Comments on: Come out, Come out http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/ Sat, 14 Jan 2012 10:32:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: alphafemme http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10459 alphafemme Wed, 18 Nov 2009 04:12:50 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10459 I've been meaning to comment on this post for weeks but access to this site is blocked at work and that's mostly where I do my blogging and blog-reading, so that's my excuse for not poking my head up until now. I'm alphafemme. I'm, well, femme... sex-positive, trying to figure out whether kinky as an identity fits me or not. I'm from San Francisco, and I'm definitely a nerd, but you wouldn't necessarily know it from looking at me. Monogamous, queer. All that jazz. In my twenties. The first post that had me hooked here was the one on the five ways of loving. I think my favorites in general are the relationshipy ones, or the ones that are sort of theoretical/abstract/speculative (e.g. the one you just did on able-bodied privilege). I like being provoked to think. I blog about my life and sex, pretty much through the lens of a young queer femme identity. It's at alphafemme.wordpress.com. And I'm on twitter too at www.twitter.com/alphafemme, but I haven't quite yet figured out what to do with twitter. So it sits there, mostly, with the occasional little chirp. Thanks for blogging! It's definitely broadened my horizon. Hope your pain subsides soon. Cheers, alphafemme I’ve been meaning to comment on this post for weeks but access to this site is blocked at work and that’s mostly where I do my blogging and blog-reading, so that’s my excuse for not poking my head up until now.

I’m alphafemme. I’m, well, femme… sex-positive, trying to figure out whether kinky as an identity fits me or not. I’m from San Francisco, and I’m definitely a nerd, but you wouldn’t necessarily know it from looking at me. Monogamous, queer. All that jazz. In my twenties.

The first post that had me hooked here was the one on the five ways of loving. I think my favorites in general are the relationshipy ones, or the ones that are sort of theoretical/abstract/speculative (e.g. the one you just did on able-bodied privilege). I like being provoked to think.

I blog about my life and sex, pretty much through the lens of a young queer femme identity. It’s at alphafemme.wordpress.com. And I’m on twitter too at http://www.twitter.com/alphafemme, but I haven’t quite yet figured out what to do with twitter. So it sits there, mostly, with the occasional little chirp.

Thanks for blogging! It’s definitely broadened my horizon. Hope your pain subsides soon.

Cheers,
alphafemme

]]> By: Kel http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10406 Kel Sat, 07 Nov 2009 22:20:35 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10406 Hey, I'm Kel. I'm a queer, 24-year-old girl from Oregon. Found your blog several years ago and have been cheerfully lurking every since. I'm a little bit genderqueer, not quite butch but definitely not femme. I have a voyeuristic interest in kink. I liked the sexual manifesto best, I guess, but I also love just hearing about how things are going. And I love HNT. Because I think you are stunning. And I love hearing your views about disability, this being a particular area of interest of mine. Best wishes on your move. That can be a really stressful experience and I hope it brings you and Q closer together. Hey, I’m Kel. I’m a queer, 24-year-old girl from Oregon. Found your blog several years ago and have been cheerfully lurking every since. I’m a little bit genderqueer, not quite butch but definitely not femme. I have a voyeuristic interest in kink. I liked the sexual manifesto best, I guess, but I also love just hearing about how things are going. And I love HNT. Because I think you are stunning. And I love hearing your views about disability, this being a particular area of interest of mine.

Best wishes on your move. That can be a really stressful experience and I hope it brings you and Q closer together.

]]> By: Sara http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10399 Sara Sat, 07 Nov 2009 06:04:32 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10399 Hi there! I'm Sara. I'm currently living in the US, though I've lived all over the world. My major identities are still secrets here on this part of the intarweb, but I am comfortable revealing that I am bisexual, kinky, and nerdy. I was initially attracted to the site for your reviews, but it earned repeat visits because your pictures make it seem more personal. I'm still a little new, so I'm not sure what I like most or least yet. You can find me at: http://effinawesome.wordpress.com http://twitter.com/effinsara Hi there!
I’m Sara. I’m currently living in the US, though I’ve lived all over the world. My major identities are still secrets here on this part of the intarweb, but I am comfortable revealing that I am bisexual, kinky, and nerdy. I was initially attracted to the site for your reviews, but it earned repeat visits because your pictures make it seem more personal. I’m still a little new, so I’m not sure what I like most or least yet.

You can find me at:
http://effinawesome.wordpress.com
http://twitter.com/effinsara

]]> By: annajcook http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10390 annajcook Fri, 06 Nov 2009 02:00:35 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10390 Hi! I've had your query tagged in GoogleReader for a few days now, and have finally found a minute to respond . . . I found your blog via one of my other many feminist RSS feeds (I've forgotten where now) and it's been awesome reading along in GoogleReader. I don't comment much on any blogs right now because other parts of my life take up too much time -- but I really enjoy reading what you have to say. I'm a graduate student in history and library science at a small college in Boston and I work as a library assistant at the Massachusetts Historical Society. My scholarly interests are in the history of education, history of feminist activism, history of sexuality and gender, and the intersection of all of these things with community, religion, politics, and radical social change (whew!). I really hope to build a post-grad-school career as a librarian/archivist providing reference information for people working in these fields -- as well as continue to do my own research in these areas. Blogs like this are often where I find some of the best resources on sexuality out there -- so keep blogging! ~Anna Hi!

I’ve had your query tagged in GoogleReader for a few days now, and have finally found a minute to respond . . .

I found your blog via one of my other many feminist RSS feeds (I’ve forgotten where now) and it’s been awesome reading along in GoogleReader. I don’t comment much on any blogs right now because other parts of my life take up too much time — but I really enjoy reading what you have to say.

I’m a graduate student in history and library science at a small college in Boston and I work as a library assistant at the Massachusetts Historical Society. My scholarly interests are in the history of education, history of feminist activism, history of sexuality and gender, and the intersection of all of these things with community, religion, politics, and radical social change (whew!). I really hope to build a post-grad-school career as a librarian/archivist providing reference information for people working in these fields — as well as continue to do my own research in these areas. Blogs like this are often where I find some of the best resources on sexuality out there — so keep blogging!

~Anna

]]> By: ALAH http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10380 ALAH Thu, 05 Nov 2009 06:23:03 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10380 Hi hun! I have been following u for about 6 months now. I found u on twitter thru a couple of other sex toys reviewers i follow. I love hearing about ur life, Ur SEX life, Q, and ur reviews of porn and sex toys. I just find what u say so entertaining and at many times very insiteful. I think it is me indulgeing my voyueristic habits. I also think u are very good looking. U are built how i like my women, lol. But I know ur queer and I am a het Male so i will just injoy the show from here. So for ur knowlege I live in Northern Minnesota, my real name is Alex, I am married and have a 3 yr old son and this is what I do on teh interwebs. twitter.com/a_lah fetlife.com/al-13 livejournal.com/alah13 myspace.com/aalah THank u and keep on blogging and i will keep reading....and lurking, lol! Hi hun!
I have been following u for about 6 months now. I found u on twitter thru a couple of other sex toys reviewers i follow. I love hearing about ur life, Ur SEX life, Q, and ur reviews of porn and sex toys. I just find what u say so entertaining and at many times very insiteful. I think it is me indulgeing my voyueristic habits. I also think u are very good looking. U are built how i like my women, lol. But I know ur queer and I am a het Male so i will just injoy the show from here. So for ur knowlege I live in Northern Minnesota, my real name is Alex, I am married and have a 3 yr old son and this is what I do on teh interwebs.

twitter.com/a_lah
fetlife.com/al-13
livejournal.com/alah13
myspace.com/aalah

THank u and keep on blogging and i will keep reading….and lurking, lol!

]]> By: Lola Wants http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10379 Lola Wants Thu, 05 Nov 2009 02:23:20 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10379 Hi there! What name do you go by on the magical interwebs? I have a few "noms de Internet", but lately I've been going by Lola. We'll stick with that for a while. Seems to fit. What part of the world do you call come? (be as general as you want) NYC What are some of your identities? I'm still discovering all that I am, but at this moment I'm a bisexual wife, mother and slut, wending her way through a relatively new open marriage. What’s your favorite thing about the site? You've got a great "voice", and you're very relatable. What changes would you like to see? nada! Favorite post, if you have one? Things I’ve Discovered I Like, among others, as I'm very much in discovery phase myself! Where are you on the web? Twitter/Fetlife/Blog/etc? I tweet as @LoLoLolaWants, and I'm Glaurious on FetLife. I don't have a blog...yet. But I do have a lot to say and sort through. Just can't decide if my inspiration trumps my laziness! Hi there!

What name do you go by on the magical interwebs?
I have a few “noms de Internet”, but lately I’ve been going by Lola. We’ll stick with that for a while. Seems to fit.

What part of the world do you call come? (be as general as you want)
NYC

What are some of your identities?
I’m still discovering all that I am, but at this moment I’m a bisexual wife, mother and slut, wending her way through a relatively new open marriage.

What’s your favorite thing about the site?
You’ve got a great “voice”, and you’re very relatable.

What changes would you like to see?
nada!

Favorite post, if you have one?
Things I’ve Discovered I Like, among others, as I’m very much in discovery phase myself!

Where are you on the web? Twitter/Fetlife/Blog/etc?
I tweet as @LoLoLolaWants, and I’m Glaurious on FetLife. I don’t have a blog…yet. But I do have a lot to say and sort through. Just can’t decide if my inspiration trumps my laziness!

]]> By: Curvaceous Dee http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10376 Curvaceous Dee Wed, 04 Nov 2009 05:35:18 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10376 I am Dee the Curvaceous, writing all the way over here in New Zealand. I choose quite a few labels, not least: fat, kinky, polyamorous, pansexual, kiwi, cis-female and migraneur. I always find your story, your life, your experiences, interesting. I appreciate that you are a not-small, disabled, queer woman who I love to interact with! Favourite post is a long-time favourite: <a href="http://essin-em.com/2007/08/being-out-vs-being-out-there/" rel="nofollow">Being Out vs Being Out There</a> I'm all over my blog, twitter, and FetLife - links for the latter two are at the former. xx Dee I am Dee the Curvaceous, writing all the way over here in New Zealand. I choose quite a few labels, not least: fat, kinky, polyamorous, pansexual, kiwi, cis-female and migraneur.

I always find your story, your life, your experiences, interesting. I appreciate that you are a not-small, disabled, queer woman who I love to interact with!

Favourite post is a long-time favourite: Being Out vs Being Out There

I’m all over my blog, twitter, and FetLife – links for the latter two are at the former.

xx Dee

]]> By: Angel deSanguine http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10375 Angel deSanguine Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:15:23 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10375 Hey hey! I have posted a comment or two, but that's about it... I'm more of a reader/ ponderer than a commenter. :) I blog, though not as regularly as some, over at DirtySexyThoughts.wordpress.com.. I'm also on Twitter, which I rarely use and have a Fetlife account that I think I may have logged into one whopping time in the past six months or so. Hmmm... Miami is my hometown, though now I'm lost in the bible belt. Identities... I am a butchy, bitchy, sassy, quirky, kinky, somewhat hot-headed bi switch female with Dominant tendencies. I can cook and bake like a fiend, do construction work and am a bit of a grease monkey. Fuck and Cunt are quite possibly the two best words in the English language. I hate purple sex toys, bigots, text speak and domestic beer. I enjoy your frankness and intelligent writing. If you are having a fucking fabulous day, you say it. If your day is just shitastic, well dammit, that goes out there too. Life is not all lollipops and rainbows, nor is it all crap and I appreciate the balance between the two. Hey hey! I have posted a comment or two, but that’s about it… I’m more of a reader/ ponderer than a commenter. :) I blog, though not as regularly as some, over at DirtySexyThoughts.wordpress.com.. I’m also on Twitter, which I rarely use and have a Fetlife account that I think I may have logged into one whopping time in the past six months or so. Hmmm… Miami is my hometown, though now I’m lost in the bible belt.

Identities… I am a butchy, bitchy, sassy, quirky, kinky, somewhat hot-headed bi switch female with Dominant tendencies. I can cook and bake like a fiend, do construction work and am a bit of a grease monkey. Fuck and Cunt are quite possibly the two best words in the English language. I hate purple sex toys, bigots, text speak and domestic beer.

I enjoy your frankness and intelligent writing. If you are having a fucking fabulous day, you say it. If your day is just shitastic, well dammit, that goes out there too. Life is not all lollipops and rainbows, nor is it all crap and I appreciate the balance between the two.

]]> By: MD http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10374 MD Wed, 04 Nov 2009 04:10:31 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10374 In the world of the internet I go by MD or MOD. I'm 23, I enjoy reading about sexuality, gender and all that comes with it. I just finished graduate school and have decided to go to law school. The photography here is amazing. I'm exceptionally complicated when it comes to gender, always have been. I've contributed to a few blogs but I don't keep track of most of it. I'm also a Texan (as is the person who commented above me!) In the world of the internet I go by MD or MOD. I’m 23, I enjoy reading about sexuality, gender and all that comes with it. I just finished graduate school and have decided to go to law school. The photography here is amazing. I’m exceptionally complicated when it comes to gender, always have been. I’ve contributed to a few blogs but I don’t keep track of most of it. I’m also a Texan (as is the person who commented above me!)

]]> By: dayglow http://essin-em.com/2009/11/come-out-come-out/comment-page-1/#comment-10373 dayglow Wed, 04 Nov 2009 02:34:55 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=2892#comment-10373 I'll come out as a lurker! I have a couple of internet names depending on where I happen to be. I am always very private on the internet and never share identifiable information. Well, I do have a facebook page, but that's a completely separate thing. I post on a couple of discussion forums and follow a few favorite blogs, but I don't do any blogging, etc. myself. I think Twitter is annoying. I am a 33 year old woman from Virginia. I am a nurse, a dog owner, submissive, unconventional, thoughtful, introverted, and compassionate to a fault. Some blogs just really click with me, and yours is one of them. I've only been reading since around the time you first met Q, so I have really enjoyed reading about how your relationship has progressed. I like how into sex you are and how you're willing to put yourself out there and open up to the world on your blog. I like your honesty. I can't really think of any major changes I would like to see except maybe hearing and seeing more of Q, but I totally respect her comfort level with that. I'm looking forward to hearing about your new experiences in Phoenix! I’ll come out as a lurker! I have a couple of internet names depending on where I happen to be. I am always very private on the internet and never share identifiable information. Well, I do have a facebook page, but that’s a completely separate thing. I post on a couple of discussion forums and follow a few favorite blogs, but I don’t do any blogging, etc. myself. I think Twitter is annoying. I am a 33 year old woman from Virginia. I am a nurse, a dog owner, submissive, unconventional, thoughtful, introverted, and compassionate to a fault. Some blogs just really click with me, and yours is one of them. I’ve only been reading since around the time you first met Q, so I have really enjoyed reading about how your relationship has progressed. I like how into sex you are and how you’re willing to put yourself out there and open up to the world on your blog. I like your honesty. I can’t really think of any major changes I would like to see except maybe hearing and seeing more of Q, but I totally respect her comfort level with that. I’m looking forward to hearing about your new experiences in Phoenix!

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