Sexuality Happens

Ok, you’ve waited.  I appreciate it much!  You voted – I appreciated that even more, since it was such a hard decision.  And now, without further ago, I present, my blogiversary contest winners:

The winner with the most correct answers is Juicy Justine. She wins prize pack one, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in RED from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A fantasy swing (worth $130!) from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A super fabulous Hitachi Magic Wand from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrosex Deluxe Digital Power Box with Insertable Attachment from Extreme Restraints

Under the Bed Restraints from Babeland

The winner with the most creative answers is Heather_Daisy. Thanks for voting y’all! She wins prize pack two, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in BLACK from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A Bed Bindings restraint kit from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A Goliath Silicone Dildo from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrogasm from Extreme Restraints

A Thigh Harness from Babeland

The winner who won the random number drawing is Garnet Joyce. She wins prize pack three, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in PURPLE from For Your Nymphomation

A Tantus Ryder butt plug from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A bottle of Pjur Aqua water-based lubricant from Vibe Review

An Odyssey Tickler from Babeland.

A USB Charging Lelo Mia Vibrator available from www.GoodVibes.com.

Thank you again to the wonderful sponsors:

SexToy.com, Babeland, VibeReview,ExtremeRestraints, CrashPadSeries.com, GoodVibes.com and of course, the lovely For Your Nymphomation.

And thank YOU for your entries, re-posting, sharing, etc.  What a fun and fabulous contest!  I can’t wait for my next (smaller) contest on the blog — look for something fun and exciting in December..and hopefully, I’ll be around next fall for another blogiversary contest!

-Essin’ Em

The lovely kiwi Curvaceous Dee has been so sweet and kind to bestow upon me the “You Are A Good Read Award.” Thanks honey!

So…this supposedly means I need to put forth 10 things about myself that I do everyday. Voila:

1. Read a book. I read. A LOT. A fuck ton.

2. Eat a piece of chocolate, preferably dark. Or reese’s.  I’m a choco-holic.

3. Take pills. A LOT of them. 3 neurontin, 1 allegra, 1 limbrel, 1 multi-vitamin, 1 B-12 supplement (I’m a vegetarian) a lot of advil. If I get a migraine, add between 2 – 6 midrin, an a butalbibital. If it’s a bad knee pain day, add oxycodone. Other issues require other drugs.

4. Play with/love on/pet our kitties. All three. A lot.

5. Cuddle with Q.  In the morning before work, while reading or watching TV, and at night in bed.

6. Drink tea.  I drink a LOT of tea. I have even more. We’re talking 40+ types. In my home. Yeah. I like tea a bunch.

7. Run around the house in either only my underwear, or completely naked.

8. Watch a crime show. I like Criminal Minds and the original NCIS best, but I’m really not picky.

9. Say something pervy. I mean, look who is talking.

10. Cook. I love cooking. Even if it’s just a portabella quesadilla, or pasta with a homemade sauce, I do love making things.

And now, to pass the award on.  Here are my great reads:

Sinclair Sexsmith – Many years and counting, and still one of the best reads on gender.

AAG – Amazing woman who is an amazing writer who gives amazing advice and has amazing sex.

Evey – She doesn’t post super regularly, but she’ll always be my moose, and is a super fun read.

Jiz Lee – Hot, both physically AND mentally.

Britni the Vag-Wig – Someone who made it onto my radar last summer, and whose depth I really appreciate.

That Toy Chick – Former co-work, friend, and someone on top of the sex toy news network.

Thanks Dee, and thanks everyone for being such great reads!

-Essin’ Em

Sinclair (of Sugarbutch.net) wrote an amazing piece this week on Femme Invisibility. I wanted to stand up and cheer. Thank fucking god and mooses that someone BESIDES the femmes has had the gumption to write about this. I’ve written about it before. People have written about it on the Femme’s Guide. Other femmes have written about it on their blog. But very few n0n-femmes write about.

It? It’s queer-looking privilege, for lack of a better term. It’s one of the things that the femme spiral I created and that some femmes (myself included) have tattooed on themselves was DESIGNED to combat. While in the past, it was hard for butches to be seen and visible, so they got the blue stars, it is now sometimes impossible for femmes to be seen an acknowledges in the queer community.  We are seen as feminine straight girls, alternative straight girls, bi girls who don’t know what we want. It’s as though wearing lipstick or heels (which doesn’t define femme, but seems to be an outside indicator of identity for many) somehow deletes our own queerness.

I’ve had this issue for years. It’s bad enough when I go to lesbian poker night, and get hit on by the only cis guy there, because he thinks I’ve wandered in to the wrong bar, just like he did, that I’m certainly not a dyke. But it hurts so much more when I would go to dyke nights, and have people stare at me, wondering what this “fruit fly” was doing there, when butch dykes would laugh at me when I offered to buy them a drink (because goddess knows no one was asking me), and ask me where my boyfriend was.

I hated wearing rainbows, but I did it all the time, because I wanted people to know. I’d “gender drop” in conversation (similar to name droping, but more like “oh, well, my ex-girlfriend used to ____” or “this trans guy I was dating did this thing____.”). No reason to other than it helped to “validate” my identity as queer to the people I talked to. I always feel like I have to out myself in conversation first, because I don’t “look” queer, whatever that means.

I used to tell people that I’d love to get a short “dyke hair cut” but couldn’t, because I’d have a Jew-Fro. Then I stopped telling them that. I love my longer hair. I like it curly, and I like it straight, and I love playing with it when I get ready. While I wear jeans and t-shirt some times, I much prefer skirts and dresses (ah, the breeze! and the ability to have an easy quicky at all times). I don’t wear a ton of make up, but I do enjoy what I wear. I like having the door opened for me by queer people, and I love cunt. Mine, and others people’s. Period.

When I’m out and about with Q, I am much more validated. We’ve talked about this a lot. As she is butch/gender queer identified, when she says “my partner,” or we walk down the street holding hands, i am much more often seen as queer. Why? Because she “looks” queer, and so if she’s queer, and we’re together, I must be queer by default. Obviously. But I’ve also been out with her, and have had other people hit on her. On one hand, this is hot. My partner is fucking sexy and wanted and awesome. On the other hand, as very few people are out as poly, them hitting on her makes the assumption that even though we’re sitting together or dancing together, I must not be queer, so therefore, she must be available.

I like being read as who I am. It’s one of the things that attracted me to Q in the beginning. She had some to my strap on class, and yes, I had thought she was cute, but I wasn’t really planning on making a move until she came up to me after it was done.  

Q: So, are your sex toys really coordinated to be red, black and animal print?

Me: Yes. Some white as well. It’s important to look good while fucking.

Q: Damn, you are SUCH a femme.

BAM. She saw me.  Just like Sinclair writes about, how every once in a while, femmes do get recognized and seen, Q saw me. She saw me, and she acknowledged me.  She didn’t ask me after my strap on class when the last time I’d had a guy fuck me (oh yes, I’ve been asked that). She didn’t try and quiz me on whether I was queer enough or not. She saw it and let me know, and we’ve been together almost a year now.

I hate feeling invisible. I feel it all the time, as a woman, as a queer person, as a disabled person. I am constantly having to speak up, to come out, to ask to be validated. I should not have to feel this within my own community.  I don’t assume that everyone who has short hair and a big belt buckle is queer, so why assume that anyone in a dress isn’t?

Would love for this to become a discussion, and am HIGHLY encouraging comments and more posts on other blogs about this issue.

-Essin’ Em

I like glass dildos a lot. I mean, granted, I like sex toys a lot…but ones with different materials (steel, aluminum, ceramic, wood, marble, etc) really get my engine going. Silcone, yeah, it’s pretty fucking fantabulous, but the amazing temperature play of cold glass sliding into your cunt, which subsequently warms it up until it’s almost hot…it’s pretty unbeatable.

Ergo, you can imagine how excited I was when I was told to look over all the new Simply Blown glass toys and pick one to review.  I chose the ruby spiral (medium) because I liked the look of the texture, and because I am shocked to admit that until this point, I have no owned a red dildo (*gasp!*).

When it showed up, it was BEAUTIFUL.  The way that the red glass was placed inside the clear, I felt a momentary concern that it was hollow (think I’m crazy? Turns out some of the Don Wands glass dildos are, in fact, hollow! Scary, huh?), but after examining it, and especially feeling how heavy it was (it’s definitely got some weight on it), I was not longer concerned. It is, without a doubt, a beautiful and extremely well made piece of glass, and like many of my toys, I plan on leaving it out on display when not using it inside me (post dishwashing or boiling, obviously).

I tried, I did. I really wanted to wait to try it out with Q…but things have been so crazy busy with moving, and trying to unpack, and now she’s started her job and is work 9-10 hours days. And I’m home alone, and horny. What’s a poor little femme to do, with such an exciting looking toy just sitting on the coffee table, waiting to be tried out?

My thoughts exactly.

One thing I love about glass is that you hardly need ANY lube – just a dollop will really get you going, and unlike some materials, it doesn’t absorb any, so you don’t really need to re-apply. One dollop applied, and in to me it slid.

I had wondered about the shape – most intertables I like have a curve, or a nubbin, or SOMETHING other than a straight line. However, I loved it. Really. The size was perfect (I’m imagining that I’d like the large too, but it would be a much tighter fit, so keep that in mind), and the ribs on it felt great, both stationary, and as I slid it in and out of me.  The weight felt wonderful…I love doing my kegel exercises with heavy toys inside of me – it feels AH MAY ZING, and it really gives your cunt a super duper work out.  Add in a little hitachi action, and I was off in la la land, far past the ability to count my orgasms.

Because of the base, this can also be used in your butt (but design wise, I’d opt for a glass plug instead probably…depends on your anus’s palette). To clean, wash with soap and water…but to sterilize (and be able to share your toy), boil it for 3 minutes, wash it on the top shelf of the dishwasher with no soap, or wipe it down with a 10% bleach solution.

Overall, 5 stars for this glass god. It’s actually, despite the more linear shape, my favorite glass toy I own…it’s definitely getting a spot in the nightstand!

Want one of these bad boys as much as I did? Click here to get yours hands on your very own!

-Essin’ Em

PICTURE REMOVED DUE TO DOUCHEHATTERY BY TWITTER MEMBER

DISCLAIMER: Q and I are fluid bound. Ergo, we don’t use latex with menstrual play. However, I highly recommend it (and require it for myself, and partners) for anyone who isn’t fluid bound.

With that said….remember the cute little turkeys that you’d make around Thanksgiving as a kid. Either by cutting out two hands and layering them, or using finger paint on your hand, then adding a gobble.

I was fucking Q’s brains out during her Shark Week (our own euphimism for that “time of the month”), and she was really bleeding all over me, to the point where my hand was just gloved in red.  Suddenly, inspiration struck.  The result?

This masterpiece:

PICTURE REMOVED DUE TO DOUCHEHATTERY BY TWITTER MEMBER

And with that, Happy Thanksgiving/Thankstaken (from a vegetarian) and Happy Half Nekkid Thursday (from a pervert)!

-Essin’ Em

She was nervous on the way there, and asked me to drive her car.  I did, although driving in a perfectly lace corset and 5″ heels is no joke.

She was nervous as we checked in, showing our brand spanking new APEX membership cards, and checked in.

She was nervous as we got brief introductions to all the people there; girls, women, butches, femmes, dykes, bisexuals, bois, grrls, etc. It wasn’t really a queer party per se, but I did feel like we fit.

She was wearing my favorite outfit of hers – a black shirt and a red and black tie, to match my flame corset perfectly. God, she is so god damn fucking hot.

She was nervous as we sat their, munching on cheese and pre-cut fruit platters.

She was nervous when I open the toy bag, selected a few floggers, a paddle, some black zipties, vampire gloves, a knife, a vibrator, a cane and 6 clothespins, which I clipped onto her tie for ease of access.

She was very nervous as I lead her into the jail cell room, until she realized no one was there.

She was only moderately nervous as I kissed her deeply, pulling first on her tie to bring her closer, and then on her hair, as I grabbed it and held her into me.

She seemed only a little nervous as I undid her shirt buttons and jeans, leaving her in only a black ribbed tank, boxes, and of course, her tie.

She was a bit more nervous as I bent her over the table, using the zipties to hold her arms in place as I pulled down her boxers. My hands gently slid over her as, until I began to spank her, giving her a warm up.  And then, I moved on to the paddle, and then, the cane.

I had to remind her to breathe.  We need to work on that, for both of us. Breathing is, shockingly, important.

She relaxed as I rand the sharp vampire gloves and knife over her ass and back.  Again, she tensed up as I hit her with the floggers…first, the smaller, more stingy one, and then, the larger, heavy, distinctly thuddy one. Red and black, of course.

I cut the tied, and brought her to the cross, removing her clothes completely.  I made use of the clothespins – a few on each nipple, and the vibrator, as I alternated it between nipples and cunt, all the while still kissing her, biting her, licking her, playing with the clothespins on her nipples. I slapped her face a bit when she forgot to call me Mistress.

She was only a smidgen nervous when I made her lie on the table, holding the vibrator to her clit. 

She wasn’t nervous at all when I slid my fingers into her…first two, then three, then four.

She wasn’t a bit nervous as I fucked her on that table with my left hand, reaching up to pinch her nipples with my right.

She wasn’t nervous, not in any sense of the word, as I fucked her silly, in my corset and short skirt, hand disappearing into her cunt, her moans making my own drip with anticipation.

-Essin’ Em

Ok, I’m assuming that everyone read about my blogiversary contest.  If you didn’t, just click the link.

There were some outstanding entries, both in the accuracy and creativity divisions. The accuracy one is much easier to judge. While a few of the answers have a bit of a spectrum, most are correct or in correct.  However, I’m having a hell of a time judging the creative side!  Remember, this is not about correctness of answers, but about the awesome creativity and uniqueness of delivery. This is where you, dear readers, come in. I have three entries I’ve selected as the most creative. I need you to watch/click through/read the three, and let me know which one YOU think deserves Prize Pack Two:

A FYN Foot long case in BLACK from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A Bed Bindings restraint kit from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A Goliath Silicone Dildo from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrogasm from Extreme Restraints

A Thigh Harness from Babeland

To vote, just leave a comment here for either Andrea, Jexibitionism, or Heather by the 28th, and I’ll have all three winners posted on the 30th.

Thanks,

-Essin’ Em

Andrea, FROM GERMANY, made me a freaking youtube video of the answers, as shown here (with fabulous music choices including Goldfrapp and Goddes and She!!):

And then, there was Jexibitionism, with an awesomely photoshopped entry (my favorite part? Kali rocking out on the Liberator Scoop, which is so true to life!).

On the other hand, Heather_Daisy from FetLife entered with a creative writing sample, as seen below (because who doesn’t want to be viewed as a sex savvy super hero? COME ON!):

Look! Up in the sky! It’s a bird, it’s a plane, it’s…Essin’ Em, the sex-positive superhero! Traveling throughout the world, she shares toys, lube and knowledge to make the world a happier, more sex-filled place.

VITAL STATS

Alter Ego: Shanna Katz

Age: 23

Education: Before donning her superhero garb, Shanna received a bachelor’s degree in Sociology and German and a master’s degree in Human Sexuality Education.

Last Known Whereabouts: Recently seen in Colorado, Essin’ Em has also been spotted helping spread the joys of sex in the six states of New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Colorado, California, and Washington as well as Germany.

Primary Ability: While her ability to come copiously is well-known, Essin’ Em’s superpower is communication. Although the fact that she can roll her tongue is worth noting.

Primary Weapon: The Hitachi Magic Wand is this supergal’s most powerful tool to help one of her favorite body parts – the cunt. Some of her other favorite doodads in her arsenal against bad sex include Lelo, Smartballs, Thigh Harness, Pjur’s Body Glide, and vampire gloves.

Trademark Outfit: Dressed to kill in cat’s eye glasses and her flame corset (featuring fave colors red and black), Essin’ Em eschews the traditional spandex for something a little bit more conducive to some of her kinkier activities, including fire play and forced orgasms. Unlike other sexy superheroes, she does not wear pink.

Identifying Marks: Essin’ Em might be one of the few tatooed superheroes (most people have never seen the skull and crossbones tattoo on Wonder Woman’s inner thigh). She currently has 5 tattoos, including a femme spiral, a pig with wings, a crescent moon w/ stars and tears, an ‘all who wander are not lost’ quote, and two people embracing. While some bystanders have sworn that the tattoos physically leave her body and aid her in her fight against phthalates, no current photo or video recordings exist to prove this urban myth.

Sidekicks / Known Associates: Essin’ Em has been romantically linked with a number of other delightfully deviant perverts, including K, F, J, M, L, S, and her current partner, Q.

Essin’ Em belongs to The League of Extraordinary Bloggers, which are like the Superfriends, but with more sex. Some of these bloggers that Essin’ Em has been known to pal around with include Audacia Ray, Jamye Waxman, Lolita Wolf, Sasha Sappho, Fivestar, Always Aroused Girl, Vera Worthington, and Sinclair Sexmith, who has also been nicknamed “the Femme Finder” for her ability to help young lesbians find their identity.

Kali and Kinsey, two feisty cats, occasionally accompany Essin’ Em and help her review the non-sexual benefits of Liberator furniture.

BRIEF BIOGRAPHY She isn’t an alien from another world. She wasn’t bitten by a radioactive spider. She didn’t see her parents killed by an evil villain. Essin’ Em is just a girl trying to bring a lot of joy…and a lot orgasms…to the good people of this little blue planet.

Essin’ Em entered the kinky superhero world via her first job in the “adult industry,” as a reviewer for EdenFantasys. This led her to work with a variety of organizations to help battle bad sex, including popular toy producers For Your Nymphomation, Liberator, Babeland, Extreme Restraints, and Good Vibrations as well as porn producers Crash Pad, GoodDykePorn, and NoFauxxx.

When she’s not lusting after Jiz Lee or trying to make the world a better place by fighting for homosexual, animal and gender rights, Essin’ Em spends her time giving advice via The Lesbian Lifestyle, Out Front Colorado, and her Facebook fan page, which was set up by The Kinky Librarian.

Some people love love love rope. They love the feel of it on their skin, the feel of being secured, the look, the process of getting there. Others love doing the tying – the rope running through their fingers, the beautiful designs that they create. People can spend hours with rope, getting in and out of different ties, wearing it around, etc.

I am not one such person. Rope frustrated me.  It takes so long to do, and it really tends to cut into my play time.  I’ve been suspended, but it took so long to get up, that by the time I was flying, all my joints hurt, and I was up for all of 4 or 5 minutes before I had to come down. I’d rather just use good restraints and a spreader bar.

However, I have decided that it’s important that I learn how to do SOME rope stuff. Not a ton, but some good basic ties. They will definitely come in handy.  I’ve taught myself the gauntlet/corset ties already, since I can do them on me, and don’t need someone to practice on. Next step is to find a willing Guinea pig who will let me try out some basic bondage ties on them. Hmmmm…

I have both Two Knotty Boys Showing You the Ropes and Midori’s The Seductive Art of Japanese Bondage. While I am completely broke, I would love to get Lee Harrington‘s Shibari You Can Use. If anyone else has any other suggestions on how to learn some basic basic basic rope stuff that even I can understand, I welcome any suggestions.  Otherwise, I’ll definitely update you as to how this…adventure of mine turns out.

-Essin’ Em

Once again, Rori over at Between My Sheets has put together a list of what she (and some other sex bloggers) consider the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2009.  As always, there is drama as to who is where on the list (similar things happened this year with this list, and also with the Top Sex Toy Reviewers of 2008 list). It’s important to remember that any such list is, and will always be subjective. I’m just excited to have been included on it for two years running now.  Please head over and tell her thanks :)  I’ve included the list below in its entirety so that you can check out some other awesome sex bloggers.  Italicized ones are some of my favorites as well!

-Essin’ Em

And now, without further ado, the Top 100 Sex Bloggers of 2009:

1. Coquitten (website)
2. Alexa (website)
3. AAG (website)
4. Bad, Bad Girl (website)
5. TBK (website)
6. Mistress Matisse (website)
7. Miss Mia (website)
8. Thursday’s Child (website)
9. Roger (website)
10. Sinclair (website)
11. Sylvanus…
12. and Mina (website)
13. Natt Nightly (website)
14. Jake (website)
15. Lyn (website)
16. Adriana Ravenlust (website)
17. Sexy Sadie (website)
18. Shay (website)
19. Lilly (website)
20. Nadia (website)
21. Joan Price (website)
22. Madison (website)
23. Anal Amy (website)
24. Z (website)
25. Essin’ Em (website)
26. Easily Aroused (website)
27. Blacksilk (website)
28. Sleeping Dreamer (website)
29. Melen…
30. and rayne…
31. and Master KKT…
32. and cinnamon (website)
33. That Toy Chick (website)
34. Red (website)
35. Tom Allen (website)
36. Vix (website)
37. Coy Pink (website)
38. Lady Pandorah (website)
39. BackseatBoohoo (website)
40. Epiphora (website)
41. Aurore (website)
42. Miss KissThis (website)
43. Storm (website)
44. Ron Jazz (website)
45. Josie Jacobs (website)
46. Distracted (website)
47. Deviant Dyke (website)
48. Joanna Cake (website)
49. Sapphire Jay (website)
50. Sarah (website)
51. Kimberly (website)
52. Duchess (website)
53. Figleaf (website)
54. The Caged Songbird (website)
55. Kaya (website)
56. Ms. Justine (website)
57. Luka (website)
58. Ang (website)
59. Perverted Negress (website)
60. Harlot (website)
61. Vixen (website)
62. Anakan…
63. and Padme (website)
64. Wilhemina (website)
65. Axe (website)
66. Amber (website)
67. Lucy Vonne (website)
68. Rogue (website)
69. SSS (website)
70. Kyle (website)
71. Amorous Rocker (website)
72. Sera (website)
73. Lolita Wolf (website)
74. Elle (website)
75. Scarlet St Syr (website)
76. Charlotte Thorpe (website)
77. An Unassuming Girl (website)
78. Maymay (website)
79. True Pleasure (website)
80. Bad Influence Girl (website)
81. Diva (website)
82. Raven Quince (website)
83. Autumn (website)
84. Vanilla Impaired (website)
85. Wil (website)
86. Robin (website)
87. Panthera Pardus (website)
88. Ell (website)
89. Miss Communication…
90. and Captain Pants…
91. and A.E. (website)
92. Roxy (website)
93. Secretly Naughty (website)
94. Abby Williams (website)
95. Subheart (website)
96. Sequoia Redd (website)
97. Innocent Loveboy (website)
98. Liljgrrl…
99. and Nawa*G (website)
100. YOU! As always that last person on the list is you. Please, please, please leave a comment below promoting your own blog (or the blog of someone you love). Links are welcome, as long as they lead us to a sex-related blog, not a retail website or porn aggregation site.

Also, I really was SHOCKED that Curvaceous Dee was not on this list. She is without a doubt one of my top TEN favorite bloggers, and writes at curvaceousdee.blogspot.com. Please visit her site as well!

I received some GREAT entries to my blogiversary contest, including some super duper creative ones. It’s going to take me a few days to figure out the winners, but until then, here are the CORRECT answers to the scavenger hunt.

Also, thanks again to my amazing sponsors; SexToy.com, Babeland, VibeReview, ExtremeRestraints, CrashPadSeries.com, GoodVibes.com and of course, the lovely For Your Nymphomation. Without such awesome and generous companies, there would not have been such a rocking contest.  

I’m not going to lie. I’m relieved to get some of these toys (most companies are shipping direct to the winners, but SexToy.com shipped to me first) out of my house. Do you realize how much space a box for a sex swing takes up?  If I can’t use it, the answer is TOO MUCH!

Congrats in advance to the winners, thanks to all the fabulous entries, and here are the answers.  Until next year…

-Essin’ Em

ANSWERS:

How old I am: 23 (turning 24 on December 9th – just saying…)

My real name: Shanna Katz

The names of my cats: Kinsey, Kali and Jasper (Jasper is a newbie, as he use to belong to Q and now is one of our kids.  So BOTH Kinsey/Kali and Kinsey/Kali/Jasper are correct)

The number of lettered partners (ex: Q) I have had on my blog, and list them: 8: J, K, C, L, M, F, S, Q were the main letters. However, I also had Miss P, Miss D, and Miss/Mistress S. Again, either 8 or 11 are acceptable.

Five of the companies I do review for (or have in the past): Any 5 of the following – Liberator, SexToy.com, Babeland, Vibe Review, Good Vibrations, EdenFantasys, Smitten Kitten, JimmyJane, ExtremeRestraints, RubyGlass21, Jollies, LoveHoney, Vibrator.com and Lelo.

Where my first job was in the “adult industry”: HotMoviesForHer.com (which I found as a CL posting for GayHotMovies.com,and was lucky enough they wanted me for HM4H!)

My number one porn star crush: Jiz Lee (shockingly, EVERYONE got this right. Hmm, how could that be?)

What happens everytime I get another 100 followers on Twitter: Tweet a nekkid (or often, NAKED) picture

Who created my Facebook Fan Page: The Kinky Librarian

One blogger who helped me to find/understand my Femme identity: There were many, but the main ones were Sinclair Sexsmith, Miss Avarice, Dylan (who I believe no longer blogs?) and Lady Brett Ashley.

How many tattoos I have, and what they are (bonus if you know their meanings): 5 tattoos
*Crescent moon with 4 stars and a tear drop. The tear drop is for sadness. Moon is the present and the stars are my future.
* Flying Pig with a banner below it that reads “Aba” which is Hebrew for father. It’s a memorial for my father. Pigs were my dad’s favorite animal.
*“Not all those who wander are lost.” A quote from LoTR. I’m a nerd, and a bibliophile, and it says a lot about the multiple directions of my life.
*Two people embracing. One is more femme in appearance, which represents (sometimes) me.   The other is sex and genderless. Two people embracing – is it love, or sex, or just comfort? It is my embrace of sexuality, of love regardless of gender.
*Femme spiral  - my (and several other Femmes’) reaction to the blue butch/dyke star.  To show I am a Femme, to help me be recognized, etc.

The other country have I lived in: Germany (Lueneburg, to be specific)

Number of states I’ve presented/taught in (bonus for which ones): Six states –  New Jersey, New York, Pennsylvania, Colorado, California, and Washington. Also, Washington DC, which kind of counts.

My absolute favorite toy ever is: Hitachi Magic Wand. If you missed this, COME ON! Just kidding.

Two of my favorite kinky activities: I have many! They include fire play, sharp/knife play, forced orgasms, electricity, fisting, cupping and more.

Eight sex/uality bloggers I have met in person: I’m lucky enough to have met MANY. Audacia Ray, Jamye Waxman, Sinclair Sexsmith, Jiz Lee, Viviane Tang, Lolita Wolf, Boymeat, Jefferson, Wendy Blackheart, Heather Corinna, Tristan Taormino,  Courtney Trouble, That Toy Chick (we even worked together), Always Aroused Girl, Britni the Vagwig, Natt Nightly, Domina Doll, Furry Girl, Cunning Minx, Margaret (They Belong to Us), Sarah Dopp, Avatar Koo, MayMay, Miss Calico, Miss Avarice, Ellie Lumpesse, Chris (My Sexual Misadventures), Sasha Sappho, Rachel Krammer Bussel, Kinsey (Let’s Blog About Sex), Lee Harrington, CASizemore (more of a tweeter than a blogger), Mina Meow, Debauched Diva, Urban Gypsy, Jimbo Jones, CarnivalSQ, Sabrina Morgan, Miriam Perez (Feministing), Evey (Voyeur on Display), Mollena, Fivestar, Scarlett and Marla, Madison Young (who writes Kinky Feminism), Sequoia Redd, Jack Stratton, and Bella Vendetta (more a porn star, but awesome!). Phew. I think that’s it. If I missed you, comment and I’ll update.

Three issues I feel VERY strongly on: Some main ones are – Queer visibility and equality, fat acceptance, ability rights/accessibility, sexual assault discussion and prevention, animal rights, trans access to care and inclusivity, comprehensive sexuality education, body-safe sex toys/lubes/etc.

Five of my top ten toys/lube/etc: Here is my list o’ my top 10 sex toys.

Three of the four porn companies I’ve shot for: CrashPadSeries, GoodDykePorn, NoFauxxx and VegPorn (not yet up).

The color I am allergic to: Pink. Like woah fuck.

Two of my favorite colors (bonus for all three): Red, Black and Leopard Print (it IS a color, damnit, but Rain, kinkster from FetLife, was the only one to get this one).  White and silver were common, and good, guesses.

My degrees are in: A B.A. in Sociology and German and an M.Ed in Human Sexuality

One of my favorite body parts: Options include legs, breasts, hands and eyes.

What is special about my tongue: It’s geographic.

Site my advice panel is on: The Lesbian Lifestyle

Site my column is on: Out Front Colorado

BONUS QUESTIONS:

The number of comments on this blog: 4,815 as of Wednesday, when I wrote this post.

The number of posts on this blog: This post makes post 1085 (according to my dashboard)