Comments on: The Story of My Assault http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/ Sat, 14 Jan 2012 10:32:55 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: yourladyfriend http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11118 yourladyfriend Sat, 24 Apr 2010 02:11:29 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11118 Thank you so much for sharing this. Education is key! Thank you so much for sharing this.
Education is key!

]]> By: Opheliac http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11074 Opheliac Sat, 10 Apr 2010 14:46:26 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11074 Thank you. Thank you so much for this. Reading your story gave me the courage to write mine and post mine on my own blog, because while nobody else has ever tried to tell me my assault wasn't as bad as theirs, or that it wasn't a real assault, I have had issues with blaming myself over the past four years since it happened, and I've never really told my story beyond telling friends and my fiance about it, as well as the guys name and what triggers me into memories of it easily. Writing it was one of the hardest things I've ever done, having to walk through those memories and put them down where I can read them, where anyone can read them. But it was what I needed to do at last. I've been reading your blog for quite a while, and this year, with this post, you gave me the strength to step forward to tell my own story. Thank you so much for that. Thank you. Thank you so much for this. Reading your story gave me the courage to write mine and post mine on my own blog, because while nobody else has ever tried to tell me my assault wasn’t as bad as theirs, or that it wasn’t a real assault, I have had issues with blaming myself over the past four years since it happened, and I’ve never really told my story beyond telling friends and my fiance about it, as well as the guys name and what triggers me into memories of it easily. Writing it was one of the hardest things I’ve ever done, having to walk through those memories and put them down where I can read them, where anyone can read them. But it was what I needed to do at last.

I’ve been reading your blog for quite a while, and this year, with this post, you gave me the strength to step forward to tell my own story. Thank you so much for that.

]]> By: Michele http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11067 Michele Thu, 08 Apr 2010 02:05:31 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11067 I think you're a brave and beautiful person for sharing this and turning it into something that could help others. Thank you. I think you’re a brave and beautiful person for sharing this and turning it into something that could help others. Thank you.

]]> By: Liz http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11065 Liz Wed, 07 Apr 2010 13:20:07 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11065 It's amazing how many experiences turn out to have been assault, without the assaultee even realizing why it felt so awful. We're so trained to feel bad for saying no to anything, that we end up thinking it's our fault if a) we're assaulted or b) someone's angry because they didn't get to assault us! What a great double bind. I'm curious about your "owning" the assault by calling it "my" assault. I'm not saying you shouldn't if that's what fits for you, but I know many people do that out of (socially ingrained) habit. As though the assault itself is the victim's, not the perpetrator's. Certainly the experience is yours, unfairly enough, whether or not you want to have had it. You're very courageous to explore this. It’s amazing how many experiences turn out to have been assault, without the assaultee even realizing why it felt so awful.
We’re so trained to feel bad for saying no to anything, that we end up thinking it’s our fault if a) we’re assaulted or b) someone’s angry because they didn’t get to assault us! What a great double bind.
I’m curious about your “owning” the assault by calling it “my” assault. I’m not saying you shouldn’t if that’s what fits for you, but I know many people do that out of (socially ingrained) habit. As though the assault itself is the victim’s, not the perpetrator’s. Certainly the experience is yours, unfairly enough, whether or not you want to have had it.
You’re very courageous to explore this.

]]> By: Britni TheVadgeWig http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11062 Britni TheVadgeWig Tue, 06 Apr 2010 05:02:45 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11062 Thank you for this. Sharing my story has been the most empowering thing I've ever done, and when other women share theirs after reading mine, I know that sharing it was the right thing. Your story brought me to tears, because I know what you must have felt, and I can imagine the fear and confusion of a 17-year-old girl in that situation, and how many of us have or do end up in situations just like yours. You're brave and amazing. <3 Thank you for this. Sharing my story has been the most empowering thing I’ve ever done, and when other women share theirs after reading mine, I know that sharing it was the right thing.

Your story brought me to tears, because I know what you must have felt, and I can imagine the fear and confusion of a 17-year-old girl in that situation, and how many of us have or do end up in situations just like yours.

You’re brave and amazing. <3

]]> By: carly http://essin-em.com/2010/04/the-story-of-my-assault/comment-page-1/#comment-11060 carly Mon, 05 Apr 2010 14:58:23 +0000 http://essin-em.com/?p=3509#comment-11060 Thank you so much for sharing this, for spreading awareness, for having the courage and strength to speak up and speak out. I really resonate with what you say about how things don't break us, only change us... I've been assaulted, too. I'm a survivor, too. And I've never shared my story out in the open like this, but you're giving me encouragement. Thank you for making a difference in the lives of so many, and for staying committed to your own healing. Thank you so much for sharing this, for spreading awareness, for having the courage and strength to speak up and speak out.

I really resonate with what you say about how things don’t break us, only change us…

I’ve been assaulted, too. I’m a survivor, too.

And I’ve never shared my story out in the open like this, but you’re giving me encouragement.

Thank you for making a difference in the lives of so many, and for staying committed to your own healing.

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