Sexuality Happens

These are blogs (and a few sites) that I enjoy reading/think have interesting things to say. Just click through and enjoy!  Stars indicate those I have met in person.

(Note: I DO NOT do link exchanges.  If you read my blog and comment, I’m likely to go visit your blog, and read yours. THEN I will put you on this list if I enjoy reading it.  Kthnxby.)

-Essin’ Em

*(un)Scripted Sexuality (Sasha Sappho) – A friend of mine from middle school, we’ve since reconnected (in every sense of the word – read Thunder Part 1), and I love that she has her own blog now!

*Always Aroused Girl – This lady is the most head on her shoulders sex blogger I’ve ever spoken with, or had the pleasure of meeting.  She’s one of the reasons I got into blogging, and she’s a huge reason I’ve stayed.

Amber/Tomboy Femme – A Tomboy Femme and her partner, and their adventures.

Babeland Blog – Your friendly, neighborhood, sex-positive toy company, and the interesting things they have to say.

Bad Bad Girl – Sassy, sexy, and full of intriguing things to say.

Bloody Laughter (Eileen) – This blog is now frozen, but I believe the archives remain. Eileen has some incredibly poignant things to say about the kink community, and the sexuality community as a whole.

*Britni the VagWig – A submissive social workers and sassy young lady with well written, if often controversial opinions.

Butchtastic Kyle - Gender queer, geeky, daddy of two, Kyle has an interesting voice in the community.

*Chris – Another defunct blog, but Chris is probably my best friend in the online sexuality world, and I mention her a lot. This is her.

Coy Pink – Fun erotica writing, and some of the most beautiful pictures I’ve ever seen!

Curvaceous Dee – My absolute favorite Kiwi, this queer, poly, kinky, sexy, fat lady has a lot of intriguing things to say, and a lot of hot pictures to go with them.

Don’t Let’s Talk – Lady Brett Ashley writes this site. She’s all about the gender theory and fuckery, plus she’s witty and nerdy too.  Also, she made me this necklace in 2007. I love it.

*Ellie Lumpesse – Smart, sexy, poly and perverted.

*Evey – My moose, friend and play partner when in Denver.

Fascinations Fun Love Blog – I run this!

Femme’s Guide to Absolutely Everything (I write here too!) – A group blog written by a bunch of feisty Femmes from here, there and everywhere

*Fivestar – The most genius (and sexiest) sexuality video blogger I know.  First discovered her with her cover of I Kissed a Girl, haven’t been able to look away since.

*Furry Girl/Feminisnt - Porn star, vegan, and radical awesomemest. I’ve shot for her site veg porn.

*For Your Nymphomation’s Blog – Written by my friend, and FYN owner Vera.

Green-Eyed Grrl – Another queer warrior, with exciting things to be said.

*Heart Full Of Black – I have never met anyone who loves butt sex as much as this girl. I even wrote a piece of smut for her that involved butt sex…and won her contest.  Only Wendy could make me write about butt sex :) .

*Heather Corinna – Creator of Scarleteen.com (where I learned about sex pre-college. Nuf said). Heather is passionate, deep, interesting, and fiery.  I like her a lot.

Jaded Hippy – She writes about feminist issues, news and more.  And she always is so open-minded and interested in learning more on queer, sexuality and gender issues.

*Jamye Waxman – A fellow sex ed loving Jew who graduated from the same Master’s program, Jamye has written two books, and directed several sexy, yet education films. She also has a vulva puppet named Vulvita. How can you not love her?

*Jiz Lee - It’s no secret that Jiz is my big internet/sex blog/porn star crush, and with so much good reason.  Having finally met Jiz in person, it’s clear that ze puts hir money where hir mouth is, and actually practices al the sex-positive, ethical, feminist, queer loving goodness that ze preaches.  Hir blog has some toy reviews, but is mostly news and commentary on both the queer community and the adult industry, with some over lap.

*Kate Bornstein – Gender warrior. No words can describe the genius of Kate Bornsein (although she’s now twittered at me twice AND re-tweeted something I said at Sex 2.0, which has pretty much made my life).

*Let’s Blog About Sex – Kinsey is really fucking hot.  However, more importantly, she’s also incredibly intelligent, and has interesting things to say about gender, the concept of queer, orientation, and more. Plus, she likes pervertables as well.

*Lolita Wolf – Lolita is one of the queens of kink in NYC. Having been lucky enough to meet her, and to attend her Hot Wax class, I can safely say that she’s a brilliant pervert.

*Mina Meow - Sweet, sassy, gender fucking and rocking sex blogger, model and perv.

*Miss Avarice- A Floridian sex blogger, Miss A has lots to say about the Femme identity, creating relationships that work, feminist, queerness and spirituality.

Panthea Pardus - A rambling newbie, I enjoy many of her pictures as well as thoughts.

*The Perverted Negress - Snarky, sassy, and never afraid to go there, I’m sometimes scared of what she may say next.  Otherwise, I’m quite impressed by her posts.

*Rachel Krammer Bussel – Erotica writer and editor, as well as sex columnist, RKB is one of the most well know erotica people out there…also, she loves cupcakes. Ergo, I love her.

*Scarlet Lotus Sexgeek – Self identified as many things, Scarlet has quite a lot to say on her blog.  She also runs the Femme’s Guide, and Pleasurists.

*Sarah Sloane – Awesome sexuality educator, especially in BDSM matters, based in DC.

The S Spot – Shay is too fucking cute for words.  That is all the intro she needs.

*Sugarbutch Chronicles – Sinclair Sexmith is, as everyone knows, my other big internet/gender theory crush.  In the last few years, Sinclair has support me in much of my identity discovery, and has also made my banner here, listened to my kvetch, and oh…wrote a really hot story inspired by me called Diner on the Corner, which is also in Best Lesbian Erotica 2009.

Sugasm - Best posts of the week got posted here. Ended in 2009, archived.

Sweltering Celt – Poly, kinky, well spoken and to tell the truth, a little feisty.

*Syd Blakovich – Fucking hot and very smart queer porn star and mixed martial artist. Shoots with Pink and White, Wirepussy.com, UltimateSurrender.com and Madison Bound Productions.

*Theater of the Profane – Pro-domming page for K and his partner. If you’re in the market for a trans (FTM) pro-dom, he’s the guy for you. He comes HIGHLY recommended.

*They Belong to Us – Some of the coolest women I’ve met (and a man I didn’t). A three way poly triad with a gaggle of children, and a whole lot of humor.

Thursday’s Child – Kinky, fun and a joy to read. Also, very sassy, which I enjoy.

Tony Comstock – He’s a sex positive pornographer who talks a lot about the intent behind his own work, and about issues effecting the adult industry.

Tristan Taormino - Goddess of anal sex, queen of hands on sex education, and pretty well versed in open relationships, Tristan is one of my top sex education people…ever.

*Urban Gypsy (Tess) – Stubborn, kinky, outspoken, and absolutely hilarious, Tess is fun to talk to, and enjoyable to read.  She’s a feisty little lady.

*Viviane’s Sex Carnival – Everything that is anything in sex and sexuality gets posted here. If you want the 4-1-1, you can find it here.

*Waking Vixen (Audacia Ray) – Dacia is one of the first people I met in the sex-positive community, and she’s been a guiding beacon of light in so many facets of it. She also has really beautiful tattoos, and an amazing (and snarky) sense of humor.