Sexuality Happens

What do we have here? Its a vibrator that is a little different than what you’d expect. It’s a vibrator that is a little off the beaten path. No, it’s not Jaws vibrator, and an Abominable Snowman vibe. It’s just not quite your run of the mill vibrator.

What makes this vibe so incredibly different? Well how about that it is made of ice. Yep, you heard me, MADE OF ICE. Is that not cool or crazy or ridiculous or awesome or all the the aforementioned? What toy is this that I’m talking about? Why, its the Ice Vibe by Touche. The body of the toy is 100% medical grade silicone, the freezing cup is plastic, it comes with a little traditional bullet vibrator, and of  course, the actual part that winds up vibrating  is made of ice. I think this is the perfect toy to use in the summer to cool down when your love life is getting a bit heated up. I put more thoughts into the video about the ice vibe. Check out my video review.

As usual, a big thank you to Fascinations for the toy in exchange for a review, as well as video guy Matt who made the awesome video. The video is a bit old, but is never seen before, and now that it’s summer, what better time to share the Ice Vibe with you, right?

-Essin’ Em

So as some of your may remember, last year at Sex 2.0 in DC, I shot for GoodDykePorn.com with the lovely Sabrina Morgan. In the last year plus, I’ve decided to work more on shooting actively from behind the camera, more as a videographer and/or director. This May, I participated in Shine Louise Houston’s Point of Contact project, and then back in June, I was lucky enough to get to shoot a local butch/femme identified couple for Good Dyke Porn.

May I introduce the hot and sexy Dylan Starr and Dani Starr, a real life queer couple based in AZ? They had a fun shoot, with a little bit a fantasy, a little bit of kink, and a whole hell of a lot of steamy sex; oral, anal, toys, kissing, and much more. I loved getting to shoot them; I hope you enjoy watching them just as much!

Click here to see their shoot (and a ton of others) on GDP!

First, we have Drew Devereaux and Buck Angel talking about important health care exams for people who identify as trans.

And this one is 100% Buck Angel and his awesome-sauce-ness about trans guys, and their health care.

Thank you to both of these fabulous performers for bringing attention to such an important sexuality issue. Way to go you two – thanks so much for talking about trans men with cervixes, and trans women with prostates, and all sorts of other differences that might keep people out of the doctor’s offices, when they really need check ups just as much as anyone else.

If you have good suggestions for resource lists for doctors who are LGB and especially T and Q friendly, please feel free to share!

-Essin’ Em

This toy is quite new and quite different than your average version 2.0 double dildo (think the Share by Fun Factory, or the Feeldoe by Tantus). Why? Because it has adjustable angles, using a little silicone piece to change things up.

Like the other toys in this overarching category, it’s 100% silicone, meaning you can clean it with soap and water, or sterilize it with a 10% bleach solution, dishwashing it (top shelf, no soap), or boiling it 3-5 minutes. However, litter crevices make it a bit harder to clean than some of its counter parts. Only use water based lube please!

For the most part, I was pretty impressed with the Mantric Sysil Double-Dildo like toy, and even made you a shiny video review for you to learn a little more about it, see it in action, etc. Check it out:

Thanks again to Matt and Fascinations for the video action and toy-ness.

Click here to get your own Sysil Mantric and begin the angling action!

-Essin’ Em

This is another rocking video review from Fascinations by my awesome co-worker Matt.  Also, danke to Fun Factory for the Layaspot for trial and actual review.

I like this vibe because it’s small, easy to get a good handle on (my hands aren’t all cramped up or hurting after using it, like they are with some toys), and is a bit different looking than your average clitoral stimulation vibrator.  It fits in really well between your labia, and can be used on the clitoris, as well as anywhere on any body; nipples, lips (on your face), various parts of the vulva, under the testicles or on the shaft of a penis, etc. Since it’s not phallic shaped, nor does it plug into the wall, many people will find this less intimidating (or their partners will) than some toys. This makes it a great toy to share with your partner(s) in addition to using it on your own.

It’s made of Elastomer, which is phthalate free, making it body friendly. However, this means it is NOT sterilizable like silicone would be, so keep this for your (and your fluid bound partner), unlike some of the other vibes that you can share. Q likes this one a lot, so you know it’s good for your average clitoral stimulation lover, and I love using it on her…muahaha!

I, as we all know, am a HUGE fanatical fan of the the Hitachi Magic Wand. This vibrator (the Layaspot) doesn’t pack nearly as much power as the Hitachi…but I like my sex toys weapons grade. If you don’t need plug-into-the-wall stimulation, or perhaps are looking for buy your very first vibrator, this could be a perfect match for you (and it comes in lots of colors).  I give it 3 stars for me, but Q definitely gives it at least 4 stars.

 Click here to get a Layaspot! Want more info? Watch my video review of the Layaspot above!

-Essin’ Em

Here is another styling video review from Fascinations, this time of the Spareparts Joque harness. 

Thanks again to Matt, my fabulous media dude who took and cut the video.

I love love love this Spareparts Joque harness. It’s a two-strap, super comfy harness for fucktastic fucking.  Because of the design, it’s great for people of all genders (including those born with a cock), and fits regular dildos as well as double ended dildos.  Brilliant? Yes.  I’ve had one for years, and now we have a second one, because it really is that good.  I can’t wait to check out the other products coming down the Spareparts Pipeline.

Watch the sex toy video review of the Joque for the rest of my thoughts…plus I try it on to show it off, and wind up looking a little pervy.  And who doesn’t love someone looking accidentally pervy? I know I do!

Want one two? Click here to get a black one (also on the site in pink!) — choose A for the smaller and B for the larger!

-Essin’ Em

Good Vibrations was kind enough to send a copy of one of Courtney Trouble’s films to review — Seven Minutes in Heaven: Coming Out.

Basically, think queer reality porn, similar to Tristan Taormino’s Chemistry, where a bunch of queer people are put together in a room, and get to choose who to have sex with, and what type of sex to have. And then the cameras record it. Poof.

Some of my favorite performers are in this, including Tina Horn, Carson, and Puck Goodfellow, and a bevy of newcomers I enjoyed, like Sophia St. James and Sarah Lee Sinful.

The concept, I absolutely love.  They play games like Seven Minutes in Heaven, Truth or Dare, and Spin the Bottle.  I love how it reminds me of a pervy high school party that ends with all sorts of hot raunchy play.

The sex? It’s good.  I like some scenes more than others (Carson and Puck brought a lot of awesome fuckery to their scenes, and Tina Horn spanks an ass like no one else), but others I found to be a bit to slow for me.  I like more “balls to the wall” fucking, and less of the romance (with the exception of real life couples, where I find the kissing to be incredibly hot). However, I know a lot of people who really like more of the interactive parts of porn, and I think this would actually be a great movie for people wanting to try a newer type of the “girl on girl” genre (actually, a few of the stars had never had sex with a woman/queer sex before this shoot, so it’s actually kind of really cool to get to see their first time trying news things).

While much queer porn is geared towards a specifically queer audience, I feel that this particular film would be great for people of all identities. It’s hot dyke porn, but has some similarities with the more mainstream girl-on-girl that a feel many a straight guy would enjoy watching it as much as a hetero couple, or a gaggle of queers. It really appeals to a wider variety of audiences, and I love that about this film.  I’d recommend this to most people, and right now, it’s on sale, so grab this chance to get even more affordable awesome sex positive porn before the opportunity passes you by!

Click here to get your very own copy of Seven Minutes in Heaven.

-Essin’ Em

Check out this video review of the amazing kegel exercisers known by many as Smartballs. This set of balls by Fun Factory is probably one of my favorite non-sex specific toys EVER.

Thanks to Fascinations for a) giving me the balls to review, and b) for doing such freaking fantastic video work. 

Like the Smartballs? Want to know more about them? Click here to get your very own personal set of AWESOME…

Here is my first fabulous video review (toy and video awesomeness courtesy of Fascinations!). It’s of the really cool aluminum dildo by Tantus, the Alumina Revolve. I liked it a lot, as you can see, and my vulva puppet Viviane makes a cameo as well!

Good For Her Emerging Filmmaker Award
Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards: April 8th and April 9th,2010

• Filmmakers must be 19 years old and must submit proof of age with application (Copy of valid Drivers License and/or Passport)
• Filmmakers must not have won a previous FPA award
• Filmmakers must not currently have a distribution deal.
• Filmmakers must submit a written personal statement out lining their current and/or proposed creative project(s). Personal statements must illuminate the ways in which the proposed work will contribute to feminist porn as a genre.  We want to know what you are planning on doing, how you plan to do it and why you think it’s sexy!
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• All applicants will be notified by e-mail when material is received by Good For Her and winners will not be announced to the public until the Awards ceremony on April 9^th, 2010. Should the winner of the EFA be unable to attend the awards, Good For Her reserves the right to request a video acceptance speech prior to the event, to be submitted by winner no later than February 15, 2010.
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The Fifth Annual Good For Her Feminist Porn Awards will be held on April 8th and 9th in Toronto Canada.