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Pleasurists is a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days from bloggers all around the sex blogosphere. Did you miss Pleasurists #51? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #53? Submit it here before Sunday November 1st at 11:59pm PDT. Please re-post this list on your own blog if listed.

Note: Apologies for being late yet again, I was so hoping not to be this week. In case you don’t follow Pleasursts on twitter I was in the hospital for a few days and sans laptop. Sorry!

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Editor’s Pick

• Tantus Vamp by Amber from Scarlet’s Letter

I love this toy! The color is rather unique to most other realistic dildos. The subtle sparkle of the silicone makes it pretty without being too loud and obnoxious. The ridges and texture of the shaft of the toy feels marvelous, and the slightly curved prominent head of the toy feels fantastic.

Note: I am endlessly amused by the Tantus Vamp, plus it was just Halloween, and Amber’s great review was too good to pass up as an editor’s pick. I just wish Tantus would make a sparkly red one, I’d be all about it.

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• Little Chroma Birds and Bees by Carnivalesq
• Alumination by Carnivalesq
• Vibratex Japanese Butterfly by Joan Price
• Iconic Pocket Rocket by Sleeping Dreamer
• Vibratex Thumblina by Dani Darling
• Death By Orgasm by Shay
• Vibratex Rabbit Pearl by Red
• Symphony Rhapsody by Sommer Marsden
• Acuvibe Mini by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew

Dildos

• Tantus Alumina Motion by Essin’ Em
• Kong the Realistic by Eliot Bodem
• Tantus Alumina Motion by Lady Evyl

Anal Toys

• Tantus Ryder by Saraid
• Treeze Teardrop Plug by Eden Cafe

Toys for Cocks

• Waterproof Wall Banger by Dragon Mage

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Hathor Aphrodisia Lubricant Likeurs, 1 by Beautiful Dreamer
• Hathor Aphrodisia Lubricant Likeurs, 2 by Beautiful Dreamer
• Pink Silicone by Ginger Leigh
• Kama Sutra Bedside Box by Sarah
• Jimmyjane Afterglow Candle by Sex Kitten
• Earthly Body Suntouched Massage Candle by Sexorcism

BDSM/Fetish

• Slut Paddle by Kyle Jones

Adult Books/Games

• Truth or Dare: A Game of Passion by Undressed Reviews
• 3D Kink by Nadia West
• 52 Sex Positions Flashcards by Luna Orignaux
• Best of the Best Women’s Erotica by Lady Evyl

Adult Movies/Porn

• Seven Minutes in Heaven: Coming Out! by Undressed Reviews
• Post-Apocalyptic Cowgirls by Sinclair Sexsmith
• Abby Winters by Mystyfi
• Seven Minutes in Heaven by Shanna Germain
• Zombie Nation 2 by J.D. Bauchery
• The Killer Hot Robot by The Porn Librarian
• The Inquisition Volume 8 – Dungeon Of Pain by FrzKey

Miscellaneous

• Just In Case by Sexorcism

I did this first in 2007 and had great success.  I got some cool sci-fi and fantasys books from Candy Poses, a beautiful chain maile necklace from Lady Brett Ashley, a fan-freaking-tabulous day in New York City with Audacia Ray (and a stop to see Jamye Waxman!), and a fun trip to see Sweeney Todd on Christmas with my Jewish Queer sister from another mister, Butterscotch Cripple.  I did it last year, and while I go fewer things (including beautiful satin sheets from Curvaceous Dee), I was able to grant a lot of people’s wishes, so it was also rocking. I’m going to do it against this year, because it worked so well for me (don’t worry – I sent people things too!).  So please, read it over, and if you see anything you can help me with, I’d really appreciate it.  Also, please repost it on your blogs/social networking sites, and leave a link here so I can see what you’re fiening for 

I know I’m posting it kind of early, but my birthday is December 9th (see, holiday and birthday season double up for me), and I celebrate Channukah, so I thought I’d get it done early.

-Essin’ Em

Holiday givng-type meme: I’m all for it. Here’s the cut and paste:

Step One
- Make a post (public, friendslocked, filtered…whatever you’re comfortable with) to your LJ or Myspace or Blog. The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
- If you wish for real possible things, make sure you include some sort of contact info in your post, whether it’s your address or just an email address at which you can be contacted by potential wish-grantors, real or imaginary.
- Also, make sure you post some version of these guidelines in your post, so that the holiday joy will spread.

Step Two
- Surf around your friends list/blogroll/RSS feeds (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list.
- If you see a wish you can grant, and it’s in your heart to do so, make someone’s wish come true. Sometimes someone’s trash is another’s treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don’t want or a gift certificate you won’t use–or even know where you could get someone’s dream purebred Basset Hound for free–do it.

You needn’t spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn’t to put people out, it’s to provide everyone a chance to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not–it’s your call.

There are no rules with this project, no guarantees, and no strings attached. Just…wish, and it might come true. Give, and you might receive. And you’ll have the joy of knowing you made someone’s holiday special.

Wishlist If you happen to want to send me any of this gifts, please email me at EssinEm at gmail dot com or comment on here. Thanks in advance

1. Size 6g ear jewelry in metal, glass, stone, or wood.  I don’t have any pretty ones at all, only what I used to stretch to 6g.  Since I’m planning on staying this size, I’d love some nice plugs, or dangly ones as well.

2. A flight to Canada, Seattle, San Francisco, Mexico, Italy, Germany, Portland, etc.  Basically, if you somehow have a ton of extra miles, I’d love love love them.

3. Total knee replacements on both knees. I can’t afford them, I don’t have insurance, I really need them badly. I can’t really even walk up stairs anymore, and have mega trouble getting in and out of my car.  I don’t know how the hell someone could give these to me, but if you could (I need them in both knees), you would make my life. Literally. It would give me back part of my life.

4. A nice cat tree/condo thingy. Something fairly big (our three cats are 10lbs, 14lbs  and 15 lbs…so they don’t fit in the cute kitten ones, and knock down the unstable ones).  I really want to give them something nice, but I can’t afford it.

5. A violet wand (with or without fancy attachments). Yup. That’s self explanatory.

6. A new-er car which is higher off the ground than my 2003 Dodge Stratus. I need to to be at least a 2003, and would be willing to trade Titania (my car) for it.  I just have issues getting in and out of a car so low.  Plus, my A/C isn’t working, which will kill me next spring in AZ.

7. A weekend get away to the mountains, somewhere, sometime. I just need to get away (preferably with Q or a friend) and relax and process and remember to start loving life again.

8. A way to get some of the tattoos I want. The spiral tree of life on my right calf, and the one that combines the feminist symbol and the gender spectrum symbol on my other calf, and a elemental chest piece.

9. A way to go to the AVNs in Jan 2010. I’d need transportation from Phoenix, a hotel and a pass (I could probably afford the tickets, but that’s it). As always, the AVNs are in Vegas in January.

10. Sexy fuck me boots/platform boots/knee high boots/thigh high boots…in a size 10. With big calves, cause I have ballet dancer/figure skater/derby girl calves that pretty much never fit into boots. And most “wide calf boots” that I do find are fucking ugly, and/or have no heels/height. Preferably LOW heels, or a wedge, given my knee issues.

11. A good cupping set (used is fine!).  Prefer glass for fire cupping, but pressure cupping set would be awesome too!

12. Pretty eye make up.  Esp MAC and Urban Decay.  I also need a good, long last bright red lipstick. And Estee Lauder Beyond Paradise perfume.

13. My apartment is a mess, and needs to be organized.  I haven’t even finished unpacking my boxes. I need someone to help me cull things, and straighten up so everything has a place.

14. Any DVD from Pink and White. I want them all. I have only Champion and Crash Pad 4.

15. Leopard print floor mats and rear bench cover for my car.  It’s a Stratus.

16. People to come visit me in Arizona! I miss my friends, and I want my sex blogger friends to come meet me and hang out!

17. Tickets to the symphony. Tickets to an NHL hockey game. Tickets to a play – I miss seeing shows.

18. A genius marketing plan so that I can make money talking about things I care about and am passionate for.  A way to get out my name and get hired more. A magical PR person of amazingness.

19. A red, single breasted wool coat, size XL.

20. Leopard or zebra print ANYTHING

21. Black or red solid color waist cincher (I’m a size 16/18 if that helps)

22. A recumbent bike (stationary OR mobile)

23. A set of two or three matching canes, preferably in Red/Black/White color combos

24. An NJoy Eleven…you know, that amazing steel dildo I used in my scene for GoodDykePorn

25. Gift certificates for food, clothing and/or places like Target.

Also, any thing from my wishlists on the right side bar.  As always :)

Thank you a caboodle in advance. Please don’t forget to post your list too, so I can try and grants some wishes too!

-Essin’ Em

Tristan Taormino, Photo Source

Tristan Taormino is a rockstar of sex positivity, and a personal idol of mine.  I am hoping to be lucky enough to go hear her speak at the new Fascination in Scottsdale, AZ this Thursday, and finally meet her in person. Her book Opening Up is a brilliant look at the various types of non-monogamy, and her other book Down and Dirty Sex Secrets is a great all encompassing sex book for everyone.  Moreover, she has great videos that bridge the gap between educational and pleasurable/porn, from The Ultimate Guide to Anal Sex for Women to her Guide to Rough Sex, and of course, her awesome series Chemistry . She even has her own rocking butt plug! She was also the editor of Best Lesbian Erotica for many years – check out BLE 2009 for a sexy story about me written by Sinclair Sexsmith. If you live in one of the following places, I HIGHLY recommend getting out to see her! (And if you come to Scottsdale, make sure you say hi to me as well). For more info on Tristan, check out www.PuckerUp.com

That’s all for now,

Essin’ Em

Sunday, November 8, 5:00 pm potluck, 6:00 pm workshop
Santa Fe, NM
KINKY POSSIBILITIES: OPEN RELATIONSHIPS IN THE SCENE
People who practice BDSM and those who are in Dominant/submissive relationships face unique challenges in both designing their open relationships and making them work. Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers practical advice and strategies for dealing with specific issues related to being open and kinky. We’ll cover: common open relationship styles within BDSM communities and how they can work best; creative ways for giving everyone a voice in the negotiation process; dealing with jealousy and other intense feelings; and practical conflict resolution skills. In the interactive facilitated portion of this workshop, participants will be encouraged to share their stories, issues, and solutions.
RSVP: see the Fetlife event page or email for details!
Location: see FetLife event page for location & directions, not on FetLife? email me!
Info: tristan (at) puckerup dot com

Monday, November 9, 7:30 pm
Albuquerque, NM
ANAL PLEASURE 101
In her most popular workshop, one she has taught around the world for over 9 years, Tristan introduces you to the world of anal pleasure. In this funny, education class, she covers a wide variety of topics, including: myths about anal sex; anal anatomy, the G-spot, and the prostate; basic preparation and hygiene; lubes, anal toys, and safer sex; anal penetration for beginners, and much more!
Location: Self Serve, 3904B Central Ave SE, Albuquerque, NM 87108
Admission: $30, register now to reserve your spot
Info: 505-265-5815
URL: www.selfservetoys.com 

Thursday, November 12, 7:00 pm
Scottsdale, AZ
“LET’S TALK SEX” with Tristan Taormino
Sex expert, author, and adult filmmaker Tristan Taormino will share her top ten ways to use toys and other accessories to take your sex life to the next level! She’ll tell you her picks for the best lube, vibrators, dildos, butt plugs, men’s toys, and more! She’ll talk about creative ways to use toys and other sexy goodies to transform your bedroom into an erotic playground. Plus, you’ll be able to ask her all your burning questions in a supportive, non-judgmental environment. Join Tristan as she takes you on a tour of all you need to know to have sensational, mind-blowing sex!
Location: Fascinations, 14747 Northsight Blvd., Scottsdale, AZ 85260
Admission: free and open to the public
Info: tristan (at) puckerup dot com

Saturday, November 14, 7:00 pm
Minneapolis, MN
ANAL PLEASURE 101
In her most popular workshop, one she has taught around the world for over 9 years, Tristan introduces you to the world of anal pleasure. In this funny, education class, she covers a wide variety of topics, including: myths about anal sex; anal anatomy, the G-spot, and the prostate; basic preparation and hygiene; lubes, anal toys, and safer sex; anal penetration for beginners, and much more!
Location: Smitten Kitten, 3010 Lyndale Avenue, South Minneapolis MN
Admission: $30, pre-registration is required
Save on tickets: sign up for multiple of Tristan’s in-store events and save!! Just $50 for 2 workshops, $60 for ALL THREE!
Info: 612-721-6088
Email: info (at) smittenkittenonline.com
URL: www.smittenkittenonline.com 

Sunday, November 15, 7:00 pm
Minneapolis, MN
G-SPOT & FEMALE EJACULATION
Whether you don’t know how to find your G-spot or you’re an experienced G-spotter looking for some new techniques, find out all there is to know about G-spot anatomy, how to find your or someone else’s G-spot and orgasmic G-spot sex. Also learn about myths and truths about female ejaculation-what it is and isn’t and tips and techniques to try out at home.
Location: Smitten Kitten, 3010 Lyndale Avenue, South Minneapolis MN
Admission: $30, pre-registration is required
Save on tickets: sign up for multiple of Tristan’s in-store events and save!! Just $50 for 2 workshops, $60 for ALL THREE!
Info: 612-721-6088
Email: info (at) smittenkittenonline.com
URL: www.smittenkittenonline.com 

Monday, November 16, 7:00 pm
Minneapolis, MN
DESIGNING YOUR OPEN RELATIONSHIP
Are you considering an open relationship? Does your current open relationship need some tweaking? In this interactive workshop, relationship expert and author of Opening Up, Tristan Taormino will explore common myths, real-life benefits and challenges, and how to decide if an open relationship is right for you.
You’ll learn to articulate what you want, identify and negotiate limits and boundaries, communicate with your partner(s) in productive ways, and create relationships that work for you.
Admission: $30, pre-registration is required
Save on tickets: sign up for multiple of Tristan’s in-store events and save!! Just $50 for 2 workshops, $60 for ALL THREE!
Info: 612-721-6088
Email: info (at) smittenkittenonline.com 
URL: www.smittenkittenonline.com 

Tuesday, November 17, 8;00 pm
Princeton University, NJ
Beyond Monogamy: The Case for Open Relationships
A Book Talk with Tristan Taormino
Relationship and sex expert Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth research, interviews with over a hundred women and men, and her own personal experiences, Tristan explores the real-life benefits and challenges of open relationships in her new book. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino argues that we must question the fairy tales and challenge the myths we’ve been taught about love, sex, intimacy, and commitment- only then can we create relationships that are honest, fulfilling, and really work.
Sponsored by LeTS.
Location: TBA
URL: www.princeton.edu/lgbt/events
Info: tristan (at) puckerup dot com

Wednesday, November 18, Noon
Princeton University, NJ
Queer Sexualities
Lunch Talk with Tristan Taormino
What does it mean to be queer, sex positive, and sexually empowered? Join Tristan Taormino for an intimate discussion about queer sexuality. Society bombards us all with mixed messages about sex that are often confusing and contradictory. LGBTQ people are especially vulnerable to stereotypes and negative representations of our sexuality. How do we come to terms with feelings of shame, guilt, and anxiety about our desires? How can we learn to embrace and cultivate our erotic power in order to build confidence and create fulfilling relationships?
Sponsored by the LGBT Center and Women’s Center
Location: LGBT Center Rainbow Lounge (Frist 247), Princeton University
URL: www.princeton.edu/lgbt/events
Info: tristan (at) puckerup dot com

November 20-22, 2009
Worcester, MA
TRANSCENDING BOUNDARIES
6th Annual Conference
The Transcending Boundaries conference for bisexual/pansexual, trans/genderqueer, intersex, and polyamorous people and our allies. We are pleased to announce that this year’s keynote speaker will be renowned alternative sexualities speaker Tristan Taormino. 
The conference strives to foster community, provide safe space, educate ourselves, and overcome societal sex, gender, and sexuality boundaries! Join us for open mic and Transgender Day of Remembrance reception, dynamic workshops, parties and entertainment, and a keynote luncheon with Tristan Taormino. We welcome everyone, from local, regional and national leaders in the bi, trans, intersex and poly communities to newcomers and allies. TBC works hard to make our conference safe, affordable and accessible for all.
Location: DCU Center and the Hilton Garden Inn in Worcester, MA
Admission: Register online at www.transcendingboundaries.org

We’re here. In Phoenix.

And while things with Q and I are still good (despite a couple of miscommunications, which have since been resolved), everything else has fallen apart.  

The cats are getting on fairly well, but Jasper decided to “mark his territory” all over my nice, synthetic down Eddie Bauer comforter…which now needs to be dry cleaned.

My cell phone charger broke en transit…right before what was supposed to be my interview, making me have to buy another $30 one last minute.

My MacBook charger decided to start sparking, making me have to order another one. For $45.  No computer = no possibility of freelance work, which is the only work I am looking at right now.

The ReloCube place was supposed to be open on Sunday to call for pick up.  No answer. I called Monday, and they told me the cubes would then get here Thursday instead of Wednesday. Fine. We told Q’s new co-workers to come on Thursday, instead of Wednesday. Then, Thursday afternoon, I hadn’t heard from them, and called. Apparently, there was some mix up, and the cubes were still in Albuquerque, New Mexico. And would now be delivered at 6am on Friday. Yeah.

My interview on Wednesday got rescheduled last minute to Friday. However, I didn’t have internet at home (still don’t!) due to the ineptness of both Cox and Qwest (the two local providers), so I didn’t get the email, and spent half an hour anxiously panicking that they chose not to call.  Then, with the rescheduling of both the interview and the cubes, I have to get up at 6am the same morning as my interview.

The internet and cable/phone companies have been sucking my ova filled ovaries.

Because we had to change our insurance since Q’s temp plates expired this weekend, and she needed to register her car, we had to change mine too (joint plan, for the discount). However, that means I need to register my car here, even though I JUST paid the cost in Colorado in August. It also means I need to get new handicap permits…which means finding a GP to refer me to an Orthopedic Surgeon, and then paying for all those visits. And I have to get an emissions test.

I broke a 6g plug on my left ear. I don’t want to have to restretch them, but I can’t really afford new plugs either.

The complex’s hot tub heating system is broken, and it isn’t hot. So we can’t even soak to de-stress.

My car’s AC is still broken (it would have cost $1544 to fix). Which is fine for driving at night. However, driving in 90+ degree weather during the day? Not so bueno.

I haven’t really been able go to places to drop resumes, as I had neither interview clothes, nor a printer (both were in the cubes).

Her couch got a GIANT rip in it during moving…and we gave mine away in CO.

On the positive side,  I DO have my driver’s license here. It’s good through 2050. Yeah. 41 years.  No wonder my auto insurance went up.

So now we’re both COMPLETELY broke, I have no idea when or if I’ll be making any money, I still need to pay off my tonsil surgery. Q starts work the 16th, so she won’t be getting a paycheck for a while, and I won’t for even longer.

Hopefully, things figure themselves out, and soon. Otherwise, we’re not going to have food money in a few weeks.

And that is where things stand. When exciting, happy things happen, I will post them. Until then, this is how things are.  Sorry.

-Essin’ Em

Liberator was kind enough to send me a smaller item to review this time…you know, until Q and I move in together and have more room for the items I’m dying for, like the Esse or the Buckaroo (hint hint, nudge nudge).

What did I get? A set of beautiful crimson silk binding sashes — two sashes of 14 feet a piece.  You can also get a set of two 7 foot sashes, OR a deluxe set of all four sashes.

I was a little apprehensive. I mean, the sashes are absolutely stunning.  I didn’t want to play too rough with them, for fear for breaking them, or lighting them on fire, or getting wax/bodily fluids on them, etc. I held off using them until I could show them off for everyone. You know, my Femme side coming out and all.

So I waited until Spanktrum (Denver’s new women and trans play party) that I hosted back in October.  Q and I went, and before I did a fabulous and fun fire scene, I tried tying her up in a variety of pretty ways.  Some worked better than others, but always, in the end, the silk wound up sliding down her arms, and the knots/bows tightened too quickly.

Then I was lucky.  A certain feisty Femme friend of mine wanted to be tied to the St. Andrews cross and have everyone in the party come kiss, lick, suck, hit and play with her.  Since she’s not into super tight/serious bounds, and she is into pretty things like I am, I decided to use the beautiful sashes to wrap around her arms and tie her into place. Let me just tell you, she looked even more stunning than she already did in her vintage style garter belt.

These are her arms:

Only problem?  After a while, the sashes tightened a bit, and I had to let her down earlier than planned. On that note, they’re not good for any serious bondage, weight bearing bondage, or long term bondage.  On the other hand, if you’re just getting into tying each other up, these would be a really great, and beautiful option for a new bondage lover, or someone just wanting to lightly tie up their lover. I do enjoy the variety of sizes and colors, and look forward for using this to help out newbies, while still being beautiful and classy.

Also, you can keep the sashes in the package that they came in, which is really nice. You wash them in cold water, and iron as needed.  They also can attach well to Black Label liberator furniture — in my case, I tried on the Black Label Scoop.  I’d say 4 stars overall (out of 5).

To get your own set of these stunning sashes (in any of three colors; black, red or “champagne”), click here.

-Essin’ Em

I got this sassy new dress a few weeks ago.  It was on sale, and fit perfectly.  I debuted it at Spanktrum, but how perfect is it for teaching sexuality ed classes, putting on toy parties, and role play. I mean, come on! It’s like librarian/secretary/professor outfit, and Q’s eyes were close to falling out of her head the first time she saw me.

The shoes, on the other hand, are not so perfect for my knees, and the blister on my pinky toe. They lasted all of ten minutes before I switched over to my (use guessed it) sparkly flip flops.

I raise my glass to hot, multi-purpose, make me feel sexy dresses that are on super sale.  Every Femme needs at LEAST one!

Happy Half Nekkid Thursday!

-Essin’ Em

CURTAINS RISE, CLOTHES DROP
FOR PORNOTOPIA

Self Serve Delivers Third Annual Erotic Film Festival to Anxious Albuquerque Audiences

Albuquerque, N.M. (October 23, 2009) – Hosted and curated by adult retail boutique Self Serve and co-presented by Albuquerque’s last independent art house, Guild Cinema, the third annual Pornotopia Film Festival comes November 6-8, 2009.

This year, Pornotopia features three days of pleasing programming, engaging live talks, rousing on-stage performances and will welcome guest Tristan Taormino, the award-winning author, columnist, editor and sex educator.

As one of only a few erotic film festivals in the country – and the only festival of its kind in the Southwest – it’s no surprise the festival has received some skepticism and scorn in years past.  But despite its controversy, Pornotopia has received overwhelming support for being a festival whose aim is to change the way people see sexuality portrayed in film. Thanks to its champions, like the New Mexico ACLU, community sponsors and volunteer committees comprised of all walks of life and sexualities, the festival has expanded in 2009 with even more screenings, live performances and events

“Pornotopia is a community created and run festival that celebrates filmmakers who aren’t afraid to keep it real, when mainstream porn fails to satisfy,” says Matie Fricker, Self Serve co-owner and festival director.  “Pornotopia showcases sex on the big screen that is healthy, tender, raw and beautiful.”

Notable films and special events scheduled during the third annual Pornotopia Film Festival include:

♥ Pornotopia Launch Party ♥ Thursday, November 5th ♥ 6:00 p.m. ♥ FREE ♥ @ Self Serve

Description: Come and get all the festival details & celebrate its pent-up “release”! Purchase festival tickets, bid at the weekend-long silent auctions & peruse our in-store specials! FREE refreshments provided by Marble Brewery. RSVP required for attending. 

♥ Vintage and Vaudeville ♥ Friday, November 6th and Saturday, November 7th ♥ 10:30 p.m. & Midnight ♥ $10 ♥ @ the Guild

Description: Porn from the vaults of private collectors, some never before screened in public! Live acts onstage, unique for each showing, will accompany the films include burlesque, drag & more! Featured performances by September Smith, Burlesque Noir and Gender Offenders!

♥ The Best of Tristan Taormino ♥ Friday, November 6th ♥ 8:00 p.m. ♥ $8 ♥ @ the Guild

Description: Tristan herself hosts this program highlighting the applications of her teachings, as documented by selections from some of her best videos! Tristan also hosts her “Ultimate Guide to Nookie” on Saturday, November 7th.

♥ BDSM: More than a Slap & Tickle ♥ Saturday, November 7th♥ 3:30 p.m. ♥ $8 ♥ @ the Guild

Description: Get a sitter & a safe word! Featuring scenes from Madison Young’s Bride of Sin, The Naughty Garden, and a live onstage demo!

♥ BikeSmut ♥ Sunday, November 8th ♥ 5:30 p.m. ♥ $8 ♥ @ the Guild

Description: Sex + Bicycles = Liberation! Featuring Bike Porn 3: Cycle Bound and a live onstage demo!

♥ Plus panels, parties and many more diverse films featuring real couples, transgender identities, gay shorts and award-winning lesbian erotica

Beyond selling some of the most satisfying sundries, Self Serve prides itself on being a sexuality resource center for the community. “If you believe in supporting self-satisfaction, independent film makers, freedom of speech, and the right to see fantastic porn, then Pornotpoia is for you,” says Fricker. “Like in our shop, the films screened at Pornotopia portray sex as fun, sex where everyone gets off and pleasure for the masses is paramount.”

Advance tickets, value VIP passes and movie punch cards are available October 30th. Volunteer and sponsorship opportunities also exist. To learn more about Pornotopia, download a full festival schedule, or find out about other upcoming Self Serve events, please visit www.selfservetoys.com.

About Self Serve

Self Serve is a fun and welcoming adult retail store and sex education center. Through its store, Web site and special events, Self Serve provides opportunities for women and others to learn about sexuality and their bodies while shopping for high-quality pleasurable products. Self Serve supports women, LGBT people and anyone seeking healthy, positive sexual attitudes and perspectives, and sensual pleasure in everyday life.

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I do this about once a year…

I oh so kindly and sweetly and patiently and all of that, ask my lurkers to come out at say hi. Inspired 3 years ago by Miss Avarice, it’s been a great way to meet someone of the people who read my blog, and rarely, if ever, comment or speak up.

Soooooo…

WHO ARE YOU?

I mean, you see me. All sorts of parts of me; my happy, my sad, my turmoil, my boobies, and so on. I never see you!  You don’t have to put your real name there, but SOMETHING would be nice.

If you’d be so kind, would you mind answering me a few questions?

What name do you go by on the magical interwebs?

What part of the world do you call come? (be as general as you want)

What are some of your identities?

What’s your favorite thing about the site?

What changes would you like to see?

Favorite post, if you have one?

Where are you on the web? Twitter/Fetlife/Blog/etc?

This is not just for the lurkers! Even if you’ve been reading and/or commenting for years, I’d love to hear a little more about you! And if you just started reading today, I’d STILL love to hear about you. So please, for me, just for today, shed your black cloak and come forth! And all that jazz.

Thanks!

-Essin’ Em

If all has gone right (and I hope to various deities that it has), we will be in Phoenix tonight, at our new condo that we’re renting, ready to sign the lease.

I won’t have internet for a while until I can get it all hooked up, so posts will be pre-written, and it might take me a while to get to emails…

While you’re waiting for me, my awkwardness, and my snarkiness to return, please enjoy the video below about the concept of lesbians and U-Hauls. I’m not sure whether to laugh or shake my head.

-Essin’ Em

Today, we begin the next leg of our adventure.  

That’s right. Q and I are moving to Arizona (Phoenix, to be exact) today.

Who’s coming with us?  

2 of our friends to help us with the drive, and these three kittehs:

Kali

Kinsey

And Jasper

I’ve moved a few times with cats before, including Denver to Philly, and Philly to Denver. It’s always an adventure…and Kali has never really been in the car before, except to go to the vet.  So yes, it should be interesting to say the least.

And I’m still going to be in recovery from my surgery.  Which will make this all even more interesting.

But away we go! Farewell to my beautiful Colorado:

Picture taken by me in Estes Park

-Essin’ Em