Comments on: Sex Educator Fail

By: Britni TheVadgeWig

Britni TheVadgeWig — Sun, 14 Mar 2010 04:01:07 +0000

Big hugs, lady. Huge. LEG HUGS.

By: LoveHoney - Carly

LoveHoney - Carly — Fri, 12 Mar 2010 14:48:52 +0000

I’m genuinely shocked by the appalling behaviour of others, I really am. You were there to do a service: a service of education and enlightenment. They were clearly not there to learn so why bother going at all?

I love the way you write and your presentation video was brilliant. If you were ever to come and do workshops in the UK, I’d be there, in the front row, being super keen and irritating! ;)

By: alphafemme

alphafemme — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 07:13:02 +0000

What everyone else said! As a totally unbiased spectator (and by that I mean, I had no expectations of how you would present, never having seen you before and all!) at your fisting class, I thought it was *amazing*. It was fun, and funny, and hot, and reeeeally informative and useful. And you’re just such a natural. You’ve got charisma, you’re really engaging, you know how to structure a workshop, AND you obviously know what you’re talking about.

So, re the poly 101 class… it sounds like them, not you. I know that’s easier to say than to believe, but there are always people like that and I think it says a lot about you as a presenter that you haven’t run into any of them until now!

By: Jamie

Jamie — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 06:23:07 +0000

I agree with everything everyone else has said… but I wanted to add:
Fuck those ass hats, they have no idea what they missed out on. I have learned more about sexuality and sexuality education from you than I have from 25 years of life experience and many many hours trolling around the interwebs. You are a very valuable member of our community, the work you do is important and im glad your doing it.
So, Thank you! :)

By: joy

joy — Thu, 11 Mar 2010 05:44:16 +0000

That is so totally and completely awful. As someone who facilitates a lot I really gasped aloud in horror. Clearly they were assholes but of course it upset you.

Oddly, this is maybe one of my favorite posts of yours. There is something really wonderful about being privy to the bad days as well as the good ones. It feels really authentic. Thank you for all the sharing you do on this site. Your voice is appreciated.

I’m sorry you had a bad experience. I hope it eventually morphs into one of those it’s so bad it it’s funny moments.

By: Essin' Em

Essin' Em — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:22:42 +0000

Thank you all so so so much for your kind words and support. I can’t express how much they mean to me.

-S

By: J.D.

J.D. — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:19:56 +0000

You can’t please everyone all the time. You can only do what you can do to be clear what the class entails and let people decide if it is something they are interested in learning more about. Those folks were douchebags, straight up. Anyone who is an asshole to a presenter like that doesn’t deserve the info you have to teach. Seriously, don’t sweat it. You’ll find tacky people just trying to use your classes to hook up sometimes, but just think about all the good you are doing for everyone else who is there to actually learn. How often are your classes awesome compared to how often you encounter jerkfaces? I’m imagining the ratio is in your favor. So, do yourself a favor – don’t let those assholes shake your confidence. It’s their loss.

xoxo
jd

By: dominadoll

dominadoll — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 18:00:26 +0000

Shanna, I’m so sorry to hear that this happened to you. It is a really ugly thing to happen to someone who is so wonderful. I have met you in person and seen you talk and know how fucking fabulous you are. Every once in a while the world will try to knock you down, and as AliceSin stated, you survived the worst. Here’s a quote from Batman: “Why do we fall down? So we can learn to get back up.” So, this experience will only make you stronger… But it still sucks and those people where clearly rude. I have learned so much from you over the years and you have been one of my true mentors, so know that many people love you and find your experiences and knowledge as a sex educator very valuable and inspiring! (((HUGS)))

By: Elise

Elise — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 16:04:34 +0000

That certainly wasn’t a fail. You deliberately included 101 in the class name. If the couple couldn’t read that, that is their stupidity. They have no idea how lucky they are to be included in one of your classes in San Francisco. I would be there if I could.

The fact that you are out there and educating proves you are a sex educator. The fact that you hold classes across the country shows you’re a pretty good one at that. Every teacher has bad classes. Just focus on the good ones.

By: Molly

Molly — Wed, 10 Mar 2010 14:28:36 +0000

As an educator, any type of educator, you strive to reach all of the students in your class. Strive… i.e. hope to, want to, work towards… that is all you can do. There are no guarantees that you will reach everyone or anyone for that matter, and that may have absolutely nothing to do with you. Perhaps the students came into the class with expectations that did not meet your goals? Perhaps they were forced to be there (if this situation that would not really be the case, but I teach undergrads, they are forced to be there and they don’t want to be).

If you have been doing this as long as you have and never had anyone be disappointed or walk out, I think you are doing a FABULOUS job.