Sexuality Happens

The middle of this month celebrates my FOURTH year of blogging about sex, sexuality, erotica, gender, identity, nudity, rights, politics, sex toys, silly things, my relationships, sex tips, others’ relationships, and more. Yes, the Sex Blogger Calendar says three- that’s a mistake. It’s been four full years folks.

And what better way to celebrate than with some EPIC giveaways…and I’m talking EPIC. I’ve gotten almost a twenty companies that I’ve worked with over the past four years (or am working with now/in the near future) to donate items for this contest, and from porn to sex toys to accessories, I promise that these prizes are AWESOME!

What can you win?

We start with a gift from HotMoviesForHer.com, a female-run porn site that was the start of my career in the more “adult” industry. What are they offering? TWO 100 minutes packages of porn. That’s a LOT of minutes of porn!

Fascinations, who employes me as their residential sex educator, has been kind enough to offer up a $100 gift card, which is enough to get either a Pure Wand…or a Lelo Siri…or a whole bunch of other awesome sex toys!

Pink and White, whom I love dearly, is offering a Two Month, Level Two memberships to CrashPadSeries.com (I’m on it!) and a Two Months, Level One membership to their new gay boy site, HeavenlySpire.com.

NoFauxxx, the awesome queer porn company run by Courtney Trouble, is putting up a FULL YEAR’s membership to NoFauxxx.com. I’m also on here!

Babeland, one of the first sex positive toys stores and educational places is offering a Mini Morgasm kit — complete with their new book Moregasm, as well as a Fukoku vibrator, a massage candle, Babelicious lube and a Sonic cock ring!

Crystal Delights, creators of those beautiful new crystal plugs (and so to be released wands) is giving me a beautiful Champange crystal butt plug for this!

Good Vibrations, a feminist and sex positive store with shops in CA and MA, and a sex toy website, is donating not one, not two, but THREE rabbit pearl vibrators (made of vinyl)!

NippleCharms.com is offering ONE set off non-piercing needed Nipple Rings, as well as TWO stick on Bindi Charms.

Trannywood Pictures, hot guy on guy porn (with both cis and trans men) is giving away a copy of their BRAND NEW film, Trannywood Gone Wild!

MyPleasure.com is offering up a beautiful vibrator from the Vida line; the Lussuria. It’s supposed to be pretty awesome!

SexToy.com and the lovely Domina Doll are putting together a special giveaway pack for this contest. I have no idea what is inside, but I know it’ll be awesome!

Liberator, the make of amazing sex furniture is thowing a Jaz into the ring. Heck, *I* don’t even have one of these!

More porn from Early to Bed – a rocking feminist sex toy store in Chicago! They’re giving away Special Delivery, a locally made dyke porno…I want to see it!

Also donating a set of rocking Nipple Clamps is the fabulous feminist store Our Enigma in Salem, Oregon!

We’ve got a lovely donation from the Kama Sutra Closet, who is kind enough to provide a Shiri Zinn RED Ceramic dildo to give away! 

Can’t leave out one of my favorite toy makers, the wonderful Vixen Creations. They’ve offered up TWO TOYS! One Caramel Tex and one Purple Johnny. Hurray!

Aloha from Maui Kink, who as graciously given me 3 Toy Bag Guides (Playing with Taboo by Mollena Williams, Clips and Clamps by Jack Rinella and Canes and Caning by Janet Hardy) AND 2 x 15ft lengths of Natural Hemp Rope with Shears

This just in: Lelo is putting in a pair of their silky and smooth Etherea Cuffs, from their brand new accessories line!

Another last minute addition! Stockroom, that fabulous kink site, has thrown a pair of cuffs, and a beautiful flogger into the ring!

Another set of awesome items is dontated from Je Joue — a Sasi and a G-Ki! Each of these vibrators is amazing!

Instead of choosing just one winner for all of this, or trying to make packages, etc, I’m going to just use the random number generator to choose a winner for each item. If someone enters a lot in various ways, they may win multiple items. This way, I can pass on the sex-tastic love to as many people as possible! So there could be 20 winners, or even more!

How do you enter? The contest goes through October 31st (11:59pm PDT). There are lots and lots of ways to enter! For each entry, please post a comment below with a link to it (or your twitter name, FB name, FetLife name, etc), as I’ll be using a random generator to choose the winners. If you already follow/friend/fan me, just post below a comment with the name you use. Free shipping is included for  US winners only (obviously a moot point for the porn memberships/minutes) — international shipping must be paid by the winner.

1. MANDATORY: Please comment here with the top three items above that you’d like to win most! (1 Entry)

2. Become an Essin’ Em fan on Facebook at www.Facebook.com/EssinEm. (1 Entry)

3. Comment on my Essin’ Em fan page. (1 entry per day)

4. Follow me on Twitter. (1 entry)

5. Tweet about this contest on twitter — must include my @ name and a link here. (1 entry per day)

6. Friend me on FetLife. (1 entry)

7. Update your status on FetLife with a link to this page. (1 entry per day)

8. Write a blog post about this contest (5 entries, only one per person).

9. Visit the above sponsors’ sites and tell me what your favorite thing that they sell (besides what they’re giving away) is. (1 entry per sponsor, total).

10. Donate to my paypal, buy me something off my amazon wishlist, send me a present, etc (15 entries, and my eternal gratitude).

Contest begins now, so get started, and don’t forget, there are so many ways to enter, so get going!

-Essin’ Em

This week’s review is of something I never thought I’d try, none the less like. It’s from Babeland (thanks for the free product yo!) and it’s a stimulation gel. You know, the stuff you put on your bits (usually your clip/labia, although it can be used externally as well) to give them a bit more of that tingling senstation.

What is it? It is Sliquid Organics Stimulation O Gel. That’s a mouthful, I know!

To be honest, I never thought I would ask for something like this.  Once, Arkadia send me some of their “arousal gels” and I tried it out. It didn’t work as planned, and I actually wrote a post about using it all kinky like, in D/s play. However, definitely not its intended use, and clearly, it wasn’t something I needed. Until the beginning of this year, I never had an issue being horny, sexual, aroused, you name it. Think teenage boy hiting hormones, and multiply it.

However, starting about January, my sex drive started to zero out. I was depressed, broke, and then I had a cervical cancer scare. I did not feel sex or sexual, and I didn’t let myself or Q touch me (although I did try to make sure I was still fucking Q fairly regularly) for at least a month, and then maybe once a month since then. It’s been frustrating me to no end; porn doesn’t turn me on as much as it used to, and my poor Hitachi was being under used, and looked all lonely.

So when this came up as a review option, I figured why not. I was desperate. It’s 100% vegan, it’s natural (although not condom compatible — it contains at least two types of oils), and I like a lot of the Sliquid products.

This gel has changed my sex life. Period.  When I use it, I actually stop whatever else is going on in my brain, and concentrate on the fabulous feelings on and around my clit. In the past week, I’ve used it 3 times, and have had sex (if you count masturbating, which I do, especially since I haven’t done it much at all lately) 3 times. Pretty good odds.

Now, I don’t think it’ll work for everyone. A year ago, I probably would have turned up my nose at this. However, if you are looking for a little extra boost, a little tingle, an extra dimension to your sex life, or something to get you out of your sexual funk, I’d suggest this. I almost didn’t try it, and am so glad (and am sure Q feels the same way) that I did.

I love this stuff — to get your own bottle, just click here!

-Essin’ Em

So as some of your may remember, last year at Sex 2.0 in DC, I shot for GoodDykePorn.com with the lovely Sabrina Morgan. In the last year plus, I’ve decided to work more on shooting actively from behind the camera, more as a videographer and/or director. This May, I participated in Shine Louise Houston’s Point of Contact project, and then back in June, I was lucky enough to get to shoot a local butch/femme identified couple for Good Dyke Porn.

May I introduce the hot and sexy Dylan Starr and Dani Starr, a real life queer couple based in AZ? They had a fun shoot, with a little bit a fantasy, a little bit of kink, and a whole hell of a lot of steamy sex; oral, anal, toys, kissing, and much more. I loved getting to shoot them; I hope you enjoy watching them just as much!

Click here to see their shoot (and a ton of others) on GDP!

There have been a fuck ton of posts this week about what’s currently going on, and has been going on for years at Eden Fantasys. They are written by bloggers, reviewers, educators and former employees. More keep popping up. Who’s writing these?

AAG

Ask Garnet

That Toy Chick

Sarah Sloane

Sarah Bear

Epiphora

Brit Is Shameless

And others. I, of course, wrote one solitary post on them back in 2008, and then was accused of libel and slander, despite what I feel was a fairly upbeat ending. When that happened, AAG and That Toy Chick and I seemed to be alone in our plight, supported by a few others (including those associated with the sex blogger calendar, and whose info was leaked), and I was ridiculed via email for caring that a company that wanted to re-sell generic Chinese sex toys as brand name, who was angry at me for having a blog outside of work (which I had before I started), for taking a friend/victim of domestic violence to the ER, you name it. I was told I was being silly.

And now, it has all surfaced again.  EF has banned, with seemingly little reason, one of their top reviewers/forum participants from everything.

I’ll put out this: I do not know Epiphora. I respect her as a reviewer, and a blogger.  However, we haven’t ever chatted much, I don’t always read her site, and while I know of her and about her, I wouldn’t consider her a friend. This post is not written in anger of her banning (although I strongly feel she deserves to know exactly why, and aruge for reinstatement if she’d like, and at least her affiliate money), but more so, this post is  just reminding people of this history behind this company of silencing and screwing over members of OUR sex-positive and OUR blogging community.

A list?

Let’s see. AAG had to take them to court to try and get the remainder of her pay which they denied her, and then they screwed her over by sending an expensive lawyer to the midwest to try and prove that she had to sue the company rather than the owner, and do it in NJ. I promise that cost them a lot more than the $1200 they owed her, but they did it. AAG STILL hasn’t gotten her last 2 weeks of pay.

They tried to get out of paying me hundreds in affiliate money, claiming they had shut my account months earlier. When I sent them screen shots taken that day of my open account with money in it, they had their current affiliate manager sending me a strongly worded hurtful letter, accusing me of slander and libel.  Everything I said could be backed up by other employees, and I told them this. I got paid.

The Cock Wrangler, who was my replacement, was screwed over by them.  He’ll be putting up a post on AAG’s blog shortly.

That Toy Chick had to get multiple people involved to get her back pay. A woman from the government helping out TTC recused herself from TTC’s case because the owner (Fred Petrenko) was so vile and misogynistic to her.

Sarah Sloane left her full time position. I don’t know why, but I know Sarah and I know she is very dedicated to any job she does, so I’m going to assume (not say, but assume) that she fell victim to Fred’s common “I say one thing, in writing, and you do it, and I change my mind, and get angry at you” ploy, or to the “I’m not going to pay you what you’ve earned” schtick, or something else equally frustrating that many (not all, but many) EF employees have to put up with at some point..

Matthew, so I hear, needed to take emergency time for family. I’m not sure of the details, nor will I share them if I hear them. It doesn’t matter – family emergencies fall in the same category as domestic violence emergencies in my mind.  He was fired, just as I was yelled at for taking my friend to the ER and to file a police report (having told the boss I was doing so).

Delilah Douglas was there before I was — she hired me to help her out. She was “let go” randomly one day, about 4 months after I started. Why? Because he thought I was doing a better job and she was being “lazy” by fact checking and editing reviews, articles, etc.

That’s a lot of people who actually worked for them, aside from reviewers, members, etc.

I worked there for 1.5 years. I took my work home with me, and put in multiple extra hours on the weekends, I promoted it everywhere, I used my blog status to get other bloggers involved. I gave my heart to EF. I was instrumental in creating the profiles online, the online forums, the ability to be ranked, the have vrooms and bees, to learn about materials.  I wanted EF to be the best.

And it is the best site out there as far as functionality. I would never argue that point. Their custom made platform (made by web designers back in Moldova, at least while I was there) is rivaled by none. Fred’s son used to take the pictures, do the video, etc. I don’t know if he still does. Fred’s partner/girlfriend at the time used to be the head buyer, as well as run much of customer service, etc.  I don’t know if she still does. Keeping it in the family, and using cheaper out of county labor makes it much easier and cheaper to create an amazing site.  Giving people raises, and then taking it away a month or two later due to the “economy” (which happened to me and TTC, way before the recession), makes it cheaper. Adding things to job descriptions does the same. I was hired on as a review editor, and left as the PR Liason/Review Program Manager/Affiliate Manager/Community Outreach Educator…with no change in pay.

So no. There are no other sites that rival EF’s forums and searchability and materials listings.  Many don’t offer as high payouts on affiliate programs (although Fascinations just launched their affiliate program last week with 30% payout at GoFunLove.com and GoodVibes offers 25% for brand ambassadors with exclusivity). But other programs treat their staff well.

Babeland is known for doing so. Good Vibes is known for doing so. Smitten Kitten is known for doing so. Early to Bed, Tool Shed, Oh My, Enigma, Sugar, etc — they all have positive employee history. Heck, most of my Fascinations co-workers have been working for the company for between 4 years and 15 years.  At EF, very few non “in the family” people were there more than 9 months or a year.  What does that say?

There has been comment drama on other sites about phthalates. Lots of sites sell jelly toys. That is no what this is about.  This is about a company that treats their employees well, that treats the community well.

Not only did he blatantly outright lie in 2008 about never having had google docs (which I know multiple former employees will attest to), but then he said this, in the forums:

“I can tell you that there are far more efficient ways to spend an advertising budget than via community support. You might be surprised by how insignificant the business generated by affiliate deals with sex blogs actually is.”

He doesn’t care about the sex blog community.  I was used to bring in bloggers on board because I could and because it helped get him traffic. AAG was the same way. Then they realized they could bring in big name bloggers by wooing them (see AAG’s post above) and get them to bring in other community members for free, without having to actually pay someone. How many people promote EF/Eden Cafe/Sexis on their blogs, on twitter, on facebook, as they are writing for them, or trying to win a toy, etc? Tons. For free.

Now all sites have similar review programs, contests, etc. It’s the age of social media. But how many sites also say publicly that they don’t care about the community, don’t need the community, lie about members of the community, block reviewers/forum posters without any information, etc.

Just take a second, and think about how many complaints you’ve heard about Babeland and their treatment of the community. How many have times have you heard something negative about Good Vibes and their community relationships? Have you ever heard of these places blantantly fucking over members of the community? I haven’t.

Yet there are countless people who have been mistreated by EdenFantasys, and those are only the vocal ones. The ones with blogs, the ones willing to stand up.  I’m sorry, but what does that say about a company?

I don’t shop at Walmart. Why? Because people spoke up about their mistreatment of employees, and I don’t support that. I try to shop local or at least regional whenever I can, because I can enquire as to how people are being treated. I no longer trust any claims that Walmart might try to make, because they’ve been proven to screw people over…over and over again.

I don’t shop at Eden Fantasys. Why? Because people (myself included) spoke up about the mistreatment of employees, and I don’t support that. I try to shop smaller sex toy stores/sites, where I can enquire as to how people are treated. I no longer trust any claims that EdenFantasys might try to make, because they have been show to screw over people, members of my community none the less, over and over again.

I am not telling you what to do. I’m just giving my opinion. I don’t judge those who shop at Walmart, and I don’t judge those who shop at EF. Just educate yourself first.

-Essin’ Em

One of my favorite sex educators, the lovely Tristan Taormino, has just published another fabulous book.  Now, I hold her book Opening Up on various types of relationships (both non-monogamous and monogamous) to be the best in the field, and her book Down and Dirty Sex secrets is one of my favs.  I’m happy to say that her newest book, the Big Book of Sex Toys, does NOT disappoint, and I think is absolutely stunning.

In the past, there have been one or two other books on sex toys. However, the sex toy field has definitely evolved and changed drastically in the last decade, and we needed new material.  Moreover, we needed from someone who knows toys, loves toys, works with and is around toys on a regular basis. Thanks Tristan for stepping up to the plate.

This book talks about toys as a whole, breaking down categories, talking about materials, going from the broad to the specific, covering everything. I didn’t see as much as I would have liked on either kegels/sex toys for kegels, or on sex toys that are great for disabilities, but other than that, I was incredibly impressed by the amount of both breadth and depth of this book.  Tristan really knows her stuff (and knows how to research) and it shows.

My one issue with the book is that while there are absoultely stunning color pictures throughout, with close ups of the toys (although some pictures are used multiple times), and while these pictures contain some racial diveristy, there is certainly no gender or orientation diversity, none the less size and ability diversity.  However, I don’t fault Tristan for this; I know that certain publishers like certain looks for their books, and sometimes go over the author’s head regarding the photography.  Sad, yes, but it happens.

That said, this is an amazing reference book, and while I think anyone would do well to have it, I would specifically and emphatically recommend it to  sex bloggers/sex toy reviews, sex therapist/counselors, sex educators, and anyone who works with people in the field of sexuality. It’s important to know about toys, about materials, and the back of the book has an excellent reference guide pointing out great sex toy stores, sex toy companies, and much.

I give this book 4.5 stars (out of 5). It loses half a star for a combo of the lack of diversity/little bits of missing info I’d like, but I HIGHLY recommend this book, and will definitely be giving it as a present to many of my friends in the future.  Hats of to Tristan for yet another great book!

Click here to get your own copy of the Big Book of Sex Toys!

-Essin’ Em

Do you live in the Phoenix area? If so, what are you up to tonight?

Why:

Tonight, I, along with representatives from Wet, Tantus and Fun Factory, will be running the open house at the Fascinations in Tempe, AZ. Come chat with me, talk toys, ask sex/uality questions, meet our new vulva puppet (oh yes, she talks!), and much more.

Where:

838 W. Elliot 
Tempe, AZ 85284
Ph: 480-222-0040 

When: 

6pm-8pm

How:

No reservations needed, and no cost. Just show up, learn more about lubes and toys, and talk with a sex educator.

Who:

Me, of course (www.ShannaKatz.com), and reps from many of your favorite toy companies. It should be fun, informations, and hopefully everyone will get something interesting out of it.

Want more info on Fascinations? Visit www.FunLove.com, or check out the Fascinations Fun Love Blog.

Our friends had just left, after we all watched Q’s team, the Jets, get their Superbowl hopes crushed.  I’d been telling them both about the Crash Pad Series, and it was still up on the screen.

“Wanna watch some porn” Q asked me, her hand on my knee.

“I thought you didn’t like porn…” I asked her questioningly.  She’d grudgingly sit through much of the porn I’d watch, but has never seen me in anything I’ve shot, and never seemed interested in purposely watching porn.

“I know, but YOU do. It turns YOU on.  So why don’t you show me some of your favorite scenes?”

After a moment of pondering as to what her plan was behind this sudden change of heart, I logged in and started clicking through. I knew which scene I wanted to show her; Dylan Ryan and Trucker Cash’s second scene shot for CPS – in the new location, on the edge of the bed.  Q and I have a very similar dynamic to these two, or at least to the way they play things out during their scenes. Moreover, I still find this scene one of the hottest queer porn scenes I’ve ever seen…and I’ve seen a lot. They have connection, they have fucking hot sex, they have everything.

I started the scene, and Q and I lazily draped limbs over each other on the couch as the scene started playing out.  Almost immediately, I started getting more and more turned on, and as Q’s hands began to wander, I thought she was feeling the same.

As usual, I was right. We only made it about halfway through the scene before Q was slamming my laptop shut and pulling me towards the bedroom. Usually, she likes it when I top her, make her call me Mistress, tie her up. Not today. Her lips pressed into mine as she forced me down onto the edge of the bed, perching on the edge as we devoured each other, her hands ripping off my clothes with no attempt at sensuality or romance. None was needed.

Once I was complete stripped, clothes scattered on the floor, she used her hand on my throat to press me back into the bed, the other hand grasping and pulling my nipples. I started to protest, asking if she didn’t want me on the bed, didn’t want me to take her clothes off, etc. She shhed me, and started moving her head lower.

Her lips met mine, and without meaning to, my body bucked up into her mouth. Her tongue danced across my clit; lightly at first to tease, and then with enough pressure to really frustrate me. She knows I love oral but can’t come from it, so she stayed there, on her knees, eating me out as I thrashed about on the bed, so horny, so frustrated, wanting more and not getting it. With one hand wrapped in her hair, pulling her closer into me, the other grabbed the sheets off the bed, reaching, needing to be holding something.

She pumped lube into her hand, and as she slid two fingers into me, she pulled me up to kiss her. It was a deep, wild, completely uncontrolled kiss, with me gasping; both for air, and because her digits were slowly turning my cunt intro a dripping puddle.  It took everything in me to get out the solitary word; towel.

Quizzically, she looked at me until the little lightbulb when off in her head.  Frantically, one hand still partially inside me, she looked around for a towel to stick under me, knowing that as soon as she really started fucking me, a torrent of liquid was going to start squirting from me.  

Having found one, she placed it hastily under my ass, and returned to her knees, this time putting another finger in me, bringing the grand total to three. Three fingers that she worked in and out and in and out of me until I began to come. So hard. Over and over. Then a fourth.  Her whole hand, aside from her thumb, was pounding into me as she ripped orgasm after orgasm after orgasm out of me, grunts, moans, groans and screams coming from my mouth like some possessed primal being. Finally, just when I thought I couldn’t take anymore, she handed me the Hitachi. 

Again, I came. And came. And came. I felt like I’d fallen off the edge of the earth and was drowning in the atmosphere, unable to breathe or move or stop coming.

Then she brought me down again. Climbed up on the bed to hold me. Reminded me how crucial breathing was to living.  At some point, with her next to me, I returned to Earth, smiling, but oh so high, doped up on endorphins.

And then. as she ran her fingers over my body. I shivered. Just a little, but she caught it.

“What do you want? You want more? You can take more?”

I nodded just a little. “I might need a little bit. To calm down, to get water, I don’t know.”

Without another word, she was back on her knees, her whole hand in me, fucking me again. I came again, and lost all grip on reality. For the next few minutes, I couldn’t think speak act know be. I just was. I was coming and coming until I didn’t think there was anything left in me, and then I’d come again. I remember the Hitachi being back in my hands at some point. I know I must have been screaming really loudly, because I remember he hand over my mouth, much hotter and much less effective than any gag would ever be.

And then I shattered, and fell into pieces. There was no more, nothing left in me.

And she picked me back up, and cuddled me on the bed, stroking my hair, moving me out of the epic puddle I’d created, despite the towel. She kissed me gently, helped me drink some water to sooth my aching throat, and together, we lay there, reconnecting.

Who would have thought a little porn could have inspired so much?

Re-posted from Good Vibrations Magazine

If you’ve been following pretty much any conversation on sex toys, you’ve probably heard about phthalates in toys, how they can be dangerous (or at least allergy causing), and how there are all sorts of awesome and amazing materials that are in fact phthalate-free.

Good on you. You’ve chosen to take charge of this part of your sexual health and pleasure, and you’ve bought a toy made of high quality plastic, steel, aluminum, silicone, ceramic, glass, wood, marble, granite, or another phthalate free material.  It probably cost slightly more than the cheap jelly toys we have all grown accustomed to buying, but you know it’ll be worth it.

But what happens when you want to clean this toy? Or just as importantly, when you want to share it with a new partner (or multiple new partners)? Most people can’t afford to buy new toys for each new lovers, but our Health Education teachers never taught us how to clean and how to sterilize our sex toys.

Cleaning them is easy. If you’re just wanting to clean the toy for use with yourself, or a fluid bound* partner, you can wash pretty much all sex toys with water and anti-bacterial soap.  The soap part is important, even if it’s just for yourself, or with a fluid bound partner. Why? Bacteria grows in your body and its fluids, and everyone has different bacteria. You even have different bacteria day-to-day. If you have a yeast infection, and don’t properly wash your toy, you can give it to your partner, or even give it back to yourself. 

After washing them, you can either air dry them, or try them with a towel (this may leave some lint on your toy, so you might want to rinse your toys off before using them). Remember not to put your toys into closed spaces while wet, especially not ziplock bags – this can cause mold to grow, and that is just gross.

Now, if you’ve made it through kindergarten, you’ve learned that sharing is caring.  If you are caring enough to share your toys, please make sure you’ve sterilized them first for any non fluid bound partners.

How, you may ask, do you sterilize toys?  Not all toys can be sterilized.  Jelly, plastic, acrylic and stone toys can NOT be sterilized. If you choose to share them, use a condom/glove to cover them.  Wood is debatable – I personally don’t share my wood toys, because I think it’s slightly porous despite the coating, but others will disagree with me.  Silicone, steel, aluminum, glass and ceramic are 100% sterilizable.

There are three ways to sterilize your toys.  Number one; wipe them down with a 10% bleach solution (mix bleach to water 1:10), then rinse them off before drying.  This is especially great for silicone vibrators, such as the Gigi and the Lily. Number two; boil your toys in plain ol’ water for three minutes.  I particularly like this for silicone dildos, as I can boil them all at once, like a stew of pretty colored cocks. You can use this method for any non-vibrating toys, including glass. Number three; this requires having a dishwasher. If you happen to have one, you can put all your sex toys on the top shelf, and run it with no soap/detergent.  In order to not waste water, I save them all up and run them at once, often with vases, and other dusty items.

As far as storing them, it’s always good to keep them away from dust (and in my case, epic amounts of cat hair).  You can put them in plastic bags, wrap them in non-linty fabric, or even invest in a sex toy storage case.

And that, dear readers, is the best way to take care of your toys, while sharing them with those you love and/or lust after.

*Fluid Bound means having made the decision with your partner(s) that you have both/all been tested for STIs, and feel comfortable sharing fluids with each other with using barriers (condom/dam/glove). Fluid bound partners can be non-monogamous, but generally choose to use barrier methods with their other partners.

 “Sex 411: The Sex Ed You Never Learned in School” is about educating people on all types of sex and sexuality…not just preventing pregnancy and STIs. For information on discussions, workshops, sex coaching, play parties, body-healthy sex toy parties and more, please visit www.ShannaKatz.com.

Photo Credit: Charm City Cakes

So Q and I have been really nerdy as of late (or as of always), which, among other things, entails watching Food Network. This includes a lot of Ace of Cakes, about Charm City Cakes in Baltimore.

They make all sorts of amazing cakes, and have all sorts of delicious flavors.  

After watching them make amazing cake after amazing cake (and harboring a mega crush on Elena), we were discussing what kind of cake we’d get. Now, there are too many awesome ideas out there, so I decided to come up with a pervy cake I wanted.

My pervy cake from CCC would be made of either chocolate raspberry or pumpkin chocolate chip cake-yness.

For a while, I was leaning towards a leopard print corset, with boob-age just pouring out of it.  Then, I put in more thought to it.

It would have a base of a black Liberator Scoop.  Then, on top would be a Hitachi Magic Wand (duh), and one shiny Njoy Eleven, and a sexy pair of restraints.  And maybe some glitter. Cause I like sparkly things.

Sheesh. All this thinking about cake, I need to get one soon, since my birthday is next week. Maybe I’ll just get some cupcakes. Mmm.

If YOU were going to get a pervy cake, what flavor would it be, and what would it look like?

-Essin’ Em

Ok, you’ve waited.  I appreciate it much!  You voted – I appreciated that even more, since it was such a hard decision.  And now, without further ago, I present, my blogiversary contest winners:

The winner with the most correct answers is Juicy Justine. She wins prize pack one, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in RED from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A fantasy swing (worth $130!) from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A super fabulous Hitachi Magic Wand from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrosex Deluxe Digital Power Box with Insertable Attachment from Extreme Restraints

Under the Bed Restraints from Babeland

The winner with the most creative answers is Heather_Daisy. Thanks for voting y’all! She wins prize pack two, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in BLACK from For Your Nymphomation

A two month long, level 2 CrashPadSeries.com membership from Pink and White

A Bed Bindings restraint kit from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A Goliath Silicone Dildo from Vibe Review

A Zeus Electrogasm from Extreme Restraints

A Thigh Harness from Babeland

The winner who won the random number drawing is Garnet Joyce. She wins prize pack three, which includes:

A FYN Foot long case in PURPLE from For Your Nymphomation

A Tantus Ryder butt plug from SexToy.com (winner will need to pay shipping)

A bottle of Pjur Aqua water-based lubricant from Vibe Review

An Odyssey Tickler from Babeland.

A USB Charging Lelo Mia Vibrator available from www.GoodVibes.com.

Thank you again to the wonderful sponsors:

SexToy.com, Babeland, VibeReview,ExtremeRestraints, CrashPadSeries.com, GoodVibes.com and of course, the lovely For Your Nymphomation.

And thank YOU for your entries, re-posting, sharing, etc.  What a fun and fabulous contest!  I can’t wait for my next (smaller) contest on the blog — look for something fun and exciting in December..and hopefully, I’ll be around next fall for another blogiversary contest!

-Essin’ Em