What is a Sex Blogger?
Somehow, I am always grouped as a sex blogger…but as many of you have probably noticed, I honestly don’t blog about sex that much. I mean, yes, I do talk about toys sometimes, or how sex is or isn’t affecting my relationship…but I as of the last year or so, I haven’t written/published as much erotica, I haven’t shared very much of my sex life, haven’t posted any nude pictures. There are many many many reasons for each of these decisions, but regardless, these topics are no longer part of my posting.
So am I still a sex blogger? I mean, I’m writing about queer weddings and relationship drama and letters to people throughout my life. Is sex and sexuality a part of it? Oh yes. But I feel like I’ve become more a life style blogger, perhaps a relationships blogger, I don’t even know.
Ergo, my question to you; what defines a sex blogger? Is it sex toy reviews? Is it erotic stories of past times? Is it deep conversation into gender identify and presentation? How does one know if they are or aren’t part of this whole “sex blogger” community?
And with that said…where do I fit?
-Essin’ Em
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Lesbian BDSM Erotica: Call for Submissions
I’m super excited about the call for submission for such an awesome topic of an erotica anthology. I encourage you to consider submitting work, and at the very least, passing on the word. Thanks Sinclair for working on such a great book!
Essin’ Em
Call for Submissions: Lesbian BDSM Erotica Anthology [Title Forthcoming]
To be published by Cleis Press in fall 2011
Editor Sinclair Sexsmith is looking for hot, sexy, well-written stories about kinky sex between queer women, from bondage scenarios to power play to role play to sadism and masochism to sensation play, for a new anthology of lesbian BDSM erotica. Looking for characters with a range of age, race, sexual experience, gender identity and gender expression: butch, femme, genderqueer, gender-non-conforming, dapper, and others will all be considered. Cis women, trans women, and genderqueer characters who identify with the lesbian community are welcome. Stories should have strong literary voice, characters, tension, and rising action. All characters must be over 18, prose only will be considered. For examples of what I am looking for, see Tristan Taormino’s collection Best Lesbian Bondage Erotica.
Deadline: January 1, 2011
How to submit: Send your story in a Times New Roman 12 point black font Word document (.doc) with pages numbered of 1,500 to 5,000 words to lesbianbdsmerotica@gmail.com. Double space the document and indent the first line of each paragraph. US grammar required. If you are using a pseudonym, provide your real name and be clear under which you would like to be published. Include your mailing address and a 50 words or less bio in the third person. Publisher has final approval over the manuscript.
About the editor: Sinclair Sexsmith runs the award-winning personal online writing project Sugarbutch Chronicles: The Gender, and Relationship Adventures of a Kinky Queer Butch Top at sugarbutch.net. With work published in various anthologies, including the Best Lesbian Erotica series, Sometimes She Lets Me: Butch/Femme Erotica, and Visible: A Femmethology volume 2, Mr. Sexsmith also writes columns for online publications and facilitates workshops on sex, gender, and relationships. Find her full portfolio and schedule at http://www.mrsexsmith.com.
No commentsE-Lust #21
Photo courtesy of Evocative Abyss
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Important e[lust] update: e[lust] will be going on hiatus for the holidays. The editions for November and December would both occur around the holidays and I know I’ll be short on both submissions and judges as well as personal time. e[lust] #22 will return in January, with ample advance warning, so please make sure you’re subscribed for updates!
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
D/s Without the D/s? – This is one of those situations in a real time D/s relationship where much of the “fun” aspects of the D/s needs to be stuffed in the closet for a bit. And for us, it’s not a great time to be either a masochist or a sadist. We can deal with that.
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Yes, Jelly Sex Toys Can be Dangerous – Even if a jelly rubber toy says “phthalate-free”, it still can contain toxic chemicals that can cause skin reactions in some people. These toys are still non-porous and can harbor dirt and bacteria because they cannot be sanitized.
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Unfortunately, this edition has no Top Three picks as I didn’t have enough volunteer judges. If you’d like to volunteer to help, visit this page to find out more info and ensure that the Top Three picks continue.
See also: Pleasurists #101 and #100 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
A Modest Proposal: Should Ginger & Cooper Fuck?
Life in spanking after 30: part 2
Erotic Writing
I Still Don’t Know How You Taste
New Erotic Story For The Holidays – Tinsel Temptation
Kink & Fetish
A space to hate and rage and be angry (photo story)
Does liking Helmut Newton equal a fetish?
The Sacred Swinger Holiday: Halloween!
the most amazing night with HIM
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
All Roads Lead to Acceptance… I hope!
Dear boyfriend, I love you. And your cock.
Having Great Goddamned Expectations
If You Google it, I will Answer #9
I Don’t Know If I’ve Ever Been Really Loved By a Hand That’s Touched Me
No commentsE-Lust #20
Photo courtesy of Dangerous Lilly
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #21? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
On Making Sex Last: Cheerleading & Open Relationships - as long as the possession stuff can be fun and consensual, and not interfering with each other’s sovereignty, I think the two—cheerleading and possession—aren’t necessarily mutually exclusive.
Owned – I had almost forgotten that while here, with him, I was HIS plaything. I was OWNED by him. We had discussed this. I knew the rules. I must not forget again.
The sheer indecency of what we are doing – Is he looking for what I’m looking for? Surely so—all men want that, don’t they? A flaming succubus that comes only in the dark to bring unworldly pleasures and leave behind strange lingering dreams that spice their dutiful daytime lives.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Stop Hating on Campus Sex Education – Clearly, there is a need for this education, because if it doesn’t come from sexuality educators, it comes from word of mouth (which can often provide incorrect information), or from the internet, or from trial and error.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
See also: Pleasurists #96 and #97 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Kink & Fetish
My adventure in subbing continues
Sisters unite for the MFW, part 2
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Cunning Linguists Are We: Cunnilingus 101
Crushing Swingerphobia by Hitting the Club
Coming Out & Invisible Illness
Sadie’s Thoughts on Cheating. Confession #507
Three’s Company, Too – Dreaming of the Multi-Relationship Home
Thoughts on bisexuality and visibility
Erotic Writing
Extraordinary Uses for Ordinary Objects
“Enslaved The Story of Jen” Chapter 13
No commentsE-Lust #11
HNT Courtesy of Barefoot Dreamer – Photo by Jon H.
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #19? Start with the rules, check out the schedule and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Off Limits for 30 Days – “You don’t listen very well,” I heard her hiss. “That’s off limits, damn you.” And there was a crack and fiery agony clawed into my back.
The Joy of Sucking Cock – I wonder at times if that is why I am such a “good little cocksucker” as W calls me. When I am deeply into it, I almost enter this place where I am both the sucker and suckee, and it is as though it is MY cock being sucked on.
This intensity gets me riled when I am tied up (photo story) – James picked up that evil strap again. I watched helplessly as he positioned himself to use it on my pussy… Ever so lightly he started. Flick, flick, flick.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Ask Lilly: How do I know if a sex toy has phthalates in it? – The studies going around are saying that phthalate exposure can damage all sorts of organs, and can possibly cause cancer. There are a lot of harmful things in our world these days that we can’t avoid – so when we CAN avoid something like toxins in our sex toys, we should.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Portal. Confession #493 – It truly is a spiritual give and take, these sexual relationships I form. I can cross the threshold and see however much of someone that I choose to see, with whomever it is that I am involved with.
See also: Pleasurists #88 and #89 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
Defying Gravity with Carrie Moon
Is “The Smoking Jacket” a Smoking Gun?
That’s discrimination! -or- Two Words I’m Sick of Hearing
Very Deserved Wrath- Not So New Problems
Kink & Fetish
10 Things I Love About My Slave
THIS is what happens to naughty little redheaded sluts…
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
A Declaration of Independence — From the eXes
Bi The Way – Male Bisexuality and Swinging
Transtastic: On Coming Out as a Political Act
Why Won’t Anyone Respond? — Help for Your Swinger Inbox
Erotic Writing
Get Down, Dirty & Get The Hell Out
No commentsSex Blogger Calendar Days Prizes
So here’s the deal folks.
Buy one day, send me a copy of your confirmation at EssinEm at Gmail Dot Com, and you get a little erotica poem from me to you (custom).
Buy three days, send me a copy of your confirmation (see above), get a custom sexy picture (tell me your favorite body part/colors/etc).
Buy five days, send me a copy of your confirmation (see above), get 2 pictures and a custom piece of erotica written about you.
Buy anymore than that, and I’ll give you all the above, PLUS send you a “prize!” Perhaps lube, perhaps edible body paint, perhaps kegel balls, perhaps a toy…depends on how many days you buy.
To get all of these (or any), just head on over to the Sex Blogger Calendar page and purchase your day(s) — don’t forget, you can buy me days as presents too (I’d love love love that!). Then email me at EssinEm at Gmail dot com with a copy of your confirmation of purchase, and a little bit about you so I know what to write/take pictures of (if you bought more than 5 days, I need your address too!).
Proceedes go to the Woodhull Foundation to support sexual freedom — how can you argue with that?
That’s all – go forth!
-Essin’ Em
No commentsE-Lust #14
photo courtesy of Lila
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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Answers with an Agenda 1- Fisting – Once you’ve gotten started using two fingers for a bit, then it is time to build until four fingers are sliding in and out of the person, and you are on your way.
Gagged – I think it’s got to be a combination… fingers sliding into your cunt, a merciless tease of your clit, and yes, it’s going to have to be, lining my cock up with your ass.
Mine – I feel you stir beneath me as I create a rhythm, your breathing changing growing more shallow as you slip from sleep into arousal. My eyes lift to yours as you smile and try to move your arms and then freeze.
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Puppet Master – When I was right next to them and they still did not notice, I put my lips to his ear (loud music, you know) and whispered “Touch her boobs, I bet she’d like that” and I backed up a foot.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Shaping Some Limits - “If you ever did that to me, I promise you would never see me again”.Those words were spoken to me this past weekend by my pet during one of our overnight dates. The subject was face slapping.
See also: Pleasurists #77 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Kink & Fetish
One Couple’s Journey into Kink, part 2
Please hurt me unbearably, you fucking fucker!
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
How Fear can Lead to Understanding and Trust
Tyler and Holly Give Swing Clubs Another Chance
The Virgin in the Family/Do Not Enter
Erotic Writing
All Dressed Up – The Party ….part 2
Not Tonight Dear, I’ve Got A Headache (Part 2)
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
Eden Fantasys Newbie Help Guide
Workshops and More at the ALCC
No commentsHow Do I Find You Sexy?
A poem for Q.
How do I find you sexy? Let me count that ways…
*When you open the car door for me, and close it after I’ve eased myself into the seat, I find you to be chivalrously sexy.
*When we lie in bed at nice, and you are the big spoon, holding and protecting me, the little spoon, your whole body up against me, skin on skin, I find you to be comfortingly sexy.
*When you make silly faces with me, or quote Glee and How I Met Your Mother, and our eyes connect, and there is that spark, I find you amusingly sexy.
*When you’re fucking me silly, and I look at you, deep in concentration, a bead or two of sweat rolling down your face, I find you earth shatteringly sexy.
*When I’m fucking you, sliding in and you, making you moan and groan and make those noises I love, I find you just fucking sexy.
*When we cuddle afterwards, and we are just a pile of skin and sweat and shakey-ness, I find you handsomely sexy.
*When you talk to our cats although they were our children, I find you fatherly sexy.
*When you are in my life, you make it so much better from making me food to stroking my hair, from keeping the worst issues at bay and celebrating the best. Everytime I see you, my heart jumps just a little bit. I still get those butterflies in my tummy when I see you in a tie, or you kiss my neck. You are, without a doubt, the sexiest person I know, and when I see you, or hear your voice, or get a text from you, I find you sexy. Always.
4 commentsE-Lust #12
Photo courtesy of Emmy
Welcome to e[lust] - Your source for sexual intelligence and inspirations of lust from the smartest & sexiest bloggers! Whether you’re looking for hot steamy smut, thought-provoking opinions or expert information, you’re going to find it here. Want to be included in e[lust] #13? Start with the rules, check out the schedule in the site’s sidebar and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!
~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Flesh – Her mind awash with the thought of fucking. The smell of his scent stirring her cunt, her skin alive and encased by lust.
Putting energy in – Play is energising, at its best; so when both of you are tired, sex or spanking can be a way to get away from it all, rejuvenate your emotional connection and stimulate body and brain with a flood of hormones and endorphines.
A Rude Awakening – In the depths of the night, I half wake to the feel of her cool skin wrapping itself around my back. Soft breasts pushing against my ribs and her groin moulding itself to my buttocks.
~ e[lust] Editress ~
Shouldn’t – It always starts off so inconspicuously. Innocent, like the sort of teasing that might occur now and then between any other pair of friends who share a hint of attraction to each other.
~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Comfort – She’s so strong and yet, when we lie down together, she makes herself small and vulnerable for me. ”Hold me” she says in a tiny voice
See also: Pleasurists #73 and #74 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Erotic Writing
“I want your cock in my mouth”
Monday Morning Flash – “Bathtime”
Kink & Fetish
FetInRealLife #12 – DIY Flogger
New friends and intense, sweaty, loud orgasms
Out with the Old, in with the New
Sluts, Squirts and Swing Clubs
taking her as My girl, discovering the Dom within
“Welcome to SpankingCast, our spanking podcast”
Sex News, Interviews, Politics and Humor
Building Community for Sex-Positive Sexuality Professionals
Soaking — Marinating in the Cunt of Christ
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Ladies, what do your genitals say about you?
Read and you may learn…V-massage
Psychology of Rape Fantasy- An Overview
Top 10 Good Things About A LDR
No commentsE-Lust #11
HNT courtesy of Neptune Blue
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~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~
Sometimes poly IS hard – The difficulties one faces in managing healthy interpersonal relationships, and the skills one employs in overcoming those difficulties, are the same whether you are monogamous or poly or something in between.
Artist and Model – I’m drawing her furiously along with everyone else in the class. I know her name is Janice because a long time ago we’d been acquaintances, then lovers for a night, and then I didn’t see or hear from her again.
His Boots – He’s my fix. I’m his addiction. Maybe we’re just each other’s junkies? I can never tell when i’m close enough to breathe him in I cease to care about anything else.
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~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~
Nerds are NOT this season’s must-have accessory - Being a nerd doesn’t mean you grew up unpopular and tormented, that you have a high-paying job, that you like Star Trek, that you’re socially awkward, that you never exercise, that you run Linux on your computer, that you’re highly educated, that you have low self esteem, or that you have trouble getting dates.
See also: Pleasurists #71 for all your sex toy review needs.
All blogs that have a submission in this edition must re-post this digest from tip-to-toe on their blogs within 7 days. Re-posting the photo is optional and the use of the “read more…” tag is allowable after this point. Thank you, and enjoy!
Kink & Fetish
31 orgasms, and that is just the foreplay
Being a disappointment makes me feel like shit
Sex News, Interviews, Politics & Humor
Another Menage a Trois of Power
porn, like sex work, defies easy generalisations
Thoughts on Owning my Butch Cock (Part 1)
Erotic Writing
I Kissed a Girl…Deuxième Partie
Microfantasy Monday, week 72: the edge
Something Sexy. Confession #354
Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships
Do You Suffer from Opportunistic Boyfriend Syndrome?
Essure to take off the Pressure
Transtastic: On Being Into Queer Women
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