Sexuality Happens

Today, November 20th, is National (and International) Transgender Day of Remembrance. In the last few years (and this video is from last year, so there are more names and faces to be sadly added), over 100 people have been murdered for their gender identity/presentation. This doesn’t even take into account the hundreds and possibly THOUSANDS of people who are assaulted based on their gender, and tens of thousands more who are harassed each and every day.

Please watch this video. Again, it’s a year old, so many people are missing, but if you cannot take nine minutes out of your life to remember those who we have lost due to violence against the transgender community, what does that say? After you watch it, please think for a moment, or two, or ten, what YOU can do to create change in your community, in our community. How can we make it stop? This is completely unacceptable and heartbreaking. No one should have to be scare to leave their home due to their gender, and they should certainly not be scared of being killed. This is flat out wrong, and regardless of your politics, or religion, or moral views, is is NEVER ok to hurt and/or murder someone because of who they are. Ever.

If we don’t stand up and create this change, no one will. Stand up for people who are being harmed and whose voices are being heard. Create change, NOW. And always, always remember those we have lost.

-Essin’ Em

I found this site the other day — it’s called the Republican Sex and Marriage Advice show, which is a ridiculously dry, tongue in cheek parody of conservative responses to sexuality. Given what we’ve hear from people like Christine O’Donnell and the like, it’s nice to have something ridiculous like this that you KNOW is parody.

Don’t forget to vote today, and remember to think about how issues will affect not only you, but the entire community. Do you really want people like Sharon Engels, Christine O’Donnell and Jan Brewer (and one might at Chip Womack — as seen in the video above) creating change in YOUR community?

I know I don’t, and this video, while funny, also reminds me how dead serious some of these people can be on their anti-choice, anti-masturbation, anti-sex education, etc rants. And this is why we need to stand up and make a difference.

So check out the ridiculousness of Chip, have a good laugh at the Republican Sex and Marriage Advice, and then get out and vote. You can’t complain if you don’t vote. I turned in my mail in ballot two weeks ago–how about you?

-Essin’ Em

I’m sure that you have all heard about the recent rash of tragedies regarding anti-LGBTQ bullying, and the teens that felt the only way out was to take their own lives.

This is not my most eloquent video. I have no script. I mess up a few times. But it’s from my heart. It’s part of both the It Gets Better push, as well as the Make It Better Project (LGBTQ youth empowerment). We need to stop the bullying as well as stop the suicides, depression and all of the effects of such a horrible climate.

-Essin’ Em

Other resources:
Scarleteen
Trevor Project

Here is a video made by the daughter of two Woodhull Foundation council members. I think it’s brilliant. And hopefully encourages you to think about sexual freedom in the context of your own life.

-Essin’ Em

Hey all. Here is a fancy schmancy, middle of the week review of a sex toy; the Je Joue G-Ki. As with all my video reviews, thanks to Matt (the video rockstar) and to Fascinations.

So, as you’ve gather, behold before you a review of the Je Joue G-Ki. What is it? It’s the fairly new and very cool G-spot vibrator/dildo. Get this; it actually has two awesome joints that bend and flex, making it simpler for you to make this toy fit your body, and your G-spot, the way that works for you. Another bonus? This is a reachargeable toy, which gets mucho points from my side of the court. This is not just because I love the earth, but also I hate having to deal with batteries, etc.

Interested at all? Look at the video review to get a better idea about the and watch how it works, as well as hear my thoughts the G-Ki, and other G-spot superheros, like the Lelo Gigi. I do like this toy, although I think I’d recommend the Gigi first, as that’s my all time favorite G-spot rockstar.

Again, I give my thanks to Fascinations! Enjoy the video and the review, and please especially enjouy all the fun and awkward noises I make to describe the vibrations patterns… Click here to get your very own G-Ki!

-Shanna

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What do we have here? Its a vibrator that is a little different than what you’d expect. It’s a vibrator that is a little off the beaten path. No, it’s not Jaws vibrator, and an Abominable Snowman vibe. It’s just not quite your run of the mill vibrator.

What makes this vibe so incredibly different? Well how about that it is made of ice. Yep, you heard me, MADE OF ICE. Is that not cool or crazy or ridiculous or awesome or all the the aforementioned? What toy is this that I’m talking about? Why, its the Ice Vibe by Touche. The body of the toy is 100% medical grade silicone, the freezing cup is plastic, it comes with a little traditional bullet vibrator, and of  course, the actual part that winds up vibrating  is made of ice. I think this is the perfect toy to use in the summer to cool down when your love life is getting a bit heated up. I put more thoughts into the video about the ice vibe. Check out my video review.

As usual, a big thank you to Fascinations for the toy in exchange for a review, as well as video guy Matt who made the awesome video. The video is a bit old, but is never seen before, and now that it’s summer, what better time to share the Ice Vibe with you, right?

-Essin’ Em

So as some of your may remember, last year at Sex 2.0 in DC, I shot for GoodDykePorn.com with the lovely Sabrina Morgan. In the last year plus, I’ve decided to work more on shooting actively from behind the camera, more as a videographer and/or director. This May, I participated in Shine Louise Houston’s Point of Contact project, and then back in June, I was lucky enough to get to shoot a local butch/femme identified couple for Good Dyke Porn.

May I introduce the hot and sexy Dylan Starr and Dani Starr, a real life queer couple based in AZ? They had a fun shoot, with a little bit a fantasy, a little bit of kink, and a whole hell of a lot of steamy sex; oral, anal, toys, kissing, and much more. I loved getting to shoot them; I hope you enjoy watching them just as much!

Click here to see their shoot (and a ton of others) on GDP!

First, we have Drew Devereaux and Buck Angel talking about important health care exams for people who identify as trans.

And this one is 100% Buck Angel and his awesome-sauce-ness about trans guys, and their health care.

Thank you to both of these fabulous performers for bringing attention to such an important sexuality issue. Way to go you two – thanks so much for talking about trans men with cervixes, and trans women with prostates, and all sorts of other differences that might keep people out of the doctor’s offices, when they really need check ups just as much as anyone else.

If you have good suggestions for resource lists for doctors who are LGB and especially T and Q friendly, please feel free to share!

-Essin’ Em

This toy is quite new and quite different than your average version 2.0 double dildo (think the Share by Fun Factory, or the Feeldoe by Tantus). Why? Because it has adjustable angles, using a little silicone piece to change things up.

Like the other toys in this overarching category, it’s 100% silicone, meaning you can clean it with soap and water, or sterilize it with a 10% bleach solution, dishwashing it (top shelf, no soap), or boiling it 3-5 minutes. However, litter crevices make it a bit harder to clean than some of its counter parts. Only use water based lube please!

For the most part, I was pretty impressed with the Mantric Sysil Double-Dildo like toy, and even made you a shiny video review for you to learn a little more about it, see it in action, etc. Check it out:

Thanks again to Matt and Fascinations for the video action and toy-ness.

Click here to get your own Sysil Mantric and begin the angling action!

-Essin’ Em

This is another rocking video review from Fascinations by my awesome co-worker Matt.  Also, danke to Fun Factory for the Layaspot for trial and actual review.

I like this vibe because it’s small, easy to get a good handle on (my hands aren’t all cramped up or hurting after using it, like they are with some toys), and is a bit different looking than your average clitoral stimulation vibrator.  It fits in really well between your labia, and can be used on the clitoris, as well as anywhere on any body; nipples, lips (on your face), various parts of the vulva, under the testicles or on the shaft of a penis, etc. Since it’s not phallic shaped, nor does it plug into the wall, many people will find this less intimidating (or their partners will) than some toys. This makes it a great toy to share with your partner(s) in addition to using it on your own.

It’s made of Elastomer, which is phthalate free, making it body friendly. However, this means it is NOT sterilizable like silicone would be, so keep this for your (and your fluid bound partner), unlike some of the other vibes that you can share. Q likes this one a lot, so you know it’s good for your average clitoral stimulation lover, and I love using it on her…muahaha!

I, as we all know, am a HUGE fanatical fan of the the Hitachi Magic Wand. This vibrator (the Layaspot) doesn’t pack nearly as much power as the Hitachi…but I like my sex toys weapons grade. If you don’t need plug-into-the-wall stimulation, or perhaps are looking for buy your very first vibrator, this could be a perfect match for you (and it comes in lots of colors).  I give it 3 stars for me, but Q definitely gives it at least 4 stars.

 Click here to get a Layaspot! Want more info? Watch my video review of the Layaspot above!

-Essin’ Em