Sexuality Happens

The middle of this month celebrates my FOURTH year of blogging about sex, sexuality, erotica, gender, identity, nudity, rights, politics, sex toys, silly things, my relationships, sex tips, others’ relationships, and more. Yes, the Sex Blogger Calendar says three- that’s a mistake. It’s been four full years folks.

And what better way to celebrate than with some EPIC giveaways…and I’m talking EPIC. I’ve gotten almost a twenty companies that I’ve worked with over the past four years (or am working with now/in the near future) to donate items for this contest, and from porn to sex toys to accessories, I promise that these prizes are AWESOME!

What can you win?

We start with a gift from HotMoviesForHer.com, a female-run porn site that was the start of my career in the more “adult” industry. What are they offering? TWO 100 minutes packages of porn. That’s a LOT of minutes of porn!

Fascinations, who employes me as their residential sex educator, has been kind enough to offer up a $100 gift card, which is enough to get either a Pure Wand…or a Lelo Siri…or a whole bunch of other awesome sex toys!

Pink and White, whom I love dearly, is offering a Two Month, Level Two memberships to CrashPadSeries.com (I’m on it!) and a Two Months, Level One membership to their new gay boy site, HeavenlySpire.com.

NoFauxxx, the awesome queer porn company run by Courtney Trouble, is putting up a FULL YEAR’s membership to NoFauxxx.com. I’m also on here!

Babeland, one of the first sex positive toys stores and educational places is offering a Mini Morgasm kit — complete with their new book Moregasm, as well as a Fukoku vibrator, a massage candle, Babelicious lube and a Sonic cock ring!

Crystal Delights, creators of those beautiful new crystal plugs (and so to be released wands) is giving me a beautiful Champange crystal butt plug for this!

Good Vibrations, a feminist and sex positive store with shops in CA and MA, and a sex toy website, is donating not one, not two, but THREE rabbit pearl vibrators (made of vinyl)!

NippleCharms.com is offering ONE set off non-piercing needed Nipple Rings, as well as TWO stick on Bindi Charms.

Trannywood Pictures, hot guy on guy porn (with both cis and trans men) is giving away a copy of their BRAND NEW film, Trannywood Gone Wild!

MyPleasure.com is offering up a beautiful vibrator from the Vida line; the Lussuria. It’s supposed to be pretty awesome!

SexToy.com and the lovely Domina Doll are putting together a special giveaway pack for this contest. I have no idea what is inside, but I know it’ll be awesome!

Liberator, the make of amazing sex furniture is thowing a Jaz into the ring. Heck, *I* don’t even have one of these!

More porn from Early to Bed – a rocking feminist sex toy store in Chicago! They’re giving away Special Delivery, a locally made dyke porno…I want to see it!

Also donating a set of rocking Nipple Clamps is the fabulous feminist store Our Enigma in Salem, Oregon!

We’ve got a lovely donation from the Kama Sutra Closet, who is kind enough to provide a Shiri Zinn RED Ceramic dildo to give away! 

Can’t leave out one of my favorite toy makers, the wonderful Vixen Creations. They’ve offered up TWO TOYS! One Caramel Tex and one Purple Johnny. Hurray!

Aloha from Maui Kink, who as graciously given me 3 Toy Bag Guides (Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams, Clips and Clamps by Jack Rinella and Canes and Caning by Janet Hardy) AND 2 x 15ft lengths of Natural Hemp Rope with Shears

This just in: Lelo is putting in a pair of their silky and smooth Etherea Cuffs, from their brand new accessories line!

Another last minute addition! Stockroom, that fabulous kink site, has thrown a pair of cuffs, and a beautiful flogger into the ring!

Another set of awesome items is dontated from Je Joue — a Sasi and a G-Ki! Each of these vibrators is amazing!

Instead of choosing just one winner for all of this, or trying to make packages, etc, I’m going to just use the random number generator to choose a winner for each item. If someone enters a lot in various ways, they may win multiple items. This way, I can pass on the sex-tastic love to as many people as possible! So there could be 20 winners, or even more!

How do you enter? The contest goes through October 31st (11:59pm PDT). There are lots and lots of ways to enter! For each entry, please post a comment below with a link to it (or your twitter name, FB name, FetLife name, etc), as I’ll be using a random generator to choose the winners. If you already follow/friend/fan me, just post below a comment with the name you use. Free shipping is included for  US winners only (obviously a moot point for the porn memberships/minutes) — international shipping must be paid by the winner.

1. MANDATORY: Please comment here with the top three items above that you’d like to win most! (1 Entry)

2. Become an Essin’ Em fan on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/EssinEm. (1 Entry)

3. Comment on my Essin’ Em fan page. (1 entry per day)

4. Follow me on Twitter. (1 entry)

5. Tweet about this contest on twitter — must include my @ name and a link here. (1 entry per day)

6. Friend me on FetLife. (1 entry)

7. Update your status on FetLife with a link to this page. (1 entry per day)

8. Write a blog post about this contest (5 entries, only one per person).

9. Visit the above sponsors’ sites and tell me what your favorite thing that they sell (besides what they’re giving away) is. (1 entry per sponsor, total).

10. Donate to my paypal, buy me something off my amazon wishlist, send me a present, etc (15 entries, and my eternal gratitude).

Contest begins now, so get started, and don’t forget, there are so many ways to enter, so get going!

-Essin’ Em

While spring certainly isn’t sprungy, and fall isn’t quite making its way into the hot and deserty state of Arizona, flowers are always welcome in my life…and that includes orchids! More importantly, that includes the Orchid G vibrator, which is a slim line vibe with an awesome bulb at the end for fantastic G-spot stimulation. And thanks to Babeland, I’m giving one away! Thanks y’all.

How do you enter to win an Orchid G vibe? I need you to help my blog bloom with flowers, because I love them so much.

1st. Be 18+ (which you should be if you’re reading this).

2nd. Know that shipping is free only in the US – other wise, winner must pay.

3rd. Comment below with your favorite flower or flower combo (1 entry)

4th. RT this on twitter and then post here to show you’ve done so(1 entry per day). Example:

@EssinEm’s blog is blooming with her Orchid G giveaway (from @babeland_toys): http://essin-em.com/2010/09/giveaway-an-orchid-g-vibrator/

5th. Post link to here on FB. Comment here that you’ve done so (1 entry per day)

6th. Post link to here on FetLife. Let me know here you’ve done so (1 entry per day).

Deadline: September 21st, 2010, 11:59pm PDT.

And it’s time to bloom!

-Essin’ Em

Ok…so this contest is mostly for the boyz. When I say boy/boi, I mean someone who has a body part that they’d like to use the freaking awesome Tenga Egg on (or a partner for such). On the other hand, it’s been pointed out to me on the Tenga Egg page at Babeland.com (contest sponsor!) that you can even turn the egg inside out and use it on a Hitachi as a fun bumpy cover, so really, it is for anyone and every one.

It’s simple to enter. Just comment and tell me your favorite food/story/word that involves eggs. Think humpy dumpty, eggs benedict, who knows!

Deadline: Friday, August 27th at 11:59PM PDT.

Shipping included for US residents. Must be 18 or over to win. That’s about it for the small print.

Here is a picture of the different individual insides of the Tenga Eggs, whether you use them as male masturbators or Hitachi Magic Wand covers.

And that’s all for now folks. It’s a pretty EGG-citing contest, so comment away!

-Essin’ Em

Hey all!

Good Vibes is letting me giveaway this fabulous Fancy Me Kit, complete with bubble bath, massage oil, massage lotions, a massage candle and more. I mean, as we hit the middle of the summer, who doesn’t need a little help creating sensual relaxation, either by themselves, or with a partner/lover/fuck buddy/friend. Take care of yourself, mind, body and soul, and it all begins with a little pampering of yourself.

How to enter? Two ways!

1) Leave a comment here. Tell me what amazingly delicious fantasy you have around using this kit. Perhaps it’s a day alone in the bath, away from work and kids and all of those distractions. Or maybe, a romantic getaway with your love, and it involved an evening of sensuous pampering. Just leave it here.

2) Post in on twitter. Needs to include a link here, my twitter name (@EssinEm) and the GV twitter name (@GoodVibesSF).  Here is an example:

Win a Fancy Me Kit for relaxation from @EssinEm and @GoodVibesSF. http://essin-em.com/2010/07/giveaway-fmk/ RT to Win!

You can tweet once per day.

All comments and tweets will be entered now through July 20th, at 11:59 PM PST. Winner must be contactable (via email or twitter), and be willing to give their mailing address to Good Vibrations in order to have their item shipped. Must be 18 or over to win (which you SHOULD be if you’re reading this blog).

Ready? Set? Relax!

-Essin’ Em

Jessica Jae by Johari Davis

Welcome to Pleasurists, a round-up of the adult product and sex toy reviews that came out in the last seven days. For updates and information follow our RSS Feed and Twitter.

Did you miss Pleasurists #70? Read it all here. Do you have a review for Pleasurists #72? Be sure to read our submission guidelines and then use our submission form and submit it before Sunday March 21st at 11:59pm PDT.

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Editor’s Pick

• Rascal the Baller by Wilhelmina Wang

Imagine my shock when I got it in the mail and realized it was FUCKING GINORMOUS: this Rascal is a whopping 17.5″ x 2.5″.

Moral of the story: don’t order a toy without carefully checking the specs.

Meanwhile, I was stuck with the damn thing and had to do something with it in order to write a review. The question was, what?

Editor

Scarlet Lotus St. Syr

On to the reviews…

Vibrators

• Cal Exotics Couture Masseur by Kaijah
• Evolved Fleur de Lis Pure by la petite
• Voila by True Pleasures
• We-Vibe II by EffinSara
• Kokeshi Girl Doll by Mistress Kay
• 7 Function Remote Bullet by Sammi
• Remote Vibe Panty by Garnet Joyce
• High Roller by Jon’s Babydoll
• Fukuoku 9000 by Sexorcism
• Bondage Duckie by ThePinkPoppet

Dildos

• Topsy Turvy by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Topco Buster by EffinSara
• Vixen Astrovibe by Epiphora
• Whipspider Rubberworks Jellyfish by Carrie Ann
• Buster by Darling Dove
• Dai-Do #1 by Carrie Ann

Anal Toys

• Flexi Felix by Epiphora
• Cal Exotics Aluminum Mini Plug by EffinSara
• Njoy Pfun by Epiphora

Toys for Cocks

• Tenga Double Hole by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
• Throb Master by The Masturbator

Lube, Massage Oil, Bath Stuff, & etc.

• Kama Sutra Love Essentials Gift Set by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
• Little Genie Delicious Kisses by Rayne
• Wet Together by Wilhelmina Wang
• Touché Ice Vibe Freezable Lube (Vanilla) by True Pleasures
• Touché Ice Vibe Freezable Lube (Chocolate) by True Pleasures
• Touché Ice Vibe Freezable Lube (Mint) by True Pleasures
• Touché Ice Freezable Lube (Orange) by True Pleasures

BDSM/Fetish

• Ruff Doggie Styles Cat Oh Nine Tails by Rayne
• Spartacus Silicone Removable Small Ball Gag by HotMoviesForHer Sex Toy Crew
• Whipper Tickler by Mistress Kay

Adult Books/Games

• Sex Positions 101 by Mistress Kay
• Susie Bright’s “I Dare You” Cards by Dr. Ruthie

Adult Movies & Porn

• Bound by Mistress Kay
• Seven Minutes in Heaven by Essin’ Em
• PrincessKali.com by Bad Bad Girl
• Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Advanced Fellatio by Epiphora
• This Ain’t Saved By the Bell XXX by J.D. Bauchery
• Snake Bondage for Lesbian SM by FrzKey
• Zack Cook Massaged by The Porn Librarian
• Bottoms Up Orgasms by J.D. Bauchery
• Alone with the Enemy by FrzKey

Lingerie

• Erotique SexyFishnet Top with G-String by Sommer Marsden

Storage

• Devine Toy Box by Alley

Miscellaneous

• Clone-A-Willy Kit by Mistress Kay
• Clone-A-Willy Kit by Dani Darling
• Clone-A-Willy Kit by Hubman
• Nipple Chain with Bells by True Pleasures
• Tribal Design Back/Belly Chain with Sapphire Colored Stone by True Pleasures
• Pleasure Me Purse Kit by Jessie Beth
• Kegel 8 Exercise Cones by Joanna Cake

I love sex toys.  It’s not a secret.  I mean, come on, I work at Fascinations. I love toys.

I also love watching how other people use toys.

One of the things I love most is watching how other people interacting with their cocks. Now, when I say this, I mean packing cocks, harnessed cocks, or even using cocks to fuck themselves.  Don’t forget, masturbation is sex too, and is pretty freaking awesome!

I love the word cock. I think it goes so nicely with CUNT. COCK AND CUNT. I could just scream them from the rooftops…and did so at some point in college. Cock to me, like cunt, holds power. And when I see someone strapped on, or pulling a packer out of their jeans, or fucking themselves into oblivion with a silicone cock (yes, I do discriminate against cocks based on material), I just get so turned on. It’s the reclaimation of the cock.

That said, I have nothing against flesh and blood cocks/pensises/dicks, etc.  But the fact that people who are not born with traditional cocks can strap it up, pack it in, or give it to themselves without a second thought of slamming the cocks in a drawer and walking away at the end of the day? That to me is an epic turn on. It’s sexual power that can be turned on or off. I feel instantly more powerful when I have a silicone cock strapped to me, and sucking my partner’s strapped on cock is infinitely hotter and sexier to me than any blow jobs on cisgender men were in the past (and let me tell you, I gave a lot of blow jobs, and I enjoyed them). I like that it provides options; “Oh, well, I can fuck you with my cock, or be fucked in my cunt, or fuck you in the ass, or the cunt, or let you fuck me in the cunt.”  It’s like a choose your own adventure of cock-y goodness!

And that, dear readers, is why, as Q would say, “I lik-a the cock!”

This post is part of the March of Cocks, sponsored by Furry Girl and her latest porn creation, Cocksexual.  I even have a piece up on Cocksexual about Femme Cock. As part of this month o’ cockyness, she’s allowing me to give away a ONE MONTH MEMBERSHIP to Cocksexual. That’s right, you can get pictures and video of some of my favorites (Jiz Lee, Miss Calico, Roxxie, Kimberlee Cline, Syd Blakovich, Bella Vendetta and more!) rocking out with their cocks out.

How to enter?

Comment here. Tell me your cock’s name (silicone, flesh or otherwise), and if it was a superhero, what your cock’s superpower would be.  That’s all. Oh so easy!

Deadline? March 31st 11:59 pm MST.  Make sure to enter before the March of the Cocks marches past!

-Essin’ Em

In case you forgot about it, last week was the end of my glass butt plug contest. I had tons and tons of entries, both at the original post (in comments) and of course, on twitter. Thanks to everyone for entering this one!

The winner of the contest is Aida, who blogs over at Rainbows and Riding Crops and tweets as the Pledgemistress (currently locked, so I’m not linking).

If you didn’t win, SexToy.com has a ton of other awesome glass butt plugs and other rocking sex toys. Make sure you check them out to thank them.

Also, I’ll have another awesome contest in March.  I can’t give it all away yet, but it looks like it’ll involves some awesome porn. And I mean, really, who doesn’t love good porn?

Thanks for entering, and hope to see you back!

-Essin’ Em

Hey all!

It’s been a while since I’ve had a contest on here – my apologies! Luckily for you, SexToy.com has provided a rocking blue glass butt plug for a giveaway.  Now, as we know, I’m not the biggest butt person, but a lot of you have been asking for more anal giveaway prizes, so here you go.  Tristan, this one is in honor of you, oh anal loving goddess!

What is it? If you win, you get this lovely blue glass plug (if you’re out of the states, you must pay shipping):

How can YOU win this very awesome plug (which, by the way, I think looks bigger in person than the picture does)?

Three ways! And yes, that means you can enter THRICE!

1) Tweet this phrase on twitter: “Holy moly! @EssinEm is giving away some butt love. http://essin-em.com/2010/01/glass-plug-contest. RT to enter and win!”

2) Become a fan of me on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/EssinEm, and then invite your friends by posting about the contest on your page, linking to my fan page (hint: you can use the @ trick, or put my fan page URL in it).

3) Leave a comment here about why you want to win a buttastic prize.

And I love you so much, I’ll even through some lube in there as well, so you get going as soon as you get it.

Deadline: Feb 14th, 11:59pm MST.

Three ways to enter, all super easy. Tell your friends, tell your family, tell your lovers.

New to anal? Check out my anal basics post here.

-Essin’ Em

Dear Channukah Faeries - 

I have been a VERY VERY good girl (and naughty too, but only in good ways) this year, and so I think I should really really win something from the FetLife Sit on Santa’s Lap Giveaway. Particularly the Njoy Eleven, but I would be happy with anything. Promise.

That is all,

-Good lil Essin’ Em

(you can enter too if you have a FL account: Click Here!)

Ok, you’ve waited.  I appreciate it much!  You voted – I appreciated that even more, since it was such a hard decision.  And now, without further ago, I present, my blogiversary contest winners:

The winner with the most correct answers is Juicy Justine. She wins prize pack one, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in RED from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A fantasy swing (worth $130!) from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A super fabulous Hitachi Magic Wand from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrosex Deluxe Digital Power Box with Insertable Attachment from Extreme Restraints

Under the Bed Restraints from Babeland

The winner with the most creative answers is Heather_Daisy. Thanks for voting y’all! She wins prize pack two, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in BLACK from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A Bed Bindings restraint kit from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A Goliath Silicone Dildo from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrogasm from Extreme Restraints

A Thigh Harness from Babeland

The winner who won the random number drawing is Garnet Joyce. She wins prize pack three, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in PURPLE from For Your Nymphomation

A Tantus Ryder butt plug from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A bottle of Pjur Aqua water-based lubricant from Vibe Review

An Odyssey Tickler from Babeland.

A USB Charging Lelo Mia Vibrator available from www.GoodVibes.com.

Thank you again to the wonderful sponsors:

SexToy.com, Babeland, VibeReview,ExtremeRestraints, CrashPadSeries.com, GoodVibes.com and of course, the lovely For Your Nymphomation.

And thank YOU for your entries, re-posting, sharing, etc.  What a fun and fabulous contest!  I can’t wait for my next (smaller) contest on the blog — look for something fun and exciting in December..and hopefully, I’ll be around next fall for another blogiversary contest!

-Essin’ Em