Sexuality Happens

From ruero.

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #44? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #46? Submit it here before Sunday September 13th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

• Anniversary Contest! A Story of You Deadline: September 12, 11:59pm Pacific.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest Deadline: September 12, 2009.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest- The Grand Fucking Prize Deadline: September 13, 2009.
• Community Interview with Doc Johnson Deadline: September 13th.
• Anal Pleasure Kit Contest Deadline: September 14th.
• Contest: Win an Njoy Pure Wand! Deadline: September 16th, 2009 at Midnight Eastern.
• Giveaway: Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels Deadline: September 25th.
• Top Five Tuesday – Win 1000 FREE Porn Minutes Deadline: Tuesday September 29th.

Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Editor’s Pick

• The Ethical Slut by Beautiful Dreamer

“How many people have you had sex with?” A few guys answered, I cheekily put in “I can just barely count them on my fingers and toes.” One of the guests, for whatever reason, yelled “Damn, your girlfriend is a slut!”. Aidan calmly & cooly replied, “Yes, she likes sex, where is there a problem in that?”

After all, my self pleasure and self respect should be all that counts. Not a number, not the kind of relationship I’m in, nor my sexuality. I am a slut. This book not only empowers that, it celebrates it.

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• Miracle Massager & G-Spot Accessory by Joan Price
• LELO Liv by Miss KissThis
• Ideal by Beautiful Dreamer
• Benjamin Bond by Eliot Bodem
• Triple Luxe by Eliot Bodem
• Fun Factory LayaSpot by Backseat Boohoo
• Earth Angel by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter
• California Exotic “Gracious” Couture Vibe by The Duchess
• Brigit by Melen’s Rayne
• LELO Gigi by The Countess
• Acuvibe Mini by Mina Meow

Dildos

• Fun Factory Curve by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
• VixSkin Goodfella by Mina Meow
• Dai-Do #2 by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Feeldoe Stout by Essin’ Em
• Mr. Bendy by Mina Meow

Anal Toys

• Moon Plug Xhale Glass by Carrie Ann
• Tantus Severin Medium by Wilhelmina Wang
• Fun Factory Bootie by Mina Meow

Toys for Cocks

• The Blossom Sleeve by True Pleasures
• Adam & Eve Reversible Stroker by Carrie Ann

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Good Clean Love Lube by Backseat Boohoo
• ID Him Leather Scented Lubricant by Carly Drew
• Babeland Massage Cube by Sexorcism
• Jo Warming Lubricant by Alley
• Inttimo Aromatherapy Massage Oil by Mina Meow

BDSM/Fetish

• Zeus Deluxe Digital Power Box by Red

Adult Books

• Bottoms Up: Spanking Good Stories,’ edited by Rachel Kramer Bussel by Sarah Estrella
• Kama Sutra Pillow Book by Sommer Marsden

Adult Movies/Porn

• Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels by Essin’ Em
• Cameron Jackson by The Porn Librarian
• China DeSade by FrzKey
• Her Porn Volume 1 (Disc 1) Scene 1 by J.D. Bauchery
• Rich Dreams by The Porn Librarian
• Words Worth Vol. 1 by FrzKey

Storage

• FYN Adult Toychest by Beautiful Dreamer
• FYN Essential Wristlet, FYN 5 incher, FYN Girl’s Best Friend by Carrie Ann

Lingerie

• Wet Look halter and crotchless panty with garter by Valyn
• Mesh ruffled bustier with g-string by Valyn

Miscellaneous

• Babeland Toy Cleaner by Carrie Ann
• SpareParts’ Joque Harness by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• G Spotter Attachment by Mina Meow

I’ve decided to write a series of articles, both for here and for Good Vibrations. It’s going to be called Sex 411: The Sex Ed You Never Got in School. It’s going to be informative, interesting and amusing, and it’s going to cover things that I (and hopefully you) deem important things about sex/sexuality/etc that you never got in your middle school/high school/college sexuality education classes. I already know some topics I’m planning on writing about, but I’d love to hear from you, from your friends, your partners, your kids, etc, about subjects that warrant discussion.

Here are some ideas I’m already planning on writing about:

*Lube; different types, when to use it, ingredient allergies, social perceptions

*Safer sex; how can we make barriers less icky and more sexy, since no one REALLY loves a condom/dam

*Period sex; pros/cons, how to do it safely, talking about it, etc

*How to talk with your partner about relationships styles (mono, poly, partner but playing, etc)

*How to come out as kinky

*First timers; how to deal with fears, concerns, etc, and figure out the right time

*Toys; introducing them, figuring out what works for you without blowing the budget

*Post sex activities; clean up, peeing (no UTIs), etc

*When you DO have an STI: people DO get them — how do you tell current, future and/or past partners

*Casual sex; how to have it while making it as safe and fun as possible

*Role playing: Types, discussions, etc

*Sex with/as a survivor; how to provide/ask for support, resources, etc

Any other ideas?  I’d love to hear them, and hopefully write about them.  Please comment here, unless you’d like to be more anonymous and send me an email at essinem at GMAIL dot com.  Either way, please, let me know topics you wish you’d learned in sex ed in your school(s), or from your parents, etc. If you can re-post, re-tweet, etc, and let people know about this, I’d really appreciate it!

Thanks!

-Essin’ Em

Babeland was kind enough to send me more hot dyke porn to review; Hard Love and How to Fuck in High Heels. They also sent an extra copy to Backseat Boohoo.

She and I have decided to team up for our own contest.  Sadly, since we have to pay the shipping, it’s for US addresses only (unless you want to pay the difference for international, and then it’s all yours!). This is a hot double feature (that’s right-  two films on one DVD, plus special features) with butches, femmes, bois, grrls and more, with delicious strap on sex, strip teases, and more.  One of the first dyke films available for general consumption, this is well worth having in your collection.

So now that you really really really want this film, how are you gonna get it?

This film is all about embracing the hottness of your identity. So to enter, please tell us what is the favorite part of one of one of you identities.  Tell us what you love about being queer, poly, monogamous, straight, able-bodied, disabled, tall, short, Butch, Femme, andro, business worker, etc. What do you love, how do you embrace it, what do you find sexy about it, anything about that.

Please re-post, re-tweet, etc.

Leave a comment here (with an email, so we can reach you if you win!).

Deadline: September 25th 11:59pm MST

Ready, set, go!

-Essin’ Em

Because I like kinky toys a lot, I’ve decided to enter Bad Bad Girl’s contest. Why? Cause I love sex toys (duh), especially kinky ones!

How does one enter? Well, first, you write a post about the existence of the contest, with a link. Check. And then, you go over to Extreme Restraints (a pretty epic kinky toy site).  Look through all the freaking awesome toys they have there. Make a wishlist. 

Post said wishlist.

Look at me! Look at me! I’m posting my wishlist. Click here to view!

(As a side note, if anyone is kind enough to send me anything from this wishlist, or actually any of these wishlists, we can make arrangements for private, exclusive photos, or erotica, just FYI. Email me for more info. Here are my other list: My Amazon Wishlist, My JT’s Stockroom Wishlist, My VibeReview Wishlist.)

So officially, I’ve entered. However, let me tell you why this contest is so awesome; the more people that enter, the more prizes there are for the grand price. What can you win?

Here’s what you can win as the entries increase:

Yeah, that’s right. So go enter too :)

-Essin’ Em

In continuing with my “cool events you should go to” schtick, I’d like to direct your attention to the Independent Erotic Film Festival that is being hosted by Good Vibrations in San Francisco, CA, on September 17th (I know, it’s too close to buy plane tickets…but if you’re already in the area, I highly suggest going!)

Here’s what they had to say:

Good Vibrations is gearing up for our fourth Independent Erotic Film Festival (IXFF), and we would love your help in getting the word out!  For over thirty years Good Vibrations has pioneered a tasteful and inclusive approach to sex toys and sex education for women and couples.  For the last four we have been celebrating indie filmmakers making sexy shorts.  Please check out our website and see a week of parties and screenings!  www.gv-ixff.org

So go forth, and enjoy erotic films.

-Essin’ Em

I can’t remember I time when I didn’t want a Feeldoe…and once they came out with a BLACK feeldoe (the feeldoe stout), I wanted one SOOOO bad. It was big, in my colors (black/red) and I wanted one.  Lucky for me, Vibe Review was kind enough to send me one.

Now, I’ve also been fortunate enough to try the Share (by Fun Factory), which has really grown on me, and the Nexus Sr, by Vixen Creations, which I’m ambivalent about.

The Feeldoe comes in 3 different sizes; slim, regular, and stout…and of course, these sizes are color coded.  I like bigger things in my cunt, and I like black best (above blue and purple), so it happened to work out very well that the Stout Feeldoe (the biggest one) was the black one.

I was excited to finally try it, and brought it to Phoenix with Q for our trip.  Saturday night, we had a romantic-ish evening, hoped into bed with vampire gloves, a knife, some lube, and the Feeldoe. I was ready.

Until we tried it out. Dear god, it was epic fail.  We tried the small end in me, big end in her, me on top. Then me on bottom.  Then we reversed it, with her holding the bulb like end in her cunt, and trying to fuck me…in like 5 different positions. Negatory commander.

It would pop out. It wouldn’t go in the other way. My cunt muscles would pull it out of her. You name it, we had the problem. Plus, while the length looked fine regularly, once you realize how far it need to go, plus my (or her) stomach area, you only actually get 2-3 inches inside you. Which was not doing it for you. 

I tried holding onto it and fucking her with it, but she looked at me like I was crazy. We gave up, throwing it aside for my fingers. Later on, she did parade around the hotel room holding it as a gun and making “pew pew”and “bang bang” noise, which at the very least did afford me some entertainment. 

I thought it might be just us, so I twittered about it. Here were my responses:

*gothicat@EssinEm it doesn’t stay in because I get too wet plus my tummy gets in the way so no not really

*cjducky@EssinEm ive read that same thing on alot of reviews.

*sexisfuncoochie@EssinEm I love mine though it does take some practice. And acceptance that it may pop out & I’ll grab it to finish the job!

*BackseatBoohoo @EssinEm Heard the same from plenty of people: good concept, but it just doesn’t work in practice.

*margaret1978@essinem I do not. It doesn’t fit me right inside and does not feel like it is secure. I never use it.

*wilhelminawang@EssinEm it’s an interesting and admirable concept… but it actually doesn’t work all that well

Basically, if you HAVE to wear it in a harness (as AAG suggested), just get a dildo you really like. Otherwise, try the Share – I LOVE it! The Feeldoe gets 2 out of 5 stars.

To get your own Feeldoe, click here. If you’re like me, and prefer the Share, click here.

-Essin’ Em

We’re going a little old school with this HNT…it’s from December 2005.  I used to say that if I could be a stripper (which I definitely can’t be now, what with not being able to wear heels for any period of time or be on my knees anymore), that one of my signature songs would be “Pour Some Sugar On Me” (runner up: Seventeen by Ladytron – how’s that for variety?).

Anyways, there is this one part of the song where OBVIOUSLY, you should be on your knees, having a bucket of water dumped on you, and be swinging your hair back.

And above, I am in my best friend’s apartment, demonstrating such.

If YOU had to pick just one song you think would be a perfect stripping song for you (in public or private), what would it be?

Happy Half Nekkid Thursday!

-Essin’ Em

Ripple Effect II by ~xXTaintedwhispersXx

Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #43? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #45? Submit it here before Sunday August 30th at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Want to win some free swag? All you’ve got to do is enter.

• Get Creative and Win! Deadline: September 4, 2009.
• One Year Anniversary Contest! Deadline: September 4, 2009 11:59pm Eastern.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest Deadline: September 11, 2009.
• BBG’s Big Bad Contest- The Grand Fucking Prize Deadline: September 12, 2009.
• Anal Pleasure Kit Contest Deadline: September 14th.
• Top Five Tuesday – Win 1000 FREE Porn Minutes Deadline: Tuesday September 29th.

Madame Editrix

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Editor’s Pick

• Fresh Chain Leash by AveryDragon

Humiliation on its own seems petty and mean; this I do admit. However, humiliation is the key for lust and passion when the person being humiliated secretly enjoys it. [...] Fresh uses bright pastel colors that a guy might get his girl to ease her into the idea of BDSM by showing it can be cute but still strong. In my case, when there are two guys involved, I make my boy take one for the team and work with products he never dreamed of being in.

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• G-Twist by Carnivalesq
• I Rub My Fishie by Ginger Leigh
• Armor Piercing Bullet by Sommer Marsden
• Couples Vacation Pleasure Kit by Amorous Rocker
• Nexus G-Play by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Tongue Joy by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• G-Twist by Essin’ Em
• LELO Mia by Alisa
• California Exotics Intimate Foreplay Kit by Alley

Dildos

• Tantus Feeldoe More by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Anal Toys

• Treeze Redwood Medium Tear Drop Plug by Wilhelmina Wang
• B Bomb by Carnivalesq
• Tantus Protouch by Miss KissThis
• Luna by Epiphora
• Tantus Ripple Small by AveryDragon
• Tantus Ripple Large by AveryDragon

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Sliquid Splash Honeydew Cucumber by Melen’s Rayne
• Probe Thick and Rich & Silky Light by ScottA
• Inttimo Shave Creme by The Duchess
• Daring Lemongrass Anal Relaxing Spray by AveryDragon
• Babeland Toy Cleaner by Sexorcism
• Astroglide glycerin and paraben free by Saraid
• Sliquid Splash Fragrance Free by Sexorcism

BDSM/Fetish

• Tantric Satin Ties Pleasure Whip by AveryDragon
• Vibrating Nipple Clamps by Carnivalesq
• KinkLab Spandex Hood with Built-In Blindfold by AveryDragon
• Under the Bed Restraints System by Epiphora

Adult Books

• The Bottoming Book by Essin’ Em
• Female Ejaculation and the G-Spot by Domina Doll

Adult Movies/Porn

• Sexual Sushi by J.D. Bauchery
• Stavros by FrzKey
• San Francisco Lesbians 5 – Scene 1 by The Porn Librarian
• TMSleaze by J.D. Bauchery
• Sweet Summer by J.D. Buachery
• Rough Sex by Epiphora
• Not the Bradys XXX: Marcia, Marcia, Marcia by Domina Doll
• Nina Hartley’s Guide To Great Sex During Pregnancy by Domina Doll

Miscellaneous

• Liberator Stage by Marla Singer St. Syr
• Upstairs Maid Costume by Sleeping Dreamer
• Liberator Fascinator Throe by Domina Doll

A couple of weeks back, I took Q to a local TNG play party.  After our first (and at this point, only) experience going to a play party together, I was nervous as to how it might turn out.

Luckily, this party was far less fail than the last won.  In fact, one might say that it was win.

We show up, and Q is packing the delicious Mr. Man dildo underneath her boxers and cargo shorts. She’s dressed like a punky high school boy, or perhaps a nerdy college kid. I’m in my sexy teacher/professor outfit; a knee length pin strip skirt with a flare at the base, a black button down that just can’t seem to stay buttoned (with a visible red bra underneath), vintage wing tip heels, and leopard print underwear beneath it all.

I lead her back to the medical room (the most private play area in this very open space), and have her lie back on the medical exam chair as I pull her cock out of her pants, and slowly and tantalizingly begin to suck on in. As it’s the Mr. Man, her clit can feel all of the suction as I her her a blow job, still standing up in my heels.  I’m teaching her, you see, a lesson in cock sucking.

Then I ask what she’d like to learn next, as I run my knife all over her exposed skin. She asks me if I’d show her how to ride someone, and after unbuttoning my shirt, and hiking my skirt up around my waist, I climb onto the table, and fuck myself on her cock as her hips ride up, bucking into me.  You can’t quite see what’s going on with the flare of my skirt in the way, and a few viewers were surprised to see me sucking cock…but we knew what was happening, and how fucking hot it was.

At this point, I was getting pretty bloody horny, and as fun as a nice cock is, I wanted Q’s hand inside me.  We put the Fascinator throe on the table for easier clean up, and I took off the remaining clothing and shoes, and climbed up.  Now it was her turn to show me what she’d learned as she ran a knife over my breasts, stomach, down my thighs and back up to my vulva, gently scraping it against my lips.

With some lube, and a the hitachi ready to go, she started fucking me. It felt so good that I was so loud…and was told to quiet down. Sheepishly, we continued, as I tried to keep my moans inside – a tough feat with someone like Q fucking my brains out. Eventually, her whole hand slid into me, and she was fisting me, and eventually punch fucking me. Of course, I was squirting all over the place- good call on the throe!

At one point, the Hitachi pulled out of the wall, and we had to engage some by-standers to help us plus it back in. But then again, stuff like that always happens with us, so no worries.

More fisting and moans, until eventually I was flying so high it was like being on drugs, and we did a quick clean up before headed to the aftercare room for some epic cuddling.

I think we scared some of those who had never seen fisting before, intrigued some others, and were told by many how much they enjoyed the scene.

Denver may not have a lot of public queer play, but when we do it, we do it big.

I’d say it was a success!

-Essin’ Em