Oh, ho. It’s time for a socio-political post/rant. Please note that if you don’t like my opinions, you are welcome to dissent. However, you must do so politely. Rude comments and trolls will be deleted.
Not so radical statement of the day; if you are against equality of marriage (people being allowed to get married regardless of sex, gender, or presentation), you are telling a portion of the population, myself included, that we are second-class citizens, that we’re not as good as you.
Go ahead, dissent, PLEASE. I actually really want you to. Why? Because I have yet to hear a proper arugement against marriage equality.
Let me put forth that I don’t, in general, support marriage being a governmental activity. I mean, I’m all for weddings (religious or non-religious, unless they’re just ridiculously expensive) and commitment ceremonies and handfastings. I just don’t think there should be rights tied to ANYONE’S marriage, regardless. However, since there ARE rights (over a thousand, at last count) tied to being married, then I think everyone should be allowed to enter into a governmental marriage.
I know, I haven’t written a lot on it. Colorado turned down a referendum to offer civil unions in 2006, and there wasn’t anything marriage equality specific on the ballot last fall. While prop 8 was a big deal, and I’m so proud of Iowa, NH and other places, it hasn’t directly affected me.
But I have marinated on it a lot. And at the end of August, when Q and I were in Phoenix, and for the first time in my life I actually felt BAD for being queer, I realized it was time I speak up.
Let’s look at some arguements. Not just ones I’ve heard about, but ones that have been said to my face.
“If teh gays marry, people will want to marry their dogs.”
Riiiiight. Ok. So I’m not sure if you’re telling me that as a gay/queer person, I’m on the same rights level as a dog…but if you are, you’re a douche hat. Also, beastiality is illegal. Being queer in America isn’t. Done.
“Being gay is an abomination according to god/the bible defines marriage as between a man and a woman.”
Last time I checked, America was supposed to have separation of church and state. So really, while your bible/god may matter a hell of a lot to you, it doesn’t matter (or shouldn’t matter) to the government. Also, I’m sorry your god is a hateful and/or venegful god. I think god should be all about minding your own business. I bet you’d be pretty pissed if I told you that you couldn’t drive on public roads to get to church, because my taxes went towards your roads, and I didn’t believe in you going to church.
“If gays get married, it’ll make my hetero marriage so much less valid/you’re fucking with the sanctity of marriage”
True. I mean, it’s not like people get drunk and marry strangers in Las Vegas, get married to friends to avoid mandatory student housing in college, get married to gain rights/citizenships, get married and get divorced 1 years/6 months/48 hours later.
OH WAIT. I know people who have sone ALL OF THOSE. What sanctity of marriage?
“Well, I’m not homophobic/am pro-gay, I just am against gay marriage/marriage equality.”
THIS. PISSES. ME. OFF.
That’s like saying “it’s not like I’m anti-cripple. I just think that they don’t deserve to have elevators or ramps to get around.” Or “it’s not like I’m racist. I just don’t think black kids should go to school with white kids.” Or “I’m not sexist, I just don’t think women belong in office jobs.”
Ditto for people that think civil unions are the solution. Yes, it’s a step, but it is NOT the same thing. It’s saying “seperate but equal,” which as you may remember, was used to perpetuate racism.
How dare you (whoever you is) make me feel bad for being who I am, and how dare you tell me that I’m not as good as you because I am not just like you in my preference of lovers/partners.
If you against marriage equality, you are perpetuating homophobia, hate and biogtry. You made not agree, but that’s what it boils down to.
Imagine not being able to see the person you’ve loved all your life in the ICU or OR as they are slipping away, and you can’t even say goodbye, or tell them how much you love them, because you don’t have the rights. Imagine not being able to pick your adopted child up from school, because you’re not a “legal” guardian because it’s illegal. Imagine not being able to split up your assests through divorce preceedings because you were never really together, so it doesn’t matter if s/he leaves will all your stuff, and your kid(s). Imaging you have amazing health insurance and your partner REALLY needs it (for surgery, for cancer, for anything), and you can’t share it with them. Imagine not qualifying for a house/car/etc because the loan company wouldn’t combine your incomes because you’re not legally married. Now imagine over one thousand other situations like this.
Yeah. If you are against marriage equality (which can be either allowing everyone to get governmentally married, or not having governmental marriage period), you are subjegating an entire group of people.
I’m sure I’ll get a ton of hate mail on this. I’m ready. Because really, I don’t have much to lose, do I? It’s not like my partner and I are even close to being considered real citizens. Shame on you in advance, and bring it on.
-Essin’ Em9 comments