Archive for September, 2009
Sugasm #173
The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #174? Submit a link to your best post of the week using this form. Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.
This Week’s Picks
“I caught his gaze this time, on purpose.”
“So grabbing her hips, I pulled her in for a kiss.”
“Others had watched, she beat me, brought me to tears, held me and then began to untie me.”
Sugasm Editor
Editor’s Choice
(Sugasm participants should re-post all the links above within a week. The following links may be excluded as long as you include all the above links.)
News, Reviews & Interviews
Book Review: Anal Pleasure and Health
Earth Angel podcast review – the first 100% green sex toy!
Lelo Gigi Made Me A Very Happy Girl!
Thoughts on Sex & Relationships
Dating Options 101: Whatchagot
Finally, my thoughts on marriage equality
BDSM & Fetish
Being Bendy, Beaten and Punished
Miss Susan, Nick B and Montreal Fetish Weekend
Tuesday Night – The First Time
NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio
2 Pretty maids severely spanked
Sex Advice
Can a Woman Feel When a Man Ejaculates Inside Her?
How To Fuck in Public or Recession Era Hook-up Spots
Erotic Writing & Experiences
The Conclusion of the Duchess’s Adventure
Darklady’s Detention Hall (an Event Report)
Erotic Poetry
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Sub space and sex before bed
I walk into my bedroom, ready to cuddle and drift off to sleep with Q’s arms around me.
Instead, I find her masturbating, rubbing a buzzing vibe up and down on her clit.
As I start to fuck her (wearing nothing but a teal plaid newsboy cap), I pinch her nipple, and drag my nails down her chest, living lovely marks for me to admire.
I keep fucking her until she comes…and comes…and comes. And then as she shakes her head and begs “no no no!” I take the Hitachi from my night stand drawer, placing it on her oh so sensitive clit as she tries to get away from it, and from me. She can’t. The noises and moans she is making are absolutely delectable.
Afterwards, I cuddle her, and let her “koala bear” me. I continue to rub my nails over her back, and pinch and twist and bite and lick her nipples, keeping her in a sub space for almost an hour after sex.
When I ask her if she liked the new toys, she tells me “I like the toy. It feels good.” When pressed as to what felt good, she responded “the feeling felt good!”
With Q still high on endorphins, the two of us drifted off to sleep. I may or may not have woken up a few times in the middle of the night and played with her nipples until she moaned and almost awoke.
God I love her.
-Essin’ Em
2 commentsReview: Ice Lugez Boobs
When a certain sex toy store offered me the chance to review an ice luge, I’m going to be honest – I almost deleted the email.
What is ice luge, you ask, oh gentle readers? Traditionally, it is a large block of ice, with two tracks carved into it. You could either grab a friend and each do a shot, or have them pour a shot down one, and a chaser down the other, and hope you timed it right to get the correct amounts of liquid. Why? Because a) it’s fun and a little kooky, b) because it makes whatever you pour down it super cold and c) drunk college students will try anything. I think during my entire four years in undergrad, I tried an ice luge MAYBE two or three times. As someone who isn’t a big drinker, it was an amusing experience, but I couldn’t really see setting one up myself.
Except, when I mentioned it in passing to Q, she got really excited about it. Ergo, I decided to un-delete the file and get one. Choices were the ice rack ie boobs (which I got), or the “ice man” which is really a giant ice penis and balls.
Once I got it in the mail, it took a while before we had an appropriate occasion for using it. Most events were either inappropriate for boobs, or inside (I HIGHLY recommend doing this outside so you don’t worry about melting all over your floor.
Finally, there was a kinkster BBQ on Labor Day weekend. Perfect! We made the mold in advance, and although we were able to get it out, it involve 3 doms with knifes, and some aggressive actions with pliers. However, once set, with the red and white ice pucks underneath it (it made it purple – not sure why), it looked pretty awesome.
We had both alcoholic and non-alcoholic options, and the longer the ice lugez had to melt a little, the better the liquid poured through it. It was a huge hit, and lasted a good 90 minutes, two hours or so before it fell off the table and shattered. By that point, one of the nipples had been sucked off, but it was still functioning fairly well.
So everyone loved it, it provided a great deal of fun, and other than being ridiculously heavy to carry, it was freaking awesome. The only down side in my mind was that you could only love the ice mold once, and then had to destroy it to get it off…I wish it had been re-useable.
Click here to get your own ice lugez boobs or ice lugez penis.
-Essin’ Em
1 commentEmotional Turmoil
There has been a lot of news in my life as of late.
Q got offered the AMAZING position she interviewed for…at a university in Arizona. So for a couple of days, we went through all the pros and cons of moving to Arizona, versus staying here in Denver.
Finally, after much heartfelt deliberation and some tears, we came to a decision for her to take the job and move to Phoenix.
And literally, less than two hours later, I get a phone call from a local company, offering me an interview for a marketing coordinator position, for a good deal of money and benefits…namely, INSURANCE. The job descriptions fits me perfectly.
So there were more tears, and more heartfelt discussion, and a lot of emotional turmoil. I’ve had three panic attacks in the last week…which is a lot, given that I usually have MAYBE a full fledged one all of once a year.
We have some plans. But a lot of it is up in the air right now…which is really hard for me, and is causing a lot more anxiety.
Ergo, that’s where I am right now. I should know more in a week. But until then, my brain feels like emotional slush.
-Essin’ Em
3 commentsSex Toy Review: Rock Chick
As many of you know, I’m a rock star. And in my opinion, ever rock star should have a Rock Chick.
I review a lot of sex toys, but this is one I had always wanted to try, but had never gotten a chance.
It’s a whole different kind of vibrator — you’re supposed to insert one side to stimulate your g-spot, and the other side is supposed to hit your clit, and there is a fancy vibrator bullet thingy in the other end that makes the whole thing vibrate and such.
Of course, it’s phthalate-free and made out of silicone, which means that once you pop the bullet out, you can boil it (3 minutes), dishwash it (top self, no soap), or wipe it down with 10% bleach solution. As a side note, when you put the bullet in, daub in a little water-based lube first, and it’ll make it much easier to get in and get out. And always use water-based lube with
Q has a Rock Chick, and she really likes it. Before trying it, I figured that I was either going to really like it, or it was going to be a big, epic fail.
Verdict? Epic fail. I hardly felt any vibe on my clit, and while the interior part felt better, and was nice inside. However, it was nothing amazing. In fact, it didn’t even really make a different. I tried slipping the Hitachi under it, but it didn’t really do much.
It must work for people, as I know Q loves hers, and it’s a pretty popular toy overall. Maybe it’s just because I like more of a weapons grade sex toy on my cunt, but I don’t really “get” the big deal about the toy. Maybe it’s right for you, but my own vagina gives it One Star (out of 5)
If this rocking vibe sounds up your alley, click here to get your very own Rock Chick.
-Essin’ Em
3 commentsStrap On 101 at The Sex Show
Strap On 101 at the Sex Show 2009
Colorado Convention Center
Downtown Denver
September 26th, 8pm
Cost: Free with admission to show
Come learn all about the joys and pleasures of strapping it on. Discuss the pros and cons of different kinds of harnesses (ever wonder what the difference is between a g-string and a dual strap?), learn how to properly inset cocks and dildos into the rings, and contemplate a plethora of positions. This class is open to singles, couples and moresomes of all sexes and genders (we’ll cover pegging too, as well as using harnesses for cuckolding). Never used a harness before? That’s fine – we’ll start with the basics. Plus, everyone will get to try on harnesses with toys to get a feel for the different styles, as well as figure out what works best for them. Come ready to play!
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I got this corset for an amazing deal at Thunder in the Mountains. It’s beautiful and has flames on it.
I like to wear it particularly when I’m lighting people on fire, because then it looks really hot. Literally.
And it makes my boobs look really good.
Photo courtesy of the oh so foxxxy Q.
Happy Nekkid Thursday to all of y’all!
-Essin’ Em
9 commentsPleasurists #46
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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #45? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #47? Submit it here before Sunday September 20th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.
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Editor’s Pick
- G-Twist by Shanna Germain
The battery housing is slightly confusing — you have to press the sides in really hard in order to open it (I struggled with it for so long, I thought about asking my neighbor for help, but since I’ve not said anything more to him than “hello” and “oh, it’s really okay that your dog barked all night long, no worries,” I figured that showing up at his doorstep with a pseudo-cock, a couple of batteries and a helpless look wasn’t the world’s best idea).
Editor’s Note: While there have been a lot of G-Twist reviews lately from all the new GoodVibes Brand Ambassadors I think this one far surpasses the others (including my own). Not to say the others are bad, perish the thought, but just because this one actually made me smile at times and even chuckle at others.
On to the reviews…
Vibrators
- Fun Factory G-Twist by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
- Better Than Chocolate by True Pleasures
- Hitachi Magic Wand by toywithme
- Wonder Massager by Domina Doll
- Hitachi Magic Wand by Undressed Reviews
- Couture Collection – Enchanted by Eliot Bodem
- G-Twist by Beautiful Dreamer
- LELO Gigi by Sexorcism
- LELO Nea by Eliot Bodem
- LELO Mia by Alpine Subdreams
- LELO Gigi by Beautiful Dreamer
- Mini Wanachi Massager by Domina Doll
- Evolved French Kiss by Laurel
- Delight by Domina Doll
Dildos
- Alumina Revolve by Eliot Bodem
- RubyGlass21 Princess by Alpine Subdreams
- Dai Do #1 by Carnivalesq
- Tantus Captain/Squirt by ScottA.Reviews
Anal Toys
Toys for Cocks
Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.
- Inttimo Romance Aromatherapy Massage and Bath Oil by Sarah Estrella
- Afterglow Candle: Cucumber Water by AveryDragon
- Hot Stuff Warming Oil by The Duchess
- Sliquid H2O by Melen’s Rayne
- Discover G-Spot Gel by Ansley Agnello
BDSM/Fetish
- Under the Bed Restraint System by Essin’ Em
- Vacuum Cupping Set by Domina Doll
- Under the Bed Restraints by Arron Leone
Adult Books
- Opening Up by Thursday’s Child
- Healing Sex by Nadia West
- Sue Johanson’s Sex, Sex, and More Sex by Domina Doll
Adult Movies/Porn
- Champion by Undressed Reviews
- The Opening of Misty Beethoven by Domina Doll
- Behind The Green Door – The Sequel by J.D. Bauchery
- Her Porn Volume 1 – Disc 1 – Scene 2 by The Porn Librarian
- Girls with Guns by FrzKey
- Raw Live Cams by J.D. Bauchery
- The Intern by FrzKey
Sex Furniture
Lingerie
Miscellaneous
- Pjur Med Clean Wipes by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
- Babeland Toy Cleaner by Beautiful Dreamer
- Streem Master Anal Douche System by AveryDragon
- Leopard Duotone Balls by Alley
- Fun Factory Teneo Uno by Sexorcism
- Nipplecharms.com by The Duchess
- Tickling Bra by Dollfacekilla
Fat Rant
I am over fat hatred. Seriously.
I was listening to the radio on the way to work the other day — obviously a bad plan. However, my iPod was charging, so radio it was. And of course, I happen to turn it on to the “Celebrity Trash and Bash” part of the morning show. Where, of course, they made fun of celebrities for being fat…because know Mariah Carey is fat. Wait, what? And then they went on about Mo’Nique about her size…not even mentioning her role in a new movie that has Oscar buzz.
I switch the channel. More jokes about a guy who is hoping for “big things” from some sort of personal ad…obviously, by “big things,” he must be a chubby chaser.
WHY IS THIS OK?
What is wrong with our society that we are so judgmental of people?
I’m currently trying to lose some weight. I’m not trying to be not fat – I just gained a lot of weight during my jobless depression stage, and can’t afford to buy a new wardrobe. Ergo, I need to lose the weight I gained (especially before I hit this new jobless phase, and get all depressed again). But instead of people just being generic about their support (you know, saying good luck, or that they support me), it’s turned into a big thing.
People are telling me that “it’s about time” that I made this decision. Or that I’ll “look so great” when I’m done. Right…because it’s not like I can look great the way I am, obviously. Or when I explain I want to lose like 20 pounds, everyone seems shocked. “Don’t you want to aim for a goal weight of 150 or something?”
No. I don’t. First of all, I cannot afford a completely new wardrobe, and honestly, if I was 150 (which I haven’t been since I was 13 or so), I would definitely need a new wardrobe. Secondly, I’m ok with being a curvy/voluptuous/fat/fill in the blank woman. I don’t need to fit social standards of beauty.
I eat healthily. I’ve been a vegetarian 17 years…the kind that actually eats veggies, as compared to the kind who lives on grilled cheese and French fries. I exercise when my pain level is low enough. I make sure I eat enough protein. My cholesterol is low, my blood pressure is so low that I can’t take certain meds, and my doctor told me that overall, I’m one of his healthiest patients.
So if there is nothing wrong with me from a health perspective, how come I’m told I’m too big all the time. Clothing stores, magazines, even people I consider acquaintances. Why are we so focused on telling people, specifically women, that they’re too big, too fat, that they’re taking up too much space? Why is size one of the only acceptable “isms” left. It’s ok to tease us, make fun of us, use us, say hateful things to us…because it’s not longer as acceptable to joke about race, age, and sometimes sex (note: I said “as acceptable).
End rant. For now.
-Essin’ Em
Porn Review: The Crash Pad Series 4 – Rope Burn
I love the Crash Pad. And I love the Crash Pad Series. In fact, I love it so much that I shot for CrashPadSeries.com last January. They currently have the original movie, plus DVDs Crash Pad Series 1, Crash Pad Series 2, Crash Pad Series 3 and now, Crash Pad Series 4. I can’t decide which is my favorite.
Actually, I think this fourth DVD collection has some of my (and the general public’s) favorite scenes, including Ex and Muscle Beach, Sadie Lune and Tricksie Treat, and Jiz Lee and Dallas.
Basically, if you like hot, kinky, queer porn, you’ll like this. If you like stereotypical lesbian/gay for pay porn (think long fingernails and hours of licking clits), you won’t. If you like bondage and queer blow jobs, you will. If you like epic story lines and long woo-woo sex, you probably won’t. These are vignettes from the site, compiled onto one fancy schmancy DVD for your personal enjoyment.
The scene with Ex and Muscle Beach is very different. Lots of hot rope bondage (if you’re a rope slut, you’ll love the chest harness and sexy marks), a nice blow job, and more. It’s a very interesting and beautiful dynamic between the two. The one thing that makes me iffy about this scene is the forced ashtray bit, but that’s just cause it personally squicks me out. I’m sure some of y’all will love it.
Speaking of being anti-smoking, I loved the scene between Tricksie Treat and Sadie Lune. In fact, this being my experience seeing Sadie perform, I’m not gonna lie; I got a mega femme hard on for her. It’s got the power, almost teacher-student role play. It’s got Hitachi play (ok, you know I love that). It’s got fucking. It’s got damn sexy outfits. It starts out a little slow for my tastes, but it picks up quickly.
For me, the piece de resistance is the scene with Jiz Lee and Dallas. Why? Well, a) Jiz is pretty much my biggest porn star crush ever (and has the brains and wittiness to back it up – check out Jiz’s site at JizLee.com), b) Dallas is another of my porn star crushes (and is also a talented musician to boot), and c) the two of them have off screen chemistry which I’ve seen in person. While everyone on CrashPad does hot scenes, I find pairs (and trios) which have the off-screen chemistry as well definitely carry it on scene. Also, if you like jock straps, this is the scene for you. It’s hot, passionate, caring, amusing, fun to watch, and definitely gets me all bothered each and every time I watch it.
This collection did a great job on choosing the scenes to be included…other scenes (also hot, but I did pick my personal top 3) are with Cash & Stella, and Brookyln Flaco & Carson, which are also fun to watch. It’s actually my favorite Crash Pad movie so far. I give it 5 stars, out of 5. Pink and White (who produces Crash Pad) and Shine Louise Houston (who directs Crash Pad) has done it again – congrats!
Click here to get your own copy of Crash Pad 4: Rope Burn.
Click here to sign up online for CrashPadSeries.com to enjoy more scenes (and see me fucking as Scarlett Chaos).
-Essin’ Em
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