Comments on: Creating Space in Kink http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/ Tue, 02 Aug 2011 03:39:07 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.1.2 By: thepinkpoppet http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10964 thepinkpoppet Thu, 04 Mar 2010 20:58:54 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10964 Wonderful post you made. For me personally, my husband (The Cap'n) and I have always used the analogy of water...when water does not move, flow, change it gets stagnant...and therefore is smelly, foul and not fun to be in. When the water is moving, being allowed to ebb and flow, to change course it is fresh, invigorating, vital and fun to be in. Life is all about change, it is easier if you just embrace the change and allow those waters to flow...because like life itself, you can't hold water back forever...it will find its way. The people that don't want their water (kink/community/dungeon) to be renewed by the addition of fresh water (new people, different kinks, diversity) should learn that.Just my 3 cents worth to whomever cares. Thanks for a great post. ThePinkPoppet Wonderful post you made. For me personally, my husband (The Cap’n) and I have always used the analogy of water…when water does not move, flow, change it gets stagnant…and therefore is smelly, foul and not fun to be in. When the water is moving, being allowed to ebb and flow, to change course it is fresh, invigorating, vital and fun to be in. Life is all about change, it is easier if you just embrace the change and allow those waters to flow…because like life itself, you can’t hold water back forever…it will find its way. The people that don’t want their water (kink/community/dungeon) to be renewed by the addition of fresh water (new people, different kinks, diversity) should learn that.Just my 3 cents worth to whomever cares. Thanks for a great post.
ThePinkPoppet

]]> By: adriana http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10946 adriana Wed, 24 Feb 2010 03:31:38 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10946 I hope you get this off the ground and people see what an asset you can be! Good luck. I hope you get this off the ground and people see what an asset you can be! Good luck.

]]> By: Persephone http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10940 Persephone Sun, 21 Feb 2010 08:13:29 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10940 Also, from the AZ area and so friggin pleased you are doing this. Unfortunately, having lived here for 5 years I've always been considered too vanilla by many of the kinksters here since I refuse to be old guard leather, a mistress, or a slave. Hello people! Kink is bigger than that. Thanks for getting the ball rolling. Also, from the AZ area and so friggin pleased you are doing this. Unfortunately, having lived here for 5 years I’ve always been considered too vanilla by many of the kinksters here since I refuse to be old guard leather, a mistress, or a slave. Hello people! Kink is bigger than that. Thanks for getting the ball rolling.

]]> By: radicalyffe http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10938 radicalyffe Sun, 21 Feb 2010 01:28:59 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10938 Hey Good luck! Hope it goes fabulously. :D Hey Good luck!

Hope it goes fabulously. :D

]]> By: Angel deSanguine http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10937 Angel deSanguine Sun, 21 Feb 2010 00:24:12 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10937 Good luck with Alternakink!! I hope your meet is the start of a huge success story! Good luck with Alternakink!! I hope your meet is the start of a huge success story!

]]> By: kara http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10936 kara Sat, 20 Feb 2010 21:04:34 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10936 Change scares people - especially people who are deeply entrenched in what they have. People who are scared lash out and try to make the change go away. Good for you for trying to EXPAND (not fracture, not separate, not dismiss) the existing community. I'm probably as straight and non-kinky as they come (*grin*) but I appreciate and enjoy that there are all flavors out there and love that you're willing to take the heat to be inclusive rather than forcing people to fit your needs/wants/desires as so many others do. Go you! Change scares people – especially people who are deeply entrenched in what they have. People who are scared lash out and try to make the change go away.

Good for you for trying to EXPAND (not fracture, not separate, not dismiss) the existing community. I’m probably as straight and non-kinky as they come (*grin*) but I appreciate and enjoy that there are all flavors out there and love that you’re willing to take the heat to be inclusive rather than forcing people to fit your needs/wants/desires as so many others do.

Go you!

]]> By: Elizabeth http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10935 Elizabeth Sat, 20 Feb 2010 21:00:33 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10935 Fantastic! Thank you very much for your courage and hard work. You probably know this by now, but you're not the only ones that feel this way, and you're not the only ones hoping and working for alternative kink communities. I'm living this story in my area, and hearing more about others. The more branches we help grow, the healthier our community is going to be. Fantastic! Thank you very much for your courage and hard work. You probably know this by now, but you’re not the only ones that feel this way, and you’re not the only ones hoping and working for alternative kink communities. I’m living this story in my area, and hearing more about others. The more branches we help grow, the healthier our community is going to be.

]]> By: alphafemme http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10933 alphafemme Sat, 20 Feb 2010 19:27:27 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10933 awesome, so so glad to hear you're doing that. it's so hard to feel like you're creating "enemies" in the process of doing something that's so right and honest and coming out of a place of respect. sigh. I hope they come around and are eventually supportive, but if not, I at least hope that AlternaKink thrives. awesome, so so glad to hear you’re doing that. it’s so hard to feel like you’re creating “enemies” in the process of doing something that’s so right and honest and coming out of a place of respect. sigh. I hope they come around and are eventually supportive, but if not, I at least hope that AlternaKink thrives.

]]> By: dominadoll http://essin-em.com/2010/02/creating-space-in-kink/comment-page-1/#comment-10932 dominadoll Sat, 20 Feb 2010 06:41:10 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3325#comment-10932 Go Girl! I actually feel like that a lot at many of the events here in NS as well. While new places come and go they are always run by the same people whom to me seem very closed and have a particular idea of what BDSM or kink should and should not be. I always feel like I'm a curiosity for some reason... It makes me stay away from what could be a lot of fun and new friendships... So, don't let them stop you. Good luck! Go Girl! I actually feel like that a lot at many of the events here in NS as well. While new places come and go they are always run by the same people whom to me seem very closed and have a particular idea of what BDSM or kink should and should not be. I always feel like I’m a curiosity for some reason… It makes me stay away from what could be a lot of fun and new friendships… So, don’t let them stop you. Good luck!

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