If you listened to my interview with Trouble (creator, owner and photographer for NoFauxxx.com) on RadioDentata, you already know what I’m about to say.
She has lots of great things to say about the concepts of queer, of feminism, of sex-positivism, and so much more.
But one of the most exciting things she said? She’s going to give away a three-month membership to NoFauxxx.com. THREE MONTHS. That includes all the photo sets and videos on the site. And because I just shot with them while I was in San Francisco, it means you get to see really cute pictures of me naked in a kitchen…and masturbating on the stove!
How do you enter? Comment here, or on my podcast, or shoot me an email at essinem at gmail dot com. Trouble and I want to know what queer means to YOU. You can write it out, you can send a video, a picture, etc. Please know that if you submit, your definition of queer may be posted here, read on my show, etc.
I need a name (doesn’t have to be your real one for the submission), and an email where I can contact you. You’ll need to be willing to give Trouble all your info, should you win.
THREE MONTHS OF HOT, NAKED, QUEER and ALTERNATIVE people. Does it get much better than that?
So comment, email, what have you. Because we want to get lots of responses, you have until February 28th to enter. A whole month. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell your partner(s). My set goes up around the 14th, so if you win, you’ll definitely get to see me naked (and if you don’t want to wait, or if you don’t win, you can always sign up for affordable memberships as well!)
Ready. Set. Go. We can’t wait to see what you have to say about what queer is to YOU.
And make sure you check out my show every on RadioDentata!
-Essin’ Em
In case you wanted a little taste of what you can see more of if you win (or buy a membership), including sexy hair colors, really cool make up, and the super hot Jiz Lee and Madison Young:
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You look so cute in that picture!
Some hot creatures as well! awesome contest idea
Finally I’ve found a site with no long fake nails!
I love fake hair, not fake girls! Hooray!
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Queer positive love’n, can’t get much better then that. Look forward to your set.
My definition of queer in relation to sexuality is very simple:
“Queer” is anything and anyone which/who isn’t “straight”. All LGBT people are queer. It is an umbrella term for all of us who are not straight.
Further thoughts:
“Queer” is a reclaimed word just like dyke, fag, and for that matter nigger, are reclaimed words. “Queer” was originally (and still is in the mouths of many) a pejorative term, a curse word, used against all people who’s sexuality and/or gender identity and life style does not conform to
that which is strictly “straight” and therefore conventionally heterosexual.
If you reclaim a curse word from the haters you must be willing to reclaim it for all the people that word has been, or could be, used against. Which means bi women are dykes as well as lesbians and bi men are fags as well as gay men.
And it doesn’t stop at sexual behavior. For example an effeminate transvestite male who is only attracted to and sexually active with females is entitled to identify as queer, and a fag if he wishes, every bit as much a gay male who only has sex with other males. He is queer because he is gender nonconformist and therefore not hetero-normative, and also because ignorant queer haters are very likely to assume he is gay anyway. He could be the subject of homophobic attack because of his
physical appearance even though he is actually a male who is only sexual with females. In fact if he crossdresses in public and doesn’t pass for female he is often much more vulnerable to homophobic attack than a straight acting gay man who keeps it on the downlow.
queer is what my gran calls me because she can’t bring herself to call me a lesbian…
my queerness is about being able to love who I want to love and be who i want to be.
i am a rioting, loud, proud rainbow wearing, safe-sex advocating, pride marching kind of queer.
I’m a soft or hard, butch or femme or tomboyfemme or high butch or other, every shape and size, blush or smirk, lace or flannel, more and more for you and you and you kind of queer.
and so much of that is what queer is to me.. so much of what I am.
To me, queer means victory. It is a final escape from the confines of small-mindedness that has dominated every generation before us. Queer is the movement of people who are not afraid to live the lives they were born to live, some quietly and some loudly. Queer is the opposite of elitism and enemy of shame. Queer is sex-positivity, sexual exploration and gender pioneering. Queer is commitment, love, and happiness. To be queer is to be empowered by your identification, your kinks, and your rights.
Thank you,
Will
To me, “queer” simply means being open to and interested in the vast
spectrum of sexuality available to us.
Oh my god, I love this question. I love thinking about it, talking about it, debating it, because it is so important and interesting and damn sexy.
Though, I’m not sure that for me, a queer identity is as tied to sex and sexuality as I had origninally thought. I am a woman, who is traditionally attracted to women. But some of the queerest people I know are in heterosexual relationships.
To me, queerness is about questioning the dominant paradigm, and questioning, and fucking with the status quo. I want to question the storyline that tells me that women are not “supposed” to want sex. Why are “traditional” relationships monogamous? And where did this assumption of heterosexuality come from? And if you are practicing a heterosexual relationship, who says that men are the agressors, and women the submissives? And what does “man” and “woman” mean, anyway?
With those questions come choices. When I can see that what I’m supposed to do, or be, or say, or look like, are all imaginary constructs, I have some decisions to make. Queerness is about chosing the life you live with intentionality.
I love this question. I love thinking about, talking about, debating queerness. And I don’t want to be labeled as anything but queer.
And that only has part of my being a woman who loves women. Some of the queerest people I know are in heterosexual relationships.
To me, queer is about chosing to question dominant paradigms, chosing to question, and fuck with, the status quo. Why are relationships traditionally monogamous, and is that right path for me? For me, queerness is about making intention, conscious decisions about how I live my life.
That is not to say I had much of a choice in being attracted to (primarily) women. But what I do have a choice about is how I express my attraction, and how I chose to make relationships and a life for myself.
I can’t say that the word “queer” means anything to me other than as a way to define “strange”.
I guess I classify people (if I were told that I HAD to classify) as either straight, gay, or bisexual. I hate the whole “I’m bicurious” deal. Being curious about something doesn’t make you one thing or another, right? It just makes you human!
I just don’t see why people have to get so politically correct about stuff – why it’s necessary to define yourself and then to categorize, alphabetize, and file yourself into the right drawer.
Queer is an identity and a multiplicity of identities. It encompasses lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and transsexual and also pansexal, polyamorous, transdrogynous and beyond. Queer is the taking back of a pejorative term and the reclamation of identity. Queer is what you make it.
I just gave a class presentation on queerness tonight! It’s such a complicated word. On one hand, it can be used as an all-encompassing term to kind of lump all sexually (and gender-ly) non-normative people together (even the kinky straight ones). As a personal identity, it expresses my own capability to love and be loved by the entire spectrum of gender/sexual identities. But then, it so often manifests as a sensibility, too–an appreciation for the subversion of heteronormativity, and aligning yourself with society’s most marginal ideas and practices.
Queerness, I think, is one of those complexities that’s sometimes easier to define by what it *isn’t* rather than what it is.
Queer!
Queer is Levels.
Queer is a hallway of mirrors in the funhouse of human nature. More specifically, human sexual dimorphism. Not just sexuality.
Not just gender. Not just social dynamics. It is impossible to talk of “queerness” and get a pin in its back for observation in still life.
Its parts and principles come from the expression through those who take shelter under its umbrella. Queer is a title owned by all
who use and add to it, and while it is more definitely some things and less definitely others, above all, it represents a congress of the blooming
diversity of our sexual spectrum (yet somehow remaining a handy one-syllable word) and a simple label for the people who travel past
suppression, stereotypes, ignorance, canon, and old patterns of thinking— who slough the unhealthy, uncreative habit of segregating
ourselves for our differences, and exchange it for a meal-ticket into the postmodern buffet of “Whatever, Whoever, However” and the
freedom of our own unique appetites. Queerness is playful. It is an ever increasing state of diversity in sexual expression. Queerness is
our choice not to isolate, but instead, to embrace.
Queer breaks the wall and rocks the Casbah. And that’s what it means to me.
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queer = love
Queer is freedom. Queer is living how you choose to live without having to define yourself or your actions. Queer is living without judgment. For me, queer is loving a man despite the fact that, other than him, the idea of sex with a man is almost nauseating. It’s loving someone for their soul, their spirit, their passion rather than for their chromosomal identity.
Queer is a word, with great impact. Queer is odd, out of the mainstream. Queer is a hate word, a weapon against those who are out of the mainstream. Queer is an ownership of freedom, to take a weapon and make a plowshare out of it. Queer is all of us, in one way or another, as queer is human.
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