Sexuality Happens

My latest book I’ve been able to add to my bibliophile collection is none other than The Bottoming Book, written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy. Sound familiar?  Same authors as The Ethical Slut (a book on non-monogamy that also has a place on my bookshelves).  However, The Bottoming Book has a bit more of a BDSM flare, as do many of their other works.  Oddly enough, it’s place under the anal sex book category, although anal sex is barely, if at all, touched on.  So if that’s the kind o’ book you’re looking for, I suggest looking elsewhere.

Book wise, I feel it is organized fairly well, with a nice lead in. However, over all, it seems as though this book is written for bottoms (also submissives, slaves, service people, etc) who are already aware of their bottom-ness, and may already have done some of their own kink discovery before making it to the book. So while you don’t need to be a kink or bottoming expert to read get something out of this book, you definitely should be a complete n00b, or this may go right over your head.

Information wise, I appreciate the switching of pronouns (indicating that gender does not indicate top or bottom tendencies), the discussion of switches (who often get left out in many kink commentaries), and talks about the spectrum of kink, from sensual players to heavier players, and many many more. However, this book is almost a decade old…which is sometimes a hinderance.  For example, it talks about the brilliance of the new internet, describes what a website is, and goes in depth into chat rooms. In today’s day and age, where the internet is accessible by almost anyone, and there are few chat room, and lots more kink-geared sites like CollarMe.com and FetLife.com, it just was kind of amusing to read.

Overall, it was a pretty good book. A slow read, but good to read a chapter at a time – I kept my copy in my purse.  However, I was driven crazy by the “overuse” of “quotation marks” through out the entire “book.”  While quotation marks are occasionally useful, these were used regularly in every bloody  paragraph in a completely “inappropriate” manner.  I would like to meet whoever copy-edited the book.

I give the book 4 stars (out of 5). It’s definitely great info, but not in the best format.  Worth getting, but could certainly be a little more smoothly written.

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