her really hard with the this toy that happened to hit her G-spot fairly perfectly, but there really wasn’t too much of a grip, and it kept sliding out…making the pounding I was trying to give her fairly impossible. Yet she still seemed to really enjoy herself, me, and the toy, so no complaints there.

This toy is simple, but it certainly accomplishes its purposes; it vibrates nicely, it can find your G-spot quick than if you had a GPS, and it is portable (not crazy loud, nor does it require an outlet).  I personally would give it 3 stars, since it didn’t really satisfy me, but having heard the noises from Q as I fucked her with it, I’m comfortable giving it a round 4 stars for general consumption.

To get your own g-spot loving G-Twist, just click here.

-Essin’ Em

…The mouse will play!

I was at Q’s the other day, and I think she had hopped into the shower before we headed over to the Farmer’s Market – and so I decided to do a little naked photo shoot on her couch.  Last week’s striped panties picture was also a result of said naughtiness.

So please, enjoy the boobies, and one of my favorite necklaces, and my crazy hair when I’ve just woken up in the morning.

And a Happy Nekkid Thursday to you all!

-Essin’ Em

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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #42? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #44? Submit it here before Sunday August 30th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Note: No Editor’s Pick again this week, instead enter one of the many many contests that are going on!

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

• Fairy Mini Wand Giveaway Deadline: August 27th at noon Eastern.
• Steal our Blog and win $100 Deadline: August 28th.
• Interview Question Contest Deadline: August 30th.
• Aural Sex Contest Deadline: August 31st at 11:59pm.
• Summer Love Contest Deadline: August 31st 2009.
• Hello Kitty Vibe photo contest Deadline: September 1, 2009.
• Get Creative and Win! Deadline: September 4, 2009.
• One Year Anniversary Contest! Deadline: September 4, 2009 11:59pm Eastern.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest Deadline: September 11, 2009.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest- The Grand Fucking Prize Deadline: September 12, 2009.

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On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• G-Twist by True Pleasures
• Burning Angel’s 7.5” Waterproof Vibe by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• LELO Elise by Mystyfi
• Pocket Rockets by Carrie Ann
• Womolia Heat by Essin’ Em
• JimmyJane Form 6 by Red
• LELO Gigi by Valyn
• Pink Leopard Vibe by Carnivalesq
• Icegasm Kit by Sexorcism
• Silicone Flexi-Power Rod by namelesschaos
• LELO Mia by Saraid
• Intimate Diver by The Duchess
• Cyberskin X-tacy Vibe by The Countess
• Pocket Rockets by Domina Doll

Dildos

• Crystal Crescent by Domina Doll
• Tantus Curve by Coy Pink
• Ophoria Beyond No. 3 by Domina Doll

Anal Toys

• Triple Crown Vibrating Anal Beads by Carnivalesq
• Aneros Peridise by ScottA.Reviews

Toys for Cocks

• Tribal Cock Ring by Beautiful Dreamer

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Sliquid Organics Stimulating O Gel by True Pleasures
• Lust for Double-O by Carrie Ann
• Ceduxion Massage Candle (Orange Vanilla) by Sommer Marsden

BDSM/Fetish

• Clover Clamps by True Pleasures
• Wartenberg Pinwheel by Ansley Agnello
• Clover Clamps by Kyle
• Fox Fur Paddle by Alpine Subdreams
• Six Channel Deluxe Electrosex Power Box by Red
• Zeus Electrosex Cock and Ball Strap by Red

Adult Books

• A Tango in Subspace – A Romantic Journey of Erotic Submission by Allison Buckley
• A Tango in Subspace – A Romantic Journey of Erotic Submission by Lux Zakari

Adult Movies/Porn

• Hard Love & How to Fuck in High Heels by Sinclair Sexsmith
• Nymphetamine Solamente by The Porn Librarian
• Content by FrzKey
• Anytime, Anywhere by J.D. Bauchery
• Porn Star Legends – Little Oral Annie by The Porn Librarian
• Spanish Heat by The Porn Librarian
• Naughty Neighbors by FrzKey
• Screw My Wife Please!! 69 – Nina Kelly Girl On Girl by J.D. Bauchery

Sex Furniture

• Liberator Escape Wet by Alpine Subdreams

Miscellaneous

• Smart Balls by Ginger Leigh
• IceMan Ice Lugez by Alpine Subdreams

This post is not about sex. It is, however, about delicious food, which I love almost as much as good sex.  Plus, there are pictures!

When I was in Seattle, I had the luck (thanks to a tip from a friend of mine) to stumble across the most amazing little independently owned Italian restaurant; Denunzio’s Trattoria.

Above is the picture of me and the AMAZING owner. The mustache is real, as is the accent.  His name? Luigi!

Here is another picture taken of my full and satiated self:

And here is a copy of my review from Yelp.com:

This place was amazing. Ah-may-zing. I cannot even truly speak to its excellence.

As a Denverite in town for a weekend, I had asked former Seattle dwellers for dinner suggestions, and two came up with DeNunzio’s.  My friend and I had a big of trouble finding parking, and getting down the stairs (definitely not easily accessible for anyone with dis/ability issues), but once there, it made up for it all. I even made a joke on the way down the stairs about how this had better be the best Italian meal of my life…and well, it was.

Having lived in Europe, and on the East Coast, I can still confidently say that this was one of the top five tastiest meals of my life. I’ve already called my friends and my partner (who is Italian), and have told them that we must absolutely come back to visit; my dining partner is already planning her next date night for here.  While I can see that it’s certainly a different type of dining experience, I can’t fathom how anyone could not fall in love with this place. It may be one of the shining reasons for return visits to this area.

-Essin’ Em

My latest book I’ve been able to add to my bibliophile collection is none other than The Bottoming Book, written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Sound familiar?  Same authors as The Ethical Slut (a book on non-monogamy that also has a place on my bookshelves).  However, The Bottoming Book has a bit more of a BDSM flare, as do many of their other works.  Oddly enough, it’s place under the anal sex book category, although anal sex is barely, if at all, touched on.  So if that’s the kind o’ book you’re looking for, I suggest looking elsewhere.

Book wise, I feel it is organized fairly well, with a nice lead in. However, over all, it seems as though this book is written for bottoms (also submissives, slaves, service people, etc) who are already aware of their bottom-ness, and may already have done some of their own kink discovery before making it to the book. So while you don’t need to be a kink or bottoming expert to read get something out of this book, you definitely should be a complete n00b, or this may go right over your head.

Information wise, I appreciate the switching of pronouns (indicating that gender does not indicate top or bottom tendencies), the discussion of switches (who often get left out in many kink commentaries), and talks about the spectrum of kink, from sensual players to heavier players, and many many more. However, this book is almost a decade old…which is sometimes a hinderance.  For example, it talks about the brilliance of the new internet, describes what a website is, and goes in depth into chat rooms. In today’s day and age, where the internet is accessible by almost anyone, and there are few chat room, and lots more kink-geared sites like CollarMe.com and FetLife.com, it just was kind of amusing to read.

Overall, it was a pretty good book. A slow read, but good to read a chapter at a time – I kept my copy in my purse.  However, I was driven crazy by the “overuse” of “quotation marks” through out the entire “book.”  While quotation marks are occasionally useful, these were used regularly in every bloody  paragraph in a completely “inappropriate” manner.  I would like to meet whoever copy-edited the book.

I give the book 4 stars (out of 5). It’s definitely great info, but not in the best format.  Worth getting, but could certainly be a little more smoothly written.

Click here to get your own copy of The Bottoming Book, or a plethora of other sex toys.

I’mma comin’ to Phoenix!

That’s right. I’ll be visiting Phoenix (in Arizona, not the mythical bird, or my mother’s cat) August 28th-31st. Well, Tempe more specifically, since my beloved Q has an interview on a college campus.

Two things.

A) Any readers from Phoenix?  Want to talk to me about there, pros/cons, etc, in case I wind up moving there? And if I kinda sort of know you, want to meet up for coffee or tea?

B) If you are from Phoenix, or have lived in Phoenix, or have visited Phoenix, are there any places we should visit? Clubs to check out? Restaurants to dine at?

Thank you in advance for you brilliance and suggestions and all that.

<3s,

-Essin’ Em

Yo ho ho Denver/Colorado Peeps.  Next Saturday is the Pirates, Wenches and Cabin Boys party at the Denver Sanctuary.  I’m going to try to get Q to enter the cabin boy contest, and I’m planning on giving some floggings.  Hope to see you there!

-Essin’ Em