Comments on: Sex 411: The Sex Ed You Never Got in School

By: Serena

Serena — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 20:07:52 +0000

How about an article about sex on your period – is it safe? Or increased risk for HIV?

Also, tips for using harnesses correctly?

By: Monkey

Monkey — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:38:56 +0000

You are awesome. :)

peace…

By: sinclair

sinclair — Wed, 09 Sep 2009 01:34:39 +0000

great idea! looking forward to the writings.

By: BD

BD — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 18:46:39 +0000

Great list. I recently overheard a group of about a dozen female college students discussing masturbation as “the sex of last resort”. I’d like to see more about the value of solo sex in its own right (self-discovery, self-acceptance, self-satisfaction, etc.). That it can be more than mindless and mechanical and it’s not inherently inferior to partnered sex.

By: Wilhelmina

Wilhelmina — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 18:31:09 +0000

i’m really glad that you’re doing this, and looking forward to reading a lot of those potential articles :)

more ideas:

* personally, i’ve always had trouble verbalizing my desires. i’ve experienced many different kinds of sex by now but that’s one thing that still makes me feel embarrassed, and it makes certain things kind of difficult – e.g. bringing up kinks when i’m in a sexual relationship with someone i’m not sure is kinky or not

* opening up a relationship that began as monogamous; or broaching poly to someone who doesn’t typically do that

* introducing toys into a sexual relationship

… i realize that most of what i’m interested in is “how can i introduce this thing i like to someone else without weirding them out?” lol

By: Rebecca

Rebecca — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 16:24:36 +0000

I think that sounds like a great idea! As you’re researching and thinking about things to discuss, I’d definitely check out the Midwest Teen Sex Show, which aims to be “sex information, not sex education.” They’re absolutely friggin’ hilarious and, although they’re aimed ad a slightly different audience than it sounds like you are, they do cover some similar topics.

(I’m not affiliated with them, just love watching their videos.)

By: surya

surya — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 10:55:53 +0000

great and speechless

By: Abby

Abby — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 10:00:19 +0000

*How to come out as NON-kinky, i.e. after someone comes out to you as kinky and you aren’t interested but don’t want to seem judgmental–you can be not into something and still think it’s okay for others.

*Learning about different labels, both in the BDSM world (top, bottom, submissive, dominant, etc) and the LGBTQIIA world (did I miss anyone?) i.e. I have heard “transman” refer to someone going MTF and FTM (usually the latter, but I’ve heard the former), how to keep from offending people with labels (sometimes unavoidable), and oh, while we’re talking about double meanings.

*The importance of clear language; terms may not have the same meaning everywhere!

By: Lena

Lena — Tue, 08 Sep 2009 08:51:57 +0000

While not particularly relevant to me, here’s another one that springs to mind that was certainly never discussed in school: sex during pregnancy