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Essin' Em at the AVNs

Check me out at the AVN awards, wearing a sassy blue dress (my first ever One-Strap Dress), and the awesome 3-D glasses for the 3-D segment of the awards. Yep, I’m that cool.

Like last year, lots of queer and sex positive movies were nominated for the awards, including CrashPadSeries.com for best alternative website, Courtney Trouble’s Seven Minutes in Heaven for Pro-Am, Dangerous Curves for best niche movie (starring April Flores, directed by Carlos Batts), Good Releasing for best company, Jamye Waxman’s Sex Positions for Couples, etc. None of them won, sadly (although Good Vibrations and Babeland did win the two categories that Fascinations was nominated for…if we had to lose, what great companies to lose to!). JeJoue won both best small toy company and best toy for women with the JeJoue G-Ki.

Also, I got an Njoy Eleven. Get ready for my entire life to change. Well, I mean, at least the sexual part and art collector part of it. I also now have a La Palma harness from Spareparts to try, which I am super excited about, and a sample of one of Buck Angel’s new AWESOME glass toys! I can’t wait for his whole line to come out.

Smitten Kitten threw a fabulous party on Thursday night, and I am incredibly grateful to them. In this field, it can be extremely hard to be a sex positive person, particularly since many of us are the only people in the industry in our area. We are often alone in Arizona, Colorado, New Mexico, Wisconsin, LA, or wherever it is we happen to be. Outside of San Francisco and New York, there are not many groupings of sex educators, sex positive toy store owners, etc. However, attending this party was like coming home, meeting all sorts of other awesome people in the field, sharing triumphs and tribulations, asking questions that related to our own ethical views of certain toy lines, talking about the latest this, and the most interesting that. My hat goes off to Smitten Kitten for organizing such a great event (and with such delicious vegetarian and organic food/drink options to boot!) and helping to connect sex positive people in the adult/sex industry in a way that rarely has happened before. Plus, their crew is awesome.

Sometimes, I feel like I’m straddling the mainstream world and the sex positive world, and I don’t quite fit either. Where I work is sex positive, but we also have 16 stores and a website, so we do things very differently than a small company with just one or two stores. On my own, I am as sex positive as I can possibly be, but when I’m seen as part of Fascinations, I feel like I’m sometimes shunned from the sex positive community for having chosen to work with a more mainstream company, and that the literally dozens of free classes we offer, sex educators we employe, products we choose to carry (and not carry) don’t even matter, because it’s not my own store, or a well know store in the sex positive world. It’s tough. I felt that same way working for HotMoviesForHer, because at the time, few people were ok with the fact that many women DO like porn, and like more than just super touchy feely couples porn at that. I’m always feeling a little like a black sheep…but at least black is my favorite color, and I think sheep are cute. I do look forward to moving back to Colorado for many reasons, and one is being closer to other sex positive people in the adult industry, and the folks at the Denver SK are awesome.

That’s it for now…I’ll try to get back to posting more regularly from now on.

-Essin’ Em

The lovely and talented Tristan Taormino was kind enough to send me a copy of Rough Sex 2, her newest movie, in order to jill off to it. I mean, review it.

Rough Sex 2 features a freaking fabulous cast of stars, including Dylan Ryan, Madison Young, Adrianna Nicole, April Flores, Claire Adams, Sinnamon Love and more. With a group of amazing performers such as these, you know that this is going to be a fabulous movie.

The first scene is with Mistress Dylan and her submissive Madison, who bakes her a lovely (and vegan) cake. This scene wasn’t really my cup of tea, as I personally am not so much into toe licking or much ass play, and this scene was pretty chock full of both of these. However, if you have a foot, ass, or food fetish, at ALL, this is a super hot scene. I just wanted a slice of cake myself. A fun scene, and a great way to ease into the film, as there wasn’t much in the way of S/M.

My favorite scene is next. Shocking, if you know me, as there is so much fucking pink in this bloody scene, and I am not known for my love of pink. However, the chemistry and laughter between April Flores and Claire Adams is just so incredibly hot…not to mention that there is not one, but TWO hitachis. TWO HITACHIS?!?! How freaking amazing is that? I love the pre-scene conversation between the two, the laughter, the sex, all of it. I wasn’t sure I was going to like it, and rolled my eyes at the pink, but honestly, it’s one of my favorite porn scenes I may have ever scene, and I watch a LOT of porn. Don’t skip this one, despite the pink and “lighter” SM.

One of my favorite pre- scene conversations was that with Madison’s pony play scene. Tristan is such a great mediator for rough sex negotiations, and I loved being able to really see her in her element as she talked with both Pony and owner. Kinksters can definitely takes some of her well directed questions to their own pre-scene negotiations, and I really appreciate being able to see them, in addition to the actual scenes themselves. The scene itself wasn’t so much my fetish, and once the sex started, I kind of tuned out, as it seemed a bit more traditional/mainstream, yet in a barn. However, watching Madison go through her paces, and whiny with excitement was pretty interesting and enjoyable to observe.

Adrianna’s, Bobbi’s and Sinnamon’s scenes were also quite interesting and fabulous — both the negotiations and the actual scenes themselves, and tended to epitomize the concept of “rough sex” in a more traditional light than the other scenes.

All in all, this is a great cross-spectrum look at hot fantasies by real people (who just so happen to be porn stars) living out the rough sex that actually turns them on. There isn’t much of the stereotypical leather and dungeons that people often think of when talking about rough which I love, because it shows diversity of fantasies.  Good job, as usual, to Tristan for her great look at the spectrum of sexuality.

Click here to get your own copy of Tristan Taormino’s hot porn Rough Sex 2.

-Essin’ Em

I love both Courtney and Tina (and have shot them both), so am happy to help them in promoting their AWESOME new project!

-Essin’ Em

ARE YOU A QUEER PORN STAR? WE THINK SO!

QueerPorn.TV is a new community-driven, edgy, hardcore XXX porn project from award-winning feminist, queer pornographer/porn star Courtney Trouble and porn star/kink expert Tina Horn to be fully launched in late fall 2010

QueerPorn.TV is hosting a contest to promote the launch, and everybody wins a prize! We are looking for folks over 18 of all genders, sexual identities, and styles to come out and say “I Am A Queer Porn Star!” You don’t actually have to be famous, have performed in porn, or even turned on a camera in order to enter the contest. In our minds, everybody is a queer porn star – and we’d like to prove that by making a fabulous YouTube video of hundreds of people saying “I Am A Queer Porn Star!”

QueerPorn.TV is ready to reward you for helping us make this video. Everyone who enters the contest and appears in the final video project will get a very special, top secret beta membership to QueerPorn.TV and access to all of our content and features before the official launch.

TO ENTER

Film a clip of yourself saying, signing, writing, or somehow expressing “I Am A Queer Porn Star” – we MUST be able to read, hear, or see that exact phrase in order to include you in the video and the prize.

E-mail your clip (around 10 seconds maximum please!), your model release, and identification scan to info@queerporn.tv with “I am A Queer Porn Star” in the subject.

DUE DATE: October 15th, 2010

Acceptable Video Formats

MOV, MP4, or anything from an iPhone or Apple’s Photobooth program. No AVI – Standard Quality is prefered, but footage from a FlipCam HD will be accepted.

Model Release

Digital Model Release for QueerPorn.TV

I, ____________________, ceritify that I am over the age of 18 at the time of filming this sequence for QueerPorn.TV’s “I Am A Queer Porn Star” Video Contest, and release my image, likeness, and name to QueerPorn.TV for marketing, advertising, entertainment, and promotional purposes. I understand that my video might be edited for length or to improve quality, and release all ownership of this content to QueerPorn.TV.

Digital Signature: ___________
Name: ___________
Date: ____________
Date of Birth: ___________
E-Mail: _________________
Phone: _________________
Address: _______________

Your personal information will not be shared at all.
Please attach a scanned JPG of a photo ID that proves your age.

Content Guideline

One 10 second color video clip that must include the phrase “I Am A Queer Porn Star” in any way. Must be “YouTube Friendly” – ie, no explicit nudity, no exposed breasts, no genitals on any gender. You can do whatever else you like as long as you say “I Am A Queer Porn Star!”

Slow Enough to Scream by wynnesome

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e[lust] #19

Editor

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Editor’s Pick

• Cobra Libre by Dr. Ruthie

While I’ve seen a lot of great men’s masturbation toys, it’s become clear that, largely, they fall into two categories: full-penis-length stroking sleeves meant to enhance the usual jacking-off motions, or anal toys meant for prostate stimulation. That’s why the arrival of the Cobra Libre, Fun Factory’s new vibrating men’s toy meant for relaxing, luxuriating stimulation to the glans (the penis head) was extra exciting for me.

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• Glo-Glo A Go-Go Flicker Tip by Sammi
• Blush Pussycat Vibrating Strapless Thong by Evil Poptart
• Neon Luv Touch by buzzvibe
• Mini Wanachi by Mistress Kay
• Calypso 2 by Sammi
• Calypso 2 by Mistress Arabella
• Waterproof Clitoral Hummer by Jane Blow
• Sex A-Peel by Mistress Arabella
• The C-Spot by Lucid Obsession
• Metallic Water Shimmer by Sammi
• Throbbing Hearts by Mistress Arabella
• Fun Factory Ellove by Dangerous Lilly
• Couture Collection Amante by Kynky Kytty

Dildos

• Rose G-spotter by Kate

Anal Toys

• Fun Factory Wanda by True Pleasures
• Tantus Big Flirt by Mistress Arabella
• Deluxe Anal Douche by Red Vinyl Kitty
• Tantus Protouch Plug by Elodie
• Jollies Luna by Mistress Arabella
• Tantus Cody by ScottA

Toys for Cocks

• Tunnel of Love by Elodie
• Tunnel of Love by Femenina Deliciosa
• Cobra Libre by Dr. Ruthie
• Senso Cock Rings by Pretty Power Tools

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Sliquid Organics Stimulating O Gel by Essin’ Em
• Fancy Me Sampler Kit by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Hot Pants Rocket Balm & Flower Balm by Marilyn
• System Jo Sweet Pomegranate by Femenina Deliciosa

BDSM/Fetish

• Liberator DeLashe by Mistress Kay
• Clover Clamps by Kate
• Pinwheel by Sammi
• Sportsheets Bondage Bar by Elodie
• LELO Etherea Silk Cuffs by Mistress Kay
• The Emperor by Mistress Arabella

Adult Books/Games

• Oral Sex 101 by Mistress Kay
• Multi Orgasmic Man by Jessie Beth
• 52 Weeks of Naughty Nights by Dylan
• Moregasm by Jessie Beth
• Best of the Best Women’s Erotica 2 by Dr Ruthie

Adult DVDs & Porn

• Performers of the Year – Sasha Grey by The Porn Librarian
• Exchange Student by FrzKey
• Tristan Taormino’s Rough Sex 2 by J.D. Bauchery
• Pantyhose by The Porn Librarian
• Resurrection of Eve by FrzKey

Storage

• Large Lockable Vibrator Case by Mistress Kay

Miscellaneous

• My Toy Cleaner by buzzvibe
• Tantus Suction Cup by Mystress Lady Evyl
• Trojan Fire & Ice Condoms by Jessie Beth
• Big Joe by Mystress Lady Evyl
• Semenex by Evil Poptart
• A Chap’s Stick by Marilyn

This is part of my 30 Days of Letters blog endeavor. Today marks the 9th day (for those new, I’m not doing them all back to back, but rather scattering them, in order), in which I’m supposed to write to someone I’d like to meet.

This is hard. In the past four years, I’ve met most of the people I’ve been dying to meet; Audacia Ray, Jamye Waxman, Tristan Taormino, Nina Hartley, Belladonna, Jiz Lee, Shine Louise Houston, Megan Andelloux, Dylan Ryan, Courtney Trouble, Madison Young, Midori, Mistress Saskia, May May, Mollena, Graydancer, Ducky Doolittle, Cunning Minx, Sequoia Redd, Sabrina Morgan, Tina Horn, etc. I know, I’m a very very very lucky pervert. I’d definitely like to meet Candia Royalle, but I think that’s going to happen October 1st at the Sex Blogger Calendar Release Party, so that’s kind of moot.

I’m going to write this letter to the person or company that will eventually (I hope) want to pay me to produce porn for them.

Dear person/company/someone in the adult industry,

We haven’t met yet, but when we do, I hope you’ll be so bowled over by my eye for interesting sex on film that you’ll want to hire me on the spot. More likely, we’ll meet multiple times through various people in our networks, and eventually, you’ll give in to my constant emailing about producing a movie with me, and we’ll make a movie.

It’ll be amazing, I tell you. If I can film what I’ve done (five really incredibly hot 45 minute scenes) with essentially no budget, and only people I can find here in Arizona, imagine what I could do with a little bit of money, and a larger pool of soon to be porn-actors?

I want to to create hot, sexy porn with real chemistry. I want it, like so many of the newer porn companies, to be diverse. That includes diversity of gender, orientation, color, size, age and ability. I want there to be incredibly hot connections between the stars, something I seem to have almost no trouble finding when I help put people together to shoot for me.

I want there to be some sweet and sensual bits, and lots of hardcore, to the wall fucking. I’d love to do an educational line, with a video on masturbation, a video on how to use a strap on, a video on how to incorportate sex toys, and much more.

I’m an incredibly dedicate worker, a bit OCD, so things will be done definitely by deadline, if not before, and all of the forms and pictures will be in perfect order. I could do so many awesome things for you, but you don’t even know me yet.

Who are you? I don’t know yet. Perhaps Good Releasing? Perhaps Vivid Ed? Perhaps a completely new company looking for an up and coming sex educator/pornographer to rock their world. Whoever you are, I can’t wait to meet you!

Just wait. One day, our paths will cross, and you and I will be an epic ethical porn team, creating super hot movies for the masses. I know it will happen, because it just has to!

Looking forward to finally getting to meet you,

-Essin’ Em

The Goddess Aphrodite by DarkAlchemyStudios

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e[lust] #18

Editor

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

Editor’s Pick

• njoy Fun Wand by Elodie

I already adored my new toy before I knew how the end with three bloops felt in my butt. When K used the Fun Wand in my rear (with plenty of lubricant), it was a revelation.

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• L’Amour Tripler Dual Stimulation by Mistress Kay
• L’Amour Tripler Dual Stimulation by Jessie Beth
• Fun Factory Sinfflut Benjamin Bond by Rayne
• Tuyo by Marilyn
• Rhythm “O” Triple Kiss by Isabel0329
• Rhythm “O” Triple Kiss by Jane Blow
• Rechargeable Power Wand by Dr. Ruthie
• We-Vibe II by Juliettia
• We-Vibe II by Kate
• Blue Venus by Bitchin’ Babe
• Black Diamond by buzzvibe
• LELO Siri by Alan & Michele
• Zen Calm Massager by Jessie Beth
• Wand Vibrator Comparison by Dr. Ruthie
• Calypso 2 by Lucy Lemonade
• Reflections Bliss Nirvana by Vanilla Kinks
• The C-Spot by Alan & Michele
• Chippendales Diva by Pretty Power Tools
• Evolved Croupier by Pretty Power Tools

Dildos

• Crystal Delights Epiphany Baton by Isabel0329
• njoy Fun Wand by Elodie
• Tentacle Jr. by True Pleasure
• Vixen Creations Spur by Elodie
• Jollies Jack by Pretty Power Tools

Anal Toys

• Crystal Delights Plug by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
• LELO Bob by Dr. Ruthie
• Tantus Ripple by Vanilla Kinks
• Silicone Explorers by Kynky Kytty
• Fun Factory Flexi Felix by Red Vinyl Kitty

Toys for Cocks

• Tenga Flip Hole by Cooper
• Blossom Sleeve by Red Vinyl Kitty
• Studded Extender Sleeve by Pretty Power Tools

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Durex Play Utopia by Lucid Obsession
• Earthly Body Waterslide by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• BabeLicious by Vanilla Kinks
• BabeLube by Saraid
• Babeland Naked Organic by Dr. Ruthie
• Pink Unity by Kynky Kytty
• System JO Wild Clitoral Stimulation Gel by Femenina Deliciosa

BDSM/Fetish

• Rachel’s Play Pak by Jessie Beth
• Pink Plush Cuffs by Kit O’Connell
• Mini Cat-O-Nine Tails by Mistress Kay
• Fetish Fantasy Series Bamboo Beater by Lucy Lemonade
• Wartenberg Pinwheel by buzzvibe
• Pinwheel by Mystress Lady Evyl
• Spank Ties by Mistress Kay
• Under the Bed Restraints by Missy

Adult Books/Games

• A Smart Girl’s Guide to Porn by Alan & Michele
• Pleasure Bound by Mistress Kay
• Secrets of Prostate Massage by Joanna Cake
• Sexually Dominant Woman by Mistress Kay
• Fast Girls by Mistress Kay
• Fairy Tale Lust by Alan & Michele
• Sex Toys 101 by Alan & Michele

Adult DVDs & Porn

• Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Anal Pleasure for Men by Mistress Kay
• Desperate Husbands by Chops McGruff
• Ultimate Surrender #15 by J.D. Bauchery
• A+ by FrzKey
• Justine Joli LOST by J.D. Bauchery
• Couch Surfers 2 – Trans Men in Action by The Porn Librarian
• Speakeasy by Jessie Beth
• Inmu Vol. 1 & 2 by FrzKey
• Feeling It… Not Faking It by Jessie Beth

Storage

• Small Black Vibrator Case by Mistress Kay

Miscellaneous

• Vibrating Velvet Corsette Harness by Essin’ Em
• Celtic Wreath Nipple Jewelry by Isabel0329
• Good Vibrations Soft Pack by Mistress Kay
• Trojan Fire & Ice Condoms by Lucid Obsession
• Spareparts Theo Harness by Pretty Power Tools

So as some of your may remember, last year at Sex 2.0 in DC, I shot for GoodDykePorn.com with the lovely Sabrina Morgan. In the last year plus, I’ve decided to work more on shooting actively from behind the camera, more as a videographer and/or director. This May, I participated in Shine Louise Houston’s Point of Contact project, and then back in June, I was lucky enough to get to shoot a local butch/femme identified couple for Good Dyke Porn.

May I introduce the hot and sexy Dylan Starr and Dani Starr, a real life queer couple based in AZ? They had a fun shoot, with a little bit a fantasy, a little bit of kink, and a whole hell of a lot of steamy sex; oral, anal, toys, kissing, and much more. I loved getting to shoot them; I hope you enjoy watching them just as much!

Click here to see their shoot (and a ton of others) on GDP!

We’re back again with more hot pictures of one of my favorite, super sexy and super smart queer porn stars, the lovely and oh-s0-talented Dylan Ryan. This week, she’s on the set of Device Bondage, getting all sorts of horrible and wonderful things done to her.

Click here to see more of Dylan Ryan taking pain and pleasure on DeviceBondage.com.

Inspired by the Slutty Friend, I’ve decided to make a list of things that turn me on, that make me say “oooh” or “ahhh” or “mmmm.” These are in no particular order.

-Essin’ Em

*Ties (especially gender queer/butch people wearing them)

*Q, especially when dressed up, and properly mohawked

*Eyeglasses

*Lighting

*Massages

*Thunder

*Dark Chocolate

*Ice Cream

*People passionate for social justice

*Corsets/Cinchers

*Gender queer-ness/Gender fuckery

*Other people packing

*The Hitachi Magic Wand

*Duct Tape on my Moose

*Kisses on my neck

*Knives

*Vampire Gloves

*The smell of books (especially old books)

*Black nitrile gloves

*Vaginal Fisting

*Queer Porn

*Introspective Tattoos

*Train rides

*Hotel beds

*Hot tubs

*Pools

*Being submerged

*Snow/rain/fog

*Fire

*Lilac/magnolias/lily of the valley/gladiolas scents

*Leopard print

*Certain music

*Pedicures (this is new, as of last week)

*Having my head pet

*Cuddling

*Grasshoppers (the drink)

*Breasts

This week, we have some more deliciousness from Cocksexual for our yummy eye candy, featuring queer porn stars of all sexes, genders, and identities.

I love Cocksexual, because you have such a diversity of hot models, from Miss Calico to Dylan Ryan to Sadie Lune (and Kimberlee Cline, and Billy Castro, and Jiz Lee, and Bella Vendetta, and Syd Blakovich) and many many more all strapped on and wearing and using cocks. Each scene (whether solo or with partners) has both photos and video.

I like the first two pictures, because I think sets with just one person rocking their cock can be extremely hot, and of course Dylan Ryan and Calico (two fierce femmes) have got that well practiced. Then Sadie Lune getting a hot cock blow job from Gloria? Mmmm. Do queer blow jobs get much more delicious than that?

Enjoy the pictures, and see more picture and video by click here and joining Cocksexual!