Sexuality Happens

I love lube. We know this from the many things I’ve written about it.  It’s brilliant. In my world, you can’t ever really have too much – worse comes to worse, it dries out a little, or you wash a bit off, wipe it off, etc, and go right back into the rocking sex.

However, it is very easy to have not enough lube. And that is never ever good. In fact, usually, it’s bad. I mean, lube can add pizzaz to masturbation, to playing with a partner, to penises/cocks/dildos/vibes/fisting/etc. It’s adds a little more slippery, a little more fun, and a little less ouch and sore.

My problem? Finding the RIGHT lube. I mean, there are silicone lubes, water based lubes, flavored lubes, jack off (oil based lubes), etc. Some are good, some are great, and some are just…well, a wash out.  More over, a lot of sex bloggers/reviewers have their own personal lube preferences, so they wind up not reviewing other lubes, which then makes it even harder to look around online and find good reviews of lubes.

A few months back, I reviewed Eros Bodyglide, a silicone based lube that happens to be one of my absolute favorites…for non-toy play.  Why? Because silicone lube + silicone toys = epic fail. Not so much.  Luckily, both for me and my toys, Pjur (the German company who makes Bodyglide) also makes Aqua, a similar formula to Eros Bodyglide, but in a water-based form.

VibeReview sent me this one to check out, and it’s amazing.  I mean, it doesn’t have quite the lasting power of a silicone lube…but then again, show me a water based that does.  And of course, whenever a water based lube does start to dry up, just add more water; I got Q a shark shaped water gun (mine looks like a cuddle fish) and those are great for adding water (and amusement) into sex play. Also, sprinking water, spitting, pissing, or pouring a glass on your partner are other great ways to really re-vitalize the water based lube.

Now, Aqua, like Bodyglide, is a thinner lube, which I like for the most part. For some fisting and anal play, you might want to look into a thicker lube, but this works very well for me. It feels good, not too greasy, takes a good deal of time to dry out, and doesn’t get goopy. It lasts a long time, and I really like it. My one beef with it (and Q has the same one), is that the screw on cap makes it more difficult to open and close during sex (and has involved using teeth to open it because hands are already lube-y, and has also spilled on my bed, because we couldn’t close it).  However, compared with the pump bottle caps, it is better for travel, so I guess it’s a trade off.  As far as water based lubes go, I give this a 5 star rating (out of five).

As a huge fan of Aqua, I suggest you get your own here.

Then, there are, as always, the flavored lubes. This is always tricky, because some have an evil glycerin after taste, others just taste too sweet or icky, and some actually are flavored with sugar. Because yes, let’s put sugar in my cunt. Good plan.  I mean, are they in cahoots with Monastat for yeast infection cream sales?

Now, a few years ago, I discovered a brand…a brand known as Sex Tarts, at my local sex toy store. And by a few years ago, I mean circa 2003.  I bought the strawberry flavored one, after doing extensive taste tests, mostly because it tasted almost exactly like a jolly rancher. At the time, I didn’t know about ingredients and glycerin and all that, so I just went with it.  I’ve used it on bio cocks, silicone cocks, and cunts alike…and it still tasted delicious.

Some women have VERY bad reactions to glycerin – yeast infections and so on. These are not good. I’ve been lucky in that the only yeast infections I’ve gotten have been in response to partners who smoke (I’ve also gotten bacterial vaginosis from that), and from an all natural lube that used vegetable glycerin.  Ergo, I CAN use this lube, while not in large quantities. It doesn’t directly use sugar to sweeten it (rather, aspartame, so if you have allergic reactions to that, as does my sister, stay away from being on either side of this).

As I wanted to mix up my sex toy reviews with some lube, I asked to try a flavor of this I haven’t seen before; SexTarts green apple fizz.

Delicious. Again, I love this lube because it actually tastes like Jolly Ranchers and is delicious. Like yum. It doesn’t have the odd aftertaste I find so often in flavored lubes, it does taste yummy, it doesn’t give me (or Q) yeast infections.  It’s great for use on dental dams/saran wrap (far more exciting than licking latex, or well, saran wrap), and lately, I’ve been tasting a bit bitter due to the plethora of drugs I’ve been on to try and kick this tonsilitis.  Ergo, this has been in use more than usual (both of us love the taste of natural cunt) as a nice cover up for some of the bitterness. Now, in general, if your taste changes (either you like to check it out, or your partner/s notices something), you should go to the clinic/doctor and get checked fro yeast/BV/STIs. I just happen to know it’s from the drugs…because I asked my doctor.

Anyways, as far as flavored lubes go, it’s not bad. I really want to try the O’My Flavored ones (glycerin free!), and have to yet to do so, which means I can’t compare.  I wouldn’t use this for a lot of fucking or fisting etc, given the glycerin content…but if you’re looking for a good flavored lube, check out Sex Tarts (in a variety of flavors). I can personally vouch for the strawberry and green apple. (oh yes- PS – it’s really cheap!)

So that’s my current place in the epic saga of looking for lubes…tune in again next time!

-Essin’ Em

Because who doesn’t love to get a text, while you’re out of town, from your hot butch partner, informing you that they (said hot butch) are about to masturbate in your bed?

No one, that’s who.

Especially when it’s accompanied by the picture above. You can see that Q got her hands on my Nob Essence toy…it sounds like she had a ton of fun with it.

God, my partner is so fucking hot.

That is all

Happy Half Nekkid Thursday!

-Essin’ Em

Extreme Masturbation on August 6th 

Who?

Everyone that loves to get down with their bad selves.

Where?

Hysteria Boutique

114 South Broadway
Denver, CO 80209
Ph: 303.733.3373

Masturbation is more than a menage trois with you, a sex toy/your hand, and your bed.  Get ideas for new places to enjoy your self love, new ways to make it fresh and exciting again, talk about group masturbation (who said circle jerks are only for men in 80’s porn?), and much more. 

Cost: $15

Class taught by Shanna Katz, M.Ed

Shanna has many years of experience working with a variety of individuals and groups, providing both consultations and workshops/classes. Some of her specialties include: safer sex workshops, ally education programs, and sexual assault prevention/consent classes. Her popular “Taking Sex out of the Dark” talk is an intimate session which gives students an opportunity to ask a “sexpert” their deep (and often un-answered) questions. She also does trainings and consultations on LGBTQ issues (both in workplace and school environments), work with human resource departments, alternative sexualities consultations, advice about sex toys/sexual aides and more. Additionally, she works one-on-one with individuals, couples, and small groups as a sexual wellness coach, helping people explore their sexuality in a safe and open-minded manner.

Her focuses include queer sexuality, kink and the BDSM community, sex toy education and safety, and sexuality in regards to disability. She has done trainings, workshops and written curricula for numerous places, including Princeton University (Princeton, NJ), the State University of New York – Purchase (Purchase, NY), the University of Pennsylvania (Philadelphia, PA), Widener University (Chester, PA), the Planned Parenthood Association of Bucks Country (Doylestown, PA), Passional Toys (Philadelphia, PA), S.E.X. PhD (Denver, CO), Colorado College (Colorado Springs, CO), Femina Potens Gallery (San Francisco, CA), Sex 2.0 Conference 2009 (Washington DC) and Hysteria (Denver, CO).

Shanna is a former sex tips columnist for the “popular by women, for women” site Hot Movies For Her, and has an interesting outlook on sexuality from a feminist and sex positive perspective. She worked as the Community Outreach Coordinator for the sex positive company Eden Fantasys; writing reviews, articles and erotica as part of the site’s total view of sexuality.

Currently, she is an active member of AASECT; the American Association of Sex Educators, Counselors and Therapists. You can also read her on the Advice Panel at The Lesbian Lifestyle, and under the pen name Essin’ Em at Best Sex Bloggers, the Femmes Guide to Absolutely Everything, and Live Girl Review. At the moment, she is a resident Sex Educator with Hysteria, and continues to provide classes, trainings and workshops to a variety of clients in the Denver area. She also is the Denver Sexual Health expert for Examiner.com.

Shanna feels that sexuality is something which is a very personalized journey for each individual, and leaves extra time at the conclusion of all of her trainings for people to approach her with individual questions, comments, concerns and more. She understands that many people don’t feel comfortable raising their hands in a group setting, or even asking questions afterward, and allows for this by also being available to answer any and all inquiries via email. She is completely accessible to all of her programs’ participants, even after the fact; she believes in full spectrum sexuality. The journey only continues on after the training is over, and she hopes that the participants of her programs become life long learners, and only continue to reach, expand and grow as they explore their horizons. Even if a participant attends multiple trainings (whether on the same or different topics), it is her hope that each time, they are able to glean something totally new and unique out of each one.

I have a lot of fantasies.  I’ve been lucky enough to have many of them fulfilled over time.

Sex in the parking lot.

Sex with one of my biggest crushes.

Sex in a restaurant.

Sex until I couldn’t take it anymore.

But as I get more and more experience, I have less and less easily fulfillable fantasies. I mean, do you know how freaking hard it is to get a queer gang bang organize? Or how expensive violet wands are?

Luckily, I have an oh so willing and hot and dear god she’s good in bed partner, and she’s made two of my older fantasies come to life, both with in the last week.

First, we had sex in a hot tub.  Many of you may know I LOVE hot tubs, and have masturbated and orgasmed in hot tubs ‘cross the country. I’ve made out with a few people in hot tubs, including F and Q.  However, I’ve never *had sex* in one.  And last week, she fucked me so god damn well in the tub, carefully avoiding the video cameras and guy working out in the other area.  And I was good, and quiet and came really hard.

Then two nights ago, she fucked me ridiculously well on my balcony.  I have this amazing balcony, and while a few people have let me make out with them, or even grope them, on my balcony, no one has let me fuck them, or has fucked me.  And not only did Q fuck me on my balcony, but she made it a whole scene, that involved toys. I’m probably going to write this one up, so check back.

Anyways, nothing too long and drawn out about this. I just wanted to share with the world (or at least my readers) at large, that my wonderful partner Q has done an excellent job of not only fulfilling two of my fantasies recently, but also in doing things with me I’ve never done before…and THAT is always new, fun and impressive!

-Essin’ Em

For a really long time, I was incredibly frustrated that I couldn’t ejaculate. I tried EVERY thing I could possibly think of; I read the “right” books, I watched the “right” movies, I even heard Beverly Whipple (one of the co-authors of “The G-Spot”) speak. I could not for the life of me ejaculate…squirt…gush…whatever you’d like to call it.

Finally, I broke down. Everyone I knew said that the Njoy Pure Wand was the cause for their/their partner’s first ejaculatory episode. Ergo, while on my quest for ejaculation, I bought myself (this was when I still had a full time, paying job) a Pure Wand. I used it on myself, by myself.  Nothing.  I had J use it on me, with fingers, with a hitachi, before coming, after coming, during coming. Nada.  I used it on J, and poof, J ejaculated.  A year later, I used it on F. Poof; F ejaculated.  The magic of the Pure Wand was there; I was just somehow impermeable to it.

Finally, F and I were having good sex, on a fairly regular basis. At the time I thought it was mind blowing, and it was. I now have new forms of mind blowing sex….but nevertheless, the sex F and I had was very satisfying, and enjoyable.  Eventually, I realized that it didn’t matter whether or not I was able to ejaculate; I could still have very strong and incredibly fulfilling orgasms.  Couple my lack of ejaculation with my minimal lubrication, and I was a very un-messy fuck, which was how I put a positive spin on it.  Much of the material I’d read had said that not every woman could come, so I chalked it up to that. I drank lots of fluid, was incredibly comfortable with my body, and could definitely have orgasms, so I didn’t think any of those reasons were the culprit.  I resigned myself, not bitterly though, to just not being able to ejaculate.

But then, there was my experience of having ridiculously hot sex in San Francisco.  And I ejaculated, for the first time EVER!  It went something like this.

S: So, do you squirt?

Me: No. Well, I never have.

S: Really? That’s surprising.

*much fucking*

S: I thought you said you didn’t squirt?

Me: Huh? What? 

*Reaches down to find a fairly large puddle at the base of my cunt*

Me: Oh. Well. Yes. Ok. There’s a first time for everything I suppose.

I realized that maybe it was a little like fisting; I wanted it so bad for quite a while, and possibly that was one of the reasons it never happened. Once I gave up, I was able to be fisted finally.  This might have been similar; I no longer care about whether or not I could ejaculate, and suddenly, I could.  Also, S was a very enjoyable and knowledgeable sex partner, so that might have tipped the scales as well.

Fast forward.  I was starting to sleep with Q on a fairly regular basis, and had an episode of ex-sex with F.  No more ejaculating. I chalked it up to a one time thing, and moved on with my life.

Till one day, Q topped me for the very first time. God, was it hot. And when I finally was allowed to come, I came and came…and gushed. A lot. Um. Ok.

And since my ejaculations re-started up with Q, I can’t stop. It’s beyond a trickle now…you could say it’s usually a fountain.  Sometimes once, occasionally twice or thrice, depending on the sex. But basically, we need the Fascinator Throe or a hell of a lot of towels whenever I’m getting fucked. 

It’s interesting. It’s just with her. I can’t make myself squirt/gush (apparently, I’m much more of a gusher), no matter what combo of toys/hands I use.  I shot porn with the lovely Sabrina Morgan at Sex 2.0, and it didn’t happen then, even with the amazing Njoy Eleven. Yeah, I know.

But it happens with Q. Every time she sticks her fingers inside me to fuck me, suddenly, the forecast called for rain.  Luckily, she thinks it’s really hot, even when we forget to put towels down and stain her sheets, or when I splash all over her. Sometimes, I can’t even feel it – I just hear the sloshing, see the look on her face, or roll in to the giant wet spot after.

The other day, we were having a quickie before I headed to Florida. I came and came and came and gushed so much that I could just feel it rush out of me, and I went to grab the Hitachi for my clit, but when I turned it on, all that happened was masses and masses of come and ejaculate, and just general liquid from in and around my cunt sprayed up, splashing and soaking both me and Q. Imagine a car spinning its tires in a rainstorm. It took us a few minutes to stop laughing…she kept her hand inside as I used a towel to mop up the excess liquid, and tried again, more successfully. She fucked me twice more before I left, and both times, woooooosh. Or as she said “waaaah waaaah waaaah.”  She makes light of it, in her amazing and silly way, and told me I had “drenched her in my ejaculatory love.” I give her many hearts for that.

So I got what I waned. I ejaculate…a lot…and often. I’m changing my sheets all the bloody time, and now have to have designated come towels all around my room. Honestly, I can’t always feel it, and even when I do, it doesn’t really improve my orgasms, although it does make it wetter, which is nice since I don’t lube much naturally. Otherwise, I personally could take it or leave it.  Q likes it though, and I think she’s proud to help facilitate my ejaculation, so I’m glad it’s worked out for both of us like this.

At that, dear readers, is my story of ejaculation, or who I came to squeeze water out of a stone. With some outside help as well.

*takes a bow*

-Essin’ Em

One of the lovely people I was able to meet while at Sex 2.0 was Sequoia Redd. She’s a red magick witch, sex writer, erotic artist and adult model.  She’s also incredibly stunning.

She’d actually one of the reasons I’m really glad I went to Sex 2.0. I mean, obviously there are many many awesome people I finally met in real life, but I had never even heard of Sequoia.  She writes a wonderful blog at www.SequoiaRedd.net, and I’m a little sad I haven’t been reading it for a while. Her thoughts are interesting and intriguing, sometimes amusing, and I love her video blogs.

Additionally, she owns Masturbation Impossible, which is a site about masturbating and coming in a variety of public places. Obviously, that’s something right up my alley.

She’s also a nature loving, eco-conscious, nudist, feminist, awesome-ist who is very sweet, genuine and well-spoken.  Because until now, our circles haven’t crossed, I’m so glad I was able to meet her at Sex 2.0. Moreover, I’m headed to Florida and am hoping to be able to hang out with her and maybe shoot with her while I’m there.

Regardless, she’s a good read, and I highly recommend heading over to her blog.  Plus, look how beautiful she is!

-Essin’ Em

This is part three of a sex story entitled “Fucking Ratios.”  You can read part one here, and part two here.  This is the last segment. 

My hand slipped between her legs, and the black nitrile glove was wet and shiny within seconds. She was already halfway to the moon when I spoke. “So, you have to make me come how many more times?”  I could see she had completely lost count as she racked her brains, trying to do math as a circled my finger around her clit, my fingers working in and out of her. 

“Um. Ah. Let’s see. Um…” she stammered a bit as basic math failed her. “Two times? Three times?”

“Which is it?” I tried to look stern.

“Um. Three times.” She was so not interested in doing the math, as she was paying much more attention to me working her cunt, stroking her, feeling her, fucking her, thumb circling her clit. “I think I’m going to come soon…”

I froze my hand. “No, I don’t think you are…remember, you still have to give me another…what was it, three, orgasms?” Waiting a second, I started moving my hand again, but at a much slower pace. “Unless…well, I guess I’ll give you a choice.” I paused. I loved giving choices; 10 more smacks with a paddle, or 5 with the cane kind of choices. “You can either come right now, with me just stroking your clit, my fingers in you…or if you finish this, then you can come HOWEVER you want, with any toys, or my mouth.  Don’t you want me to use a vibrator on you?” Smiling, I looked at her questioningly. It took her a few moments to respond, as I was still using my gloved hand on her.

“Um. I don’t need a vibrator, I could come right now, just like this.  But I’d really like your mouth…so…”  She broke off as I sped up my fingers, fucking her more quickly for a moment, and then slowing down. “Get on your back so I can fuck you.”

I figured I’d given her a hard enough time already. I flipped myself onto my back as she covered her hand and my cunt in lube. My cunt was already at the point where I was starting to get pleasantly sore, and the lube was very welcome as she slid deep into me. Have I mentioned how good she fucks me? I mean, wow. My cunt clamped down on her hand was she worked it in and out of me. I came. She kept fucking me. I came again. And again. It was relentless and continuous and absolutely amazing as she continued to fuck me, her eyes closed as she used her body weight to lean in and fuck me more and harder.

I reached over to grab my Hitachi. Turning it on, I slipped it between us, resting it on my clit.

Oh.

My.

God.

I came so hard. And again. And again. And again. She hit the button to make it go to high. “No, I’m not fucking ready yet, just keep fucking me please keep fucking don’t stop just don’t stop please fuck me don’t stop AHHHHH.” I had turned it back to low, and came again. I could feel her hand moving inside me, my cunt grasping her as I continued to come and come and come. Finally, I could feel her slowing. “No, please I’m almost please no stop don’t stop more please keep going please close” I begged and pleaded as she sped up again, continuing to fuck me as I reached that point of no return, that final last mind blowing, brain exploding, falling off the face of the earth, can’t beat it so much goodness orgasm. I came as I screamed and screaming as I came and threw the Hitachi to the other side of the bed. Still breathing heavily, I wrapped my legs around her, bringing her as close to me as I possibly could, skin on skin, as I recovered.

When I could breathe slightly normally again, I flipped us both over again, putting her on her back. With one hand reaching up to play with her nipples as I slipped my other hand inside of her, my tongue flicking her clit for a moment before I put my whole mouth on her cunt, licking and sucking her as I fucked her. Within about 10 minutes, she had gone silent, which I now know is a sign that she’s about ready to come. I kept up my rhythm with my hands and mouth working in tandem as she came, and came hard. I kept sucking and licking until she couldn’t take it anymore, and pulled my face out of her cunt.

“Wow. That was amazing. I came really hard.” She said before we curled up on my bed, with her as the big spoon, as always. I smiled.

“I’m brilliant. Orgasm control is wonderful, isn’t it? Plus this whole ratio thing? Brilliant.” I was still a bit horny, so I pulled the Hitachi out again, and slid my trusty Curve dildo in my my cunt, and jilled off until I came again, body pressed up again Q’s.

I snuggled up into her arms, and Kinsey hopped up on the bed to come spoon with us.  We all cuddled for a while before we got up, did the routine post-sex peeing, and she reclothed. I slipped one of my negliges over my head as I followed her to the door. We hugged, and I let her out, locking the door behind me.

I headed into bed with a good book and a mug of hot tea, my cunt aching and throbbing. I felt, for one of the few times in my life, very satiated. I curled up around my body pillow like a cat, and drifted off to sleep.

-Essin’ Em

A continuation of Fucking Rations, Part 1.

As her fingers entered me, the edge of the cold metal handcuffs rubbed against me. The juxaposition of her warm hand and the chilly metal was sensational.  With my head almost falling off of the edge of the bed, she fucked me oh so well. God, sex with her is getting to the point of fucking incredible.

After I came hard onto her hand, and gathered a few of my wits about me (although not all of them), I sat up. “Get on your knees, and sit up tall” I ordered her.  Once she was in place, I lay on my back, and tried to slide under her in order to lick her cunt as she tried to keep her balance with her handcuffed hands.  

It was a brilliant concept, one that failed in practice. My entire face, including my eyes and hair, was now covered in her come.  As she lubricated my face, I ate her out, going for 30 seconds at a time before having to come up for air in order to not suffocate. This would be an example of sex fail, but I was able to salvage the situation.  Grumbling a little about ridiculous ideas, I slid out from under her and sat up.

I used the key on the necklace around my neck to undo her cuffs, and then pushed her back onto the pillows.  Slowly, I reached between her legs, and gently began to stroke her again.

“One down…three more to go,” I smiled at her wickedly as I continued to touch her, stroke her, tease her.  She was just dripping, her clit hard as my fingers and my hand pressed against it.  Ever so slowly, I slid my fingers into her, curling them up.  As I fucked her with one hand, I pressed my other gently to her neck. “Is this ok?”

“Yes, it’s fine.”

“Good, because dear god, you are turning me on so god damn fucking much.” My hand pressed lightly against her throat, my own clit throbbing between my legs.

“Why do you like it so much?” She looked at me questioningly.  I paused my ministrations for half of a moment. Hmmm. An interesting question. I pondered.

“I like the feel of your pulse below my hand, and feeling you swallow and take in air, all as my hand rests on your throat.”  As my cunt pulsed, I continued. “I also know how much I like it, how much it turns me on to have someone’s hand around my throat as I come, and I want to share that.”  She looked at me and nodded in understanding.  I went back to fucking her, curving my fingers up into her G-spot, my thumb circling her clit.

“I’m going to make you come again.” She struggled to sit up, and push me away from her.  I held on and kept fucking her. Pressing against me, we began to wrestle a little.

“I never said I was going to make it easy for you.” Laughing, I kept fucking her as we tussled, and she finally was able to slip a few of her fingers into me. Wrestling and fucking with much laughter interspersed, she flipped me onto my back, and began to fuck me at a quicker pace. As my breath caught in my chest, she placed her other hand on MY throat. Within only a few seconds, I came HARD. And again.  Maybe once more.

Of course, I counted it as just one. I mean. Cheat to win, right?  But god, her hand on my throat…so good, like a shock of electricity fed directly into my cunt.  

After letting me catch a breath or two, she started to move her hand and fingers again, rubbing my clit with her thumbs as her four fingers explored my cunt.  My hips began to gyrate to the same rhythm, my hand reaching down to force her deeper inside me, doing kegels as I gasped with the sensation they provided.  Her eyes closed, she worked in and out of me, picking up speed and power until I was coming and screaming and coming and falling off the bed and… and then I was trying to breathe and sit up and not fall and…

“Just give me one second.  I promise I just need a sec.” My body was starting to shake as I curled up around her.

“Take your time” she smiled. My cunt was still quivering, and my clit throbbing as I tried to get as much of my naked skin to touch hers as humanly possible. I have a thing about touching when I’m about to come, and after I come. I crave touch, as much as can physically happen.  I’ve been known to look like a koala as I wrap my arms around someone after I’ve been fucked properly.

After a minute or two, I was ready to be up and at ‘em.  I pushed her flat on her back as I attempted to tower over her. Earlier, I’d lit my Afterglow candle, and now, I grabbed it, pouring the wax on her stomach, then rubbing it in. Hot wax is much fun, especially this kind, because it actually smells good, and then turns into massage oil.  I poured more onto her legs, rubbing it in, even massaging it in a little, while at the same time, I lowered my head between her legs, and went back to going down on her.  We lay there as I sucked her clit with my mouth, fucked her with my gloved hand, and used my other hand to continue to rub in the massage oil. I took breaks between to massage her legs, pulling her muscles into my hands.

“Wow, it’s very interesting having the contrast of the relaxing massage while I’m getting fucked” she spoke up. I paused.

“Does that mean you like it, or not?” I don’t claim to be omniscient, and prefer that the people I’m fucking enjoy themselves.

“Yes, it’s just different. It feels really good.”

“Good, I’m glad.”

“I think it would be cool to have a back massage sometime.” 

“I like giving back massages. That can be arranged. I was totally the hall back massage giving slut in college.” With that said, I started moving my hand again, and returned my mouth to her clit for a bit.  

Then, removing my hand, I moved her over, so that I had her just where I wanted her.

To be continued…

-Essin’ Em

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Deadline: April 22nd, 2009. Yup, a full month. Tell your friends, enter yourself, get your partner to enter as well. I mean, seriously, you can win a membership to CrashPad! Spread the word to watch people spread their legs.

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Ready…set…PORN!

-Essin’ Em

Remember that awesome NoFauxxx.com giveaway I was having? I received almost TWO DOZEN entries (including a few photos in my inbox!) and they were all incredibly interesting. Some were funny, some where deep, some all encompassing.  What great thoughts all of you have!

Thank you to everyone who entered.  I am often asked, when people find that I identify as queer, what queers me. I always tell them that I can give them MY understanding of queer for ME, but that is different for many people.  Now I have a plethora of answers I can share.

While all of the entries were great, and some were hands down amazing, this one, written by Sabien (no blog, but picture below), blew my mind:

“Queer!

Queer is Levels.

Queer is a hallway of mirrors in the funhouse of human nature. More specifically, human sexual dimorphism. Not just sexuality.
Not just gender. Not just social dynamics. It is impossible to talk of “queerness” and get a pin in its back for observation in still life.
Its parts and principles come from the expression through those who take shelter under its umbrella. Queer is a title owned by all
who use and add to it, and while it is more definitely some things and less definitely others, above all, it represents a congress of the blooming
diversity of our sexual spectrum (yet somehow remaining a handy one-syllable word) and a simple label for the people who travel past
suppression, stereotypes, ignorance, canon, and old patterns of thinking— who slough the unhealthy, uncreative habit of segregating
ourselves for our differences, and exchange it for a meal-ticket into the postmodern buffet of “Whatever, Whoever, However” and the
freedom of our own unique appetites. Queerness is playful. It is an ever increasing state of diversity in sexual expression. Queerness is
our choice not to isolate, but instead, to embrace.

Queer breaks the wall and rocks the Casbah. And that’s what it means to me.

And here is a picture our winner Sabien sent me:

So thank you again for all of your entries, thoughts, ideas and discussion!  Shortly, we’ll be having a giveaway for CrashPadSeries.com – another awesome queer site, where it just so happens, you can see me fucking! So make sure you keep visiting me here.

Didn’t win, but still want a membership so you can see my HOT kitchen masturbation set? Sign up here!

Thanks to Courtney Trouble, goddess of NoFauxxx for sponsoring this contest!

-Essin’ Em